In the last 4 months I have had the dude speech on either the first second or even before the first date from 80% of the guys I've hung out with. The speech explains how they don't want a relationship, but really want a mutally satisfying sexual encounter over and over with no strings. My thoughts are that this is a relationship like it or not, but why limit the possibilities before you know the woman at all. It's very rude.

yes it is very rude, all they really want is sex and personally i don't see that as a relationship at all.

Sadness. You should look in different places for guys... Because the good ones are out there, I promise. We're all frustrated trying to find girls like you. Help us. =)

Unless thats what your looking for,Tell them to get lost.And move on.

Hmmm I've been out of it a long time. Never even knew there was a "dude speech". From what you are saying, I think maybe they should retitle it to "hey you wanna f*ck with no strings?" speech??? Would be more accurate from the start with the title..don't ya think?

yes, I do tell them to get lost. It's just always disappointing.

GUESS I JUST FIND PEOPLE FUNNY, ESPECIALLY THOSE THAT ALL THEY WANT IS A QUICK LAY AND NO STRINGS.

SO I AGREE, HANG OUT FOR A FEW, THEN JUST AS A MATTER OF FACT SAY, I AGREE, JUST NOT W/YOU, AND GO HOME.

I FIND IF YOU REACT APPALLED, DISGUSTED, THEY WIN, BCUZ IM SURE THEY ARE LOOKING FOR A REACTION OR A WOMAN WHO IS LOOKING FOR THE SAME. FUNNY HOW THIS COMES UP WHEN MEETING FACE TO FACE, SO I JUST CONTINUE THE B.S. UNTIL I'VE HAD ENOUGH AND THEN I LEAVE. REFUSE TO ALLOW ANYONE TO RUIN MY DATE... EVEN HIM....
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO

you know, nice guys really do exist... as a matter of fact, strangely the last two women I have dated (not for very long either..) seemed to only want casual encounters... What ever happened to getting to know someone? Isnt that what dating is? Going on DATES, and actually learning about someone and sharing what you are about?

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING MICHAEL1978.

Nice guy... Yeah RIGHT!

Listen, if you(general term) are a nice guy, then you will get mauled by NY women. I don't mean nice as in politeness, or restraint, but MOST self professed "Nice Guys" are either closet jerks, nerds, or pushovers.

Most women don't like either one of those. (A normal jerk, maybe, but not closet, "It's too late to get out of this relationship, but I hate him" jerk.)

Don't try to be a "Nice Guy", or a jerk. Just a MAN. Straight women like MEN.

As for the "no strings" thing, they just want a free prostitute. And as a man, sometimes I do too. All men do. It that's the case, go to the Bronx, Hunt's Point. I'm told there are still women who "barter" over there.

As for you women, don't think you're in the clear. You're just as bad as us. You wont outright admit it, but sometimes you want it as well. The problem... There is some damn test, that a guy must pass to get laid, like an expensive date, and he goes nowhere.

At the same time, the guy finds out she's f-ing the jerk with the motorcycle 2 blocks over.

Listen, for those who want no strings, go to a no stings site.

L8R.

thats men 4 ya

Darn tootin!

I see the grumble face as me hitting a sour note. Well, that was the whole idea.

I would like a relationship just a much as everyone else, but at the same time, I have to sift through all types of garbage to find the "one man's trash, another's treasure".

Listen women, there are tell-tale signs if all a man wants to do is jump the sheets. If you haven't figured them out by now, don't complain. Just find them out BEFORE it's too late.

L8R.

Thats men for you? hes a 110% right hit the hammer right on the head.

u ladies just dont know what u want from us we try everything to please u guys but its seem like u just dont know what u want im a nice guy but not a puchover but u guys dont want a nice guy when i guy try to be nice to u bich to him why he is so nice and when is not nice then u biching about that to i just moved here from LA CA but im from a defrent contry and NY ladies im sorry to say u guys dont make it easy for dateing at all 90% just want my money or what car im driving whats the deal if u really want to find someone that is nice and would take u happy in every way try not to be a bich :) im sorry must girl i date so far are like that
not saying everyone just be your self and be real thats all i ask and cute :) are we asking to much from you ladies ?