All of my relationships seem to start out as friends then move to something more now I'm in the worst one possible. We've been together for almost 4 months now and according to him were not dating but to me we are because its the same as a relationship. We got into a big fight about it before Christmas and now I haven't seen him in almost two weeks I've tried not to text him or call him but he ends up doing it to me and I always give in. I care about him so much and love him and he said he feels the same way back but I'm not sure what to do. It's like he wants to be with me without being with me. What do I do?

The guy sounds like a real clown. I'd move on.

obviously he's not the one!

I'm not telling you what you should do only you will know but I would just think about it and then ask him if he wants it all or nothing that's what I would do but it's up to you and only you.

next time you fight,hit him with a frying pan.........

yeah he's messin around with you, keepin you till something better comes along. ditch him and find a new guy.

I agree with Kris

if i were you i would run. why settle when you don't have to. find someone who will love you and want you the way you want and love them too. life is too short to waste even a moment on a possibility or a maybe.

just tell him straight up that if he really loves you, then he should make it official. if he still says no, then just move on. you picked up a bad egg

Does not sound like a respectful situation anyway you look at it.

Sorry had to check your profile for age. you're only 21..and in only 4 months..and sounds like kinda "rocky months".. Gotta tell ya straight...chill out and get your head on straight.

When you start by saying "all of my relationships"..and you are only 21...well those had to be at best "puppy love" kind of relationships. Infatuations. Give yourself time, don;t take anything real serious, because you are too young to really know what "real serious" is right now, according to your own posts.

So just enjoy your youth, toss around some boyfriends and take you time and figure out what you really want later in your life..but for now just have fun!

Sorry, gracekelly, but it sounds like you are being played. Why would he argue about whether you were dating or not, unless he has a phobia about relationships? It is easy for me to stay, but stand your ground, if you love him, because you must earn his respect. And, make sure he earns yours.

Thatagirl Coco!

You should let him know that he needs to make a choice.

Thanks

Another no brainer..........ok time to lose his number until he figures out if he is in a relationship.

In the meantime, have fun, go out with your friends, and meet guys who actually call it a "relationship" and not some sort of sordid idiotic "I wanna be with you but were not going out" crappola.........aite??

Seems to me that he is makeing that call for ya, but doesnt have the balls to tell ya. Maybe he simply doesnt want to hurt your feelings. SUCKS!

Well said...man would i like to go back about 18 years and read this then lol!