In a world where swiping right has become the modern equivalent of locking eyes across a crowded room, it’s easy to feel like love is just one more profile away—yet somehow still out of reach. You’ve probably asked yourself the question a dozen times while scrolling late at night: Have you found a match yet?
If the answer is still “not quite,” you’re not alone. Millions of people are on dating apps right now, hoping for that spark, that effortless conversation, that person who just gets you. But between ghosting, endless small talk, and profiles that look nothing like the person in real life, it’s easy to lose hope.
Here’s the truth: your match is out there. They’re probably wondering the same thing you are—whether someone out there sees the world the way they do, laughs at the same weird jokes, and wants the same kind of connection.
The good news? You don’t have to keep searching alone. Whether you’re new to online dating or you’ve been at it for a while, taking a fresh approach can change everything. Be honest in your profile. Share what really matters to you. Reach out first. And most importantly—keep showing up.
So, have you found a match yet?

Sort of.
I've gone through probably 1,000 profiles at a minimum over the past 90 days.
I'm actually putting in a LOT of effort to try and find a 2nd & last "my person" of my life.

I've found a few dozen women that physically attract me. (kinda picky even though I have no right to be so, based on my own looks.)

In that group I've found only a handful I enjoyed extended conversations with - in spite of having had at least some exchanges in mail with more than a couple hundred - too many of which are simply incompatible due to large age differences &/or distance issues.

Of that much smaller group there are less than the fingers on 1 hand that I consider possible compatibly matches based on;

• physical attraction (based on my predilections)

• sufficient intelligence & coherency to string together a conversation beyond;
"Send me your cell number so we can know each other more better on [insert name of scammer app]"

• a sense, a "presence", that emanates from both their profile photo(s) & their conversation that interests something indescribable yet palpable within me that drives me to wish for more interaction & a possible future - MORE than just some 1-off wham-bam-thank you ma'am hit&run - and dreaming about the possibility of that person becoming my reason for living.

Alas, I have yet to resolve the issue of whether ANY of them are real, if they are who they claim to be, or if they are just much better practiced in the arts of hooking & scamming lonely old coots like me.

Most of the scammers are amateurs & disappear as fast as they arrive - just like you did.

Hopefully soon

I have not found anyone here yet I'm looking for a real person not fake

hello

hii dear

Hi dear. Hope to finds you in the best of health and spirits.

hi

No because I’m new here

Me too.

No, I use bic lighters.

Not yet, no lightning-strike match has shown up in real life just yet.
The apps and the world keep throwing interesting people my way, but that deep, effortless click we’re both holding out for (the kind where you just know without needing to overthink it) hasn’t quite landed. Still putting myself out there though—coffee dates, long walks, the occasional “what if” conversation—because I figure the right one shows up when you’re not forcing it, but also not hiding from it either.
How about you? Any promising sparks lately, or are you still in the “good stories, no keepers” phase? Spill if you want—I’m all ears (and zero judgment).

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