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Listen to this podcast! I think it might help https://youtu.be/tB0sxKXODPc have you send me a message in my inbox with that address I think I probably already watched it cuz I've scoured YouTube for spanking therapy I can't copy and paste it and when I try to enter it in to the website it just says nothing found and I've checked it over and over and over again |
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have you send me a message in my inbox with that address I think I probably already watched it cuz I've scoured YouTube for spanking therapy I can't copy and paste it and when I try to enter it in to the website it just says nothing found and I've checked it over and over and over again is this locker room talk with and they have missed Chris on has a |
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have you send me a message in my inbox with that address I think I probably already watched it cuz I've scoured YouTube for spanking therapy I can't copy and paste it and when I try to enter it in to the website it just says nothing found and I've checked it over and over and over again is this locker room talk with and they have missed Chris on has a guess |
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Anxiety, depression, addiction can all be passed thru genes or can occur from tragic events or learned behavior. I do not agree with Tom making this out like because the things he has done in life makes him 'normal' and others 'not normal'. That seems 'selfish' to me which is also passed thru genes as well as learned. At this point it doesn't really matter how much of it was inherited, and how much was picked up over time. It has much more to do with learning to adapt to the conditions that exist and alter the brain to recondition itself.
The anxiety can cause a manic state where there are highs and then crashes into a depressive state. I can also trigger a fight or flight response. If the anxiety is not controlled it can lead to rage. This seems like this fetish of being spanked would be counter intuitive like maybe the anxiety and ADHD is just an excuse for justifying the fetish? Or it could be based on something that happened in the past? First thing to always look at is diet, exercise, lifestyle. If the high blood pressure a result of anxiety and ADHD? Is it diet based? Is it inherited? Often time stimulating the brain without over doing it can relive much of the problem, it's all got to do with dopamine and endorphins and how the brain processes everything. The drugs listed are aimed more at depression so I wonder if the doctor really knows what they are doing or just chasing an easy buck? I would consider look into other doctors. As far as councilors go what they do is council, not treat. And it is much like a drug addiction where you have to want change, and hopefully can change brain activities to become a little more normal. Drug treatment often fails several times before it takes, that's why they also call it drug counseling instead of drug treatment, and the brain has rewired itself to adapt over time so it can take awhile to get to normalcy. Often learning better ways to deal with the problem and avoid certain situations is the best bet. hardwired since birth is just something that my therapist and doctors say my mom is 17 she was a party animal I was born in a bathroom at a party and she was 17 I would open up beers for the party goers I'd sleep in waterbeds listening to my mom **** all night long hardwired for stress sounds like a good terminology to me |
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Anxiety, depression, addiction can all be passed thru genes or can occur from tragic events or learned behavior. I do not agree with Tom making this out like because the things he has done in life makes him 'normal' and others 'not normal'. That seems 'selfish' to me which is also passed thru genes as well as learned. At this point it doesn't really matter how much of it was inherited, and how much was picked up over time. It has much more to do with learning to adapt to the conditions that exist and alter the brain to recondition itself.
The anxiety can cause a manic state where there are highs and then crashes into a depressive state. I can also trigger a fight or flight response. If the anxiety is not controlled it can lead to rage. This seems like this fetish of being spanked would be counter intuitive like maybe the anxiety and ADHD is just an excuse for justifying the fetish? Or it could be based on something that happened in the past? First thing to always look at is diet, exercise, lifestyle. If the high blood pressure a result of anxiety and ADHD? Is it diet based? Is it inherited? Often time stimulating the brain without over doing it can relive much of the problem, it's all got to do with dopamine and endorphins and how the brain processes everything. The drugs listed are aimed more at depression so I wonder if the doctor really knows what they are doing or just chasing an easy buck? I would consider look into other doctors. As far as councilors go what they do is council, not treat. And it is much like a drug addiction where you have to want change, and hopefully can change brain activities to become a little more normal. Drug treatment often fails several times before it takes, that's why they also call it drug counseling instead of drug treatment, and the brain has rewired itself to adapt over time so it can take awhile to get to normalcy. Often learning better ways to deal with the problem and avoid certain situations is the best bet. hardwired since birth is just something that my therapist and doctors say my mom is 17 she was a party animal I was born in a bathroom at a party and she was 17 I would open up beers for the party goers I'd sleep in waterbeds listening to my mom **** all night long hardwired for stress sounds like a good terminology to me |
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Perhaps it would be easier to buy a paddle and discipline yourself? And take ownership of your behavior, be in charge of it, rather than expecting others to parent you?
Wanting or expecting others to keep you on track, through consequences and punishment, isn't accepting responsibility for your own life. It simply gives you someone else to blame your shortcomings on when things go sour. Perhaps it's time to step up to the plate and take charge/responsibility for your own life? Regardless of how hard-wired you were at birth, there are enough resources out there available to you to deprogram that hard-wiring. Where there's a will, there's a way. But you got to want it. It doesn't sound like you