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Yes, I am wondering why a small percentage of men do not have a photo
posted. I wasn't able to post a photo until just recently, but, how does anyone really expect to get to know someone or expect to attract someone compatible, if they only include a few words,or sentences, most of them spelled wrong, and grammar completely incorrect, and no photo. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.. Unless you are really spoiled or a trust fund baby, what do you usually get when you give nothing? You get nothing... So, if you want someone to be your friend or more, try putting more into your profile and post a recently taken full -length photo. |
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I strongly agree on the amount of content I am finding in the profiles of people(women on my part). I know I tried to express who I am in the content of my profile. But the picture thing is a different issue. Like you said you did not have one till rescently. I am working on getting one made to post for a few reasons that have been brought up in other threads on this topic I do not have a photo that I can post, YET. |
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the photo thing has already been discussed to death. In before a
million more dudes without photos explain that they don't want people to judge them on that, but on their personality, lol |
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I agree that it may be short profiles and no pics will probably have a
major impact on people responding or sending the initial message. With that said I have a question for you. What is some one like myself to do since i don't like to brag or even write about my self because i just don't know what to say? But some times i do know what to say i just don't know how to say it. Aside from that if i were to tell alot of details i highly dought that anyone belive it any way, and if they did they would think the wrong thing about me, because of stereo typing. I would like to hear your thoughts as well as anyone else who would care to share their opion on this matter. If you need more details on this matter send me a message, asking what ever it is you need, I'm happy to answer any questions that you have. Thank you and have a great day |
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Umm, I think I said this in another thread:
this is the internet so you have to consider the medium. People without pictures are simply not going to get the same responses since the internet is a visually based environment. People are going to associate your comments with your photo, whether they want to or not. Because of that, if you choose not to have ANY picture then you are going to be lumped into the same grouping as ALL the people w/o pics. My suggestion to those people is to simply choose a photo of something they enjoy like a car or something so people have a visual cue to separate them from everyone else. |
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Hmmm,
Maybe people are entering this medium for the first time, maybe they aren't completely set on committing in this environment. There are many resons I am sure, so why push, why make it an issue? If people don't provide a picture that's their business. If the site was 100% certain that pictures are a "must be posted", they would have made it a requirment. Right now they don't, so let it go, let us non-providers suffer and never hook as you claim, but whatever you do, let us do it our way, live as we see fit. Grow up already. |
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i think everyone should have a photo
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In regards to mitchdamuscles' comments. I feel that we can speak of
ourselves without bragging. In regards to someone else's comments, I am very new to this website, and even newer to the community forum, so I have not read anything about this particular topic. Please consider the fact that not everyone has been online in this "just say hi" website,& in the community forum for as long as you or someone else has. Back to Mitch and his Muscles: If we are worried and affected by all the things that people MIGHT think about what we say or don't say, do or don't do, no one would say or do anything. :-) And if a person has trouble expressing him or herself, or doesn't want to talk to others, or is just shy, then I really don't know what to suggest. People have to make an effort if they want to meet others. And the more complex a person is, the more there is to say. If you don't want to leave an element of doubt, then a person needs to learn to be able to express themselves in such a way as to remove all doubt, or hopefully, at least most of it. There is a saying though, "You can't please all of the people all of the time". We might be able to please some of the people, some of the time. But, truly, I personally am not here to win a popularity contest with all of the people online. If I make some good friends, that would be really awesome. However, the main reason I am here, is to find that one good man who is custom-crafted just for me, as I am for him. I know he's out there somewhere, I'm just not sure where... Rapunzel's hair doesn't flow all the way down to the very base of the tower, so my white knight is going to have to get very innovative in climbing the tower :-) and my sweet voice doesn't emanate over all the hills and far away (like the song by Led Zeppelin) ...so I am using more modern high tech means of communication in the hopes of getting and keeping the attention of my fine, rugged "Forever Man". In case he might be on this or another website. There are always going to be pro's and con's with everything that happens and with everything that is said. I think that if people decide that they want to communicate with words, and photos to get to know other people, then they need to sharpen their communication skills, especially with words, and people...please be realistic with yourselves and with others. No one is or ever will be perfect, except the Lord. Since we are not perfect, we shouldn't expect that in others. If you let yourself go and don't keep yourself fit, then don't expect to find someone who does take pride in who they are and how they look. It doesn't work that way. I ride a bike, 10-15 miles a day sometimes, for instance. If the only exercise you get, is to walk from the car to the grocery store, and back to your car.... Or from the refrigerator to the couch and back, during commercials, then, don't expect to find an athletic person who is going to want to be with a motivationless couch potato.... No offense meant, but it is the truth..And sometimes the truth hurts...It's better to face it than be in denial.... |
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To Geo with no picture....You say....Grow up?
