i moved to another state a few weeks after meeting my ex. we were together for a year and a half. i dont regret the decision. at least now i know that i can do it on my own and not have to rely on my family or run home when things get tough.

i have since then gone to 2 different states-4 hours and 7 hours away- to meet someone. one turned out to be a jerk, and the other is a wonderful man with a great heart. we just dont think we are compatible....but still really good friends!!

life is about taking chances. if you never do, you just might lose out on the ONE for you. they dont always live in the same city.

That's a lot of packing! I commend you but wow, that's a lot

Make sure your wallet can back up your heart..
and ultimately someone will have to move. Best to discuss upfront.

yup I agree. If you dont take a chance, he will move on to someone else. Take the chance

If he moves onto someone else then how much did he really care?I can't see taking a chance at moving a child and losing a good job. Maybe I'm not a romantic or have just been single too long.... I've had people offer marriage, take care of me, etc. I just couldn't take that chance with my sons happiness and what he might think of me if I were wrong...

I agree, if there are kids involved you cant uproot them. THe impact to them on that is devistating. I met someone from western new york and she is incredible and we stay in touch, could easily see us being together. Just not going to happen though because of my child and her career....

I moved my kids to Oklahoma from Kentucky for a chance at a relationship. Whether it worked out or not I knew I would stay in Oklahoma. My children are grown now and have told me they are happy we moved here.

It's not where you live. I was raised in the military and we moved many times. I think I am no worse for the wear.

Here's what scares me.. We've been married, it didn't work and "how long was that?!".. Most of us have probably been in long term relationships and those didn't work... So to meet someone online and start dating for a few months to a year and to take a chance, well I can't see it.. Not even with the OMG factor which I've had... I have a career, my family is here, my son absolutely loves where we live how can I change all that for him without guarantees and there are NEVER guarantees... Now when he's grown and "finally" decides to move out on his own, then I can do whatever I want and be as spontaneous as I feel.. Although, the career and independence will still be an issue.. LOL Can we say Type A

But you knew you'd stay no matter what, it's what you wanted.. And if that's the case I agree.. I'm thinking only Hawaii is going to make me reconsider... LOL

take the advice! she's right