Topic: Does age gap really matter? What's your experience? | |
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I'm curious about everyone's thoughts on this. I'm 24 and recently started talking to someone who's 34. We click really well same humor, similar goals, great conversations but I'm wondering if the 10-year difference will become an issue down the line.
My friends are split. Some say it's nothing, others think we might be at different life stages. He's more established in his career while I'm still figuring things out. But honestly, he doesn't make me feel immature or anything like that. I've also dated guys my age who acted like they were still 18, so maybe maturity matters more than the number? What's been your experience with age gaps? Did it work out or did you run into problems you didn't expect? At what point does the gap become too much? Looking forward to hearing your stories! |
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Might want to check out this thread that is on going....
https://mingle2.com/topic/644060 |
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Thanks, this was an eye opener honestly
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I'm curious about everyone's thoughts on this. I'm 24 and recently started talking to someone who's 34. We click really well same humor, similar goals, great conversations but I'm wondering if the 10-year difference will become an issue down the line. My friends are split. Some say it's nothing, others think we might be at different life stages. He's more established in his career while I'm still figuring things out. But honestly, he doesn't make me feel immature or anything like that. I've also dated guys my age who acted like they were still 18, so maybe maturity matters more than the number? What's been your experience with age gaps? Did it work out or did you run into problems you didn't expect? At what point does the gap become too much? Looking forward to hearing your stories! As long as you just focus on the two of you and don't listen to others (even their jokes) then it will cut down on the problems. Just do what makes you happy. I have dated older and younger, it usually is not a problem until it starts to turn into a parent/child type relationship (unless that is what you are into...lol) but that can happen with any age. I know of some that the wives are my age with the husbands that are about 15 years younger that have been together for a long time now. Good Luck |
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That's really solid advice! You're absolutely right about not letting other people's comments get in the way those "jokes" can definitely create unnecessary doubt when things are actually going well.
The parent/child dynamic warning is spot on too. I've seen that happen regardless of age gaps, so it's more about the personalities involved than the years between you. It's encouraging to hear about those long-term couples you know with bigger age differences. Sounds like when it works, it really works. Thanks for the perspective and the good luck wishes! |
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That's really solid advice! You're absolutely right about not letting other people's comments get in the way those "jokes" can definitely create unnecessary doubt when things are actually going well.
The parent/child dynamic warning is spot on too. I've seen that happen regardless of age gaps, so it's more about the personalities involved than the years between you. It's encouraging to hear about those long-term couples you know with bigger age differences. Sounds like when it works, it really works. Thanks for the perspective and the good luck wishes! |
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How would you feel about helping him put his socks on every day?
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Haha, fair point picturing that does make the age gap feel a bit more real! But honestly, if we're talking long-term, I'd rather focus on the now: our laughs, the easy chats, and how he treats me like an equal.
Socks or no socks, maturity's the real test. What about you any wild age-gap stories where the little things like that tripped people up? |
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When I was in my forties I asked a young woman out, but soon found out she was in her early twenties. The date went well with lots of lively conversation, and nothing more. I think she was surprised that I didn't ask her out again, but she had been telling me of her plans and hopes for the future which I, with my greater experience, already knew were unlikely to happen. I couldn't tell her that, it would have crushed her. I knew she'd have to find out for herself. We were at different stages in our life journeys, and basically just ships passing in the night.
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20+ and 30+. It’s ok but 30+ to 40+ you can’t handle. Even worse if it goes on to 40+ to 50+.
Think about them too . |
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