Who are you talking to, when you make that comment? Do you tell everyone who has an opinion other than yours to "grow up" ? And what makes you think you are an authority on anything?.... sounds like you have a serious attitude problem, dude. |
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Rapunzel,
If you had read all of the comments, some that are associated with the same question/comments in other forums here, maybe you wouldn't have replied in such a way. I never claimed to be an authority on anything. I just made the comment that people should be allowed to persue or not persue in any way they feel they want to. Calling people idiots and lazy, or fat and ugly because they do not post a picture is absurd. |
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YOU KNOW WHAT SHE SOUNDS LIKE HERE....A MIMIC OF EVERY COSM LADIES HOME
JOURNAL, TV MOVIE ETC., ETC., ETC., SHE Has EVER READ AND every TV PROGRAM SHE HAS EVER WATCHED. JUST A SPEW OF RECORDINGS OF TRIVIA, SAYINGS, QUOTES, ETC., ETC., AND SEEMS TO FEEL SHE IS ALWAYS A VICTIM AND SHE SCREAMS ABOUT EVERYONE SHE DOESNT AGREE WITH THAT IS A MALE...SORRY..ITS JUST MY OPINION . AND THE FACT SHE CANT TAKE A JOKE OR TEASE OR PRANK OR PRODING AND THEN TO CONTINUE TO HARASS ONE IN FURTHER EMAILS LONG AFTER THE ORIGINAL DISCUSSION/DISAGREEMENT (WHICH SHE SAYS BELOW IT IS GOOD TO HAVE ONES OWN OPINION.... BUT WITH OUT BEING CALLED AND REBUKED WITH NAME CALLING WOULD BE NICE) ............................... ............................................................. In regards to mitchdamuscles' comments. I feel that we can speak of ourselves without bragging. In regards to someone else's comments, I am very new to this website, and even newer to the community forum, so I have not read anything about this particular topic. Please consider the fact that not everyone has been online in this "just say hi" website,& in the community forum for as long as you or someone else has. Back to Mitch and his Muscles: If we are worried and affected by all the things that people MIGHT think about what we say or don't say, do or don't do, no one would say or do anything. :-) And if a person has trouble expressing him or herself, or doesn't want to talk to others, or is just shy, then I really don't know what to suggest. People have to make an effort if they want to meet others. And the more complex a person is, the more there is to say. If you don't want to leave an element of doubt, then a person needs to learn to be able to express themselves in such a way as to remove all doubt, or hopefully, at least most of it. There is a saying though, "You can't please all of the people all of the time". We might be able to please some of the people, some of the time. But, truly, I personally am not here to win a popularity contest with all of the people online. If I make some good friends, that would be really awesome. However, the main reason I am here, is to find that one good man who is custom-crafted just for me, as I am for him. I know he's out there somewhere, I'm just not sure where... Rapunzel's hair doesn't flow all the way down to the very base of the tower, so my white knight is going to have to get very innovative in climbing the tower :-) and my sweet voice doesn't emanate over all the hills and far away (like the song by Led Zeppelin) ...so I am using more modern high tech means of communication in the hopes of getting and keeping the attention of my fine, rugged "Forever Man". In case he might be on this or another website. There are always going to be pro's and con's with everything that happens and with everything that is said. I think that if people decide that they want to communicate with words, and photos to get to know other people, then they need to sharpen their communication skills, especially with words, and people...please be realistic with yourselves and with others. No one is or ever will be perfect, except the Lord. Since we are not perfect, we shouldn't expect that in others. If you let yourself go and don't keep yourself fit, then don't expect to find someone who does take pride in who they are and how they look. It doesn't work that way. I ride a bike, 10-15 miles a day sometimes, for instance. If the only exercise you get, is to walk from the car to the grocery store, and back to your car.... Or from the refrigerator to the couch and back, during commercials, then, don't expect to find an athletic person who is going to want to be with a motivationless couch potato.... No offense meant, but it is the truth..And sometimes the truth hurts...It's better to face it than be in denial.... Reply Rapunzel Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 19 Tue 08/29/06 03:28 PM To Geo with no picture....You say....Grow up? Who are you talking to, when you make that comment? Do you tell everyone who has an opinion other than yours to "grow up" ? And what makes you think you are an authority on anything?.... sounds like you have a serious attitude problem, dude. ............................................................... <html><DIV> <P><STRONG></STRONG> </P></DIV></html> |
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THIS WOMEN CONTINUES LONG AFTER THE TWO EMAILS I POSTED . I EVEN
APOLOGIZED AS AN ADULT TO ANOTHER ALLEGED ADULT JUST FOR THE SAKE OF NOT ARGUING ANY MORE. AND I SAID E O STORY AND SHE CONTINUES TO BERATE ME AND WHAT IS HER POINT, CONTINUING HER ATTACKS??? I STOPPED READING HER EMAILS AFTER 3 AS I WONT LET HER UPSET ME....I WISHED HER BLESSINGS AND I STILL WISH HER WELL...E O STORY IF SHE WOULD JUST LET IT REST. SHE HAS A RIGHT TO HER OPINION AND A RESPONSIBILITY TO GOD FOR HER WORDS COME SALVATION DAY, AS ME AS EVERYONE DOES. AT ANY AGE WE DON'T NEED THE STRESS CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?? TO CONTINUE TO BE HYPOCRITICAL IN ONES WRITTEN OPINIONS JUST SHOWS ONES INSTABILITY IN THOUGHT AND IN THEIR HEART. ................................................................ Help l Give us feedback My AccountMail (10)SearchCommunityInbox l Sent l Mail Settings l Blocked Users Welcome, dewdrew | logout Inbox: 10 unread messages From Subject Received Replied JustSayHi Welcome to JustSayHi.com Sat 08/05/06 10:19 AM JustSayHi Online Dating Tips Mon 08/14/06 06¼/option>?:22 PM Rapunzel to blab such personal garbage shows your total lack of class or integrity Fri 09/01/06 09:39 PM Rapunzel For a grown man to behave and blab all your personal stuff, is just so disgusting. Grow up and find Fri 09/01/06 09:30 PM Rapunzel You are even more disgusting than I thought Fri 09/01/06 09:28 PM lovely1964 HI Fri 09/01/06 09:09 PM Rapunzel Play with sharks, box jellyfish, mountain lions & timber rattlers, you'll get a rise out of them. Fri 09/01/06 08:21 PM Rapunzel Chivalry is dead in your book, you are just another wolf Fri 09/01/06 02:19 PM Rapunzel It's not about getting a rise out of women, or a debate, dummy Fri 09/01/06 02:17 PM Rapunzel You hate woman, because what youi think your wife did to you, so you take it out on all women Fri 09/01/06 02:16 PM Rapunzel Read my other message, if you call yourself a man. You try to dish it out, but you cannot receive it Fri 09/01/06 12:32 PM Rapunzel Oh, and also |
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SHE IS CAUGHT IN HER OWN WORDS ABOVE ABOUT PHOTOS AND THEN SENDS ME
THIS....ARGUING ONES POINT FOR THE SAKE OF WHAT?...WINNING THE ARGUMENT BY ANY MEANS?....BEING TWO FACED PURE AND SIMPLE....DISCREDITS ANY CREDABILITY IN MOST PEOPLES BOOKS...SORRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! .............................................................. Rapunzel : Age: 52 : Sacramento Awaiting my chivalrous, courageous Braveheart I'm a great lady who would love to speak with, meet, get to know & build a long lasting relationship with one good man who is intelligent, honest, high caliber, completely heterosexual, monogamous & marriage minded... tall, strong, muscular, masculine, hard working & hard- but tender & gentle... Sent: Thu 08/31/06 05:11 PM Subject: Re: Re: Chivalrous, courageous ... Body: lets try to put this into perspective.... Hey to you too. who would love to speak with, meet, get to know & build a long lasting relationship with one good man who is intelligent, okay trying here lol honest, ...as long as it doesn't offend your attitude high caliber, as long as it meets your specific narrow standards completely heterosexual, monogamous & marriage minded... they are mostly taken tall, strong, muscular, masculine, hard working & hard- but tender & gentle... STORY BOOK What do you mean by your first sentence to me? it was a moment to get a rise from you to see what YOU are made of.... All the Man hating going on? defensive is a good word right now... What do you mean by that? read between the lines.... And well you wish my photo was larger? over 40? need glasses? target marketing to a specific age, has a need for a precise clear photo and a little larger text as a courtesy to others... I'm glad it isn't. denial argumentative paranoid?... My photo is much more than what some offer... probably.. which doesn't make it better, makes it hard to convey the story of the image presented....its communication at its very core...and more people get connected with clear photos, it's a given... And anyway, Who I am, is way more important, than what I look like.... sorry ...second only to your looks and appearance ...in jobs ...in dating ...in which side of the street one chooses to walk on... as it defies the very core of men as visual creatures...gods creation as it is cant be improved upon by your denial as to what is important and what is only important as a point of your disagreement. If I am interested in someone and he in me, we can meet in person. right!! Okay Thanks for the blessings. thank you. just by your most basic answers you show a lot about who you are and your attitude. positive? attractive? manners? appearance? social skills? intelligence? argumentative? paranoid? narrow minded? a follower and not a leader? closed minded? judgmental? superficial? over50? maybe 12 good years left....to date and mate and find a sincere sacrificing non superficial log term relationship. conversation would of been nice and an intelligent tit for tat...instead of focusing for the negative... Wasn't intended to inflame or offend. A rise yes....conversation...debate...make you think, not with your emotions but with your brain ....sure. Don't be offended and fall into the victim syndrome kk. lol take that ...lol very sincerely and with all do respect, drew |
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SHE IS CAUGHT IN HER OWN WORDS ABOVE ABOUT PHOTOS AND THEN SENDS ME
THIS....ARGUING ONES POINT FOR THE SAKE OF WHAT?...WINNING THE ARGUMENT BY ANY MEANS?....BEING TWO FACED PURE AND SIMPLE....DISCREDITS ANY CREDIBILITY IN MOST PEOPLES BOOKS...SORRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! .............................................................. Rapunzel : Age: 52 : Sacramento Awaiting my chivalrous, courageous Braveheart I'm a great lady who would love to speak with, meet, get to know & build a long lasting relationship with one good man who is intelligent, honest, high caliber, completely heterosexual, monogamous & marriage minded... tall, strong, muscular, masculine, hard working & hard- but tender & gentle... Sent: Thu 08/31/06 05:11 PM Subject: Re: Re: Chivalrous, courageous ... Body: lets try to put this into perspective.... Hey to you too. who would love to speak with, meet, get to know & build a long lasting relationship with one good man who is intelligent, okay trying here lol honest, ...as long as it doesn't offend your attitude high caliber, as long as it meets your specific narrow standards completely heterosexual, monogamous & marriage minded... they are mostly taken tall, strong, muscular, masculine, hard working & hard- but tender & gentle... STORY BOOK What do you mean by your first sentence to me? it was a moment to get a rise from you to see what YOU are made of.... All the Man hating going on? defensive is a good word right now... What do you mean by that? read between the lines.... And well you wish my photo was larger? over 40? need glasses? target marketing to a specific age, has a need for a precise clear photo and a little larger text as a courtesy to others... I'm glad it isn't. denial argumentative paranoid?... My photo is much more than what some offer... probably.. which doesn't make it better, makes it hard to convey the story of the image presented....its communication at its very core...and more people get connected with clear photos, it's a given... And anyway, Who I am, is way more important, than what I look like.... sorry ...second only to your looks and appearance ...in jobs ...in dating ...in which side of the street one chooses to walk on... as it defies the very core of men as visual creatures...gods creation as it is cant be improved upon by your denial as to what is important and what is only important as a point of your disagreement. If I am interested in someone and he in me, we can meet in person. right!! Okay Thanks for the blessings. thank you. just by your most basic answers you show a lot about who you are and your attitude. positive? attractive? manners? appearance? social skills? intelligence? argumentative? paranoid? narrow minded? a follower and not a leader? closed minded? judgmental? superficial? over50? maybe 12 good years left....to date and mate and find a sincere sacrificing non superficial log term relationship. conversation would of been nice and an intelligent tit for tat...instead of focusing for the negative... Wasn't intended to inflame or offend. A rise yes....conversation...debate...make you think, not with your emotions but with your brain ....sure. Don't be offended and fall into the victim syndrome kk. lol take that ...lol very sincerely and with all do respect, drew |
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HERES ONE SHE WROTE TO ANOTHER SUBSCRIBER RECENTLY:
................................................................ SteveJarvis Joined Fri 08/25/06 Posts: 206 Fri 09/01/06 05:14 AM do you want to read the email she sent me? it was regarding my reply to this: http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/675 Here is the email she sent me: " I've had more than enough of your silly comments and profanity. Why don't you clean up that rude, foul mouth of yours. If you care for your Mother so much, then let her read the disgusting profanity that you so freely use towards others. You are a self absorbed, spoiled little Issaquah brat. Grow up & find some courtesy and integrity and some maturity. You don't have a clue about anything important & you act like you know it all. And while you're at it, have your mother wash your mouth out with industrial strength soap... I have family who live right near Lake Sammamish.... I feel sorry for your neighbors and anyone who has any dealings with your sorry self." |
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HAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Dude, she sent me some hatemail too. Seriously, this woman is fucking crazy. Look at how often she refers to her "long silky hair"? XD this thread is too damn funny. |
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THIS IS SOME MORE...I DIDN'T SEE TILL NOW THAT I HAD OTHER MAIL FROM
HER....GEEEEEEEEEZZS .............................................................. Rapunzel Oh, and also Fri 09/01/06 09:49 AM Rapunzel Re: Re: Regarding your note to me Fri 09/01/06 09:46 AM paterafan Re: tip Fri 09/01/06 08:09 AM Rapunzel Regarding your note to me Thu 08/31/06 05:24 PM Rapunzel Re: Chivalrous, courageous ... Wed 08/30/06 11:57 PM Select All Page: 1 2 |
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you guys arent the only ones she sent me an nasty email too
i think i pissed her off more when i replied deffending myself cause she wrote back maybe it was the line your twice my age a fifty states away why are you even bothering with me ...proboblly didnt make her feel aany better cause she wrote back silly boy what you think only people your age can talk too you....but my point was if she were talking to me in one of these blogs were its an open forum is one thing but she emailed me in private and isnt this supposed to be a dating site |
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i mean its no wonder shes single with an attitude and a mouth like that
i mean she called me an aspiring moron and said i feel sorry for your son to have such a quick tempered angry man for a father .....wich is totally out of line you can insult me all you want but when it comes to my son and how he is raised i do my best to give him a better life than the one i have and she doesnt know me ...i dont know what she was trying to accomplishwith a nasy email but to be supprised when people defend themselves and insult them further and in a privite form like an email is just plain stupid |
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My thing is, if you aren't interested in the person without a pic or a
short profile just skip them. No need to have a coronary over it. |
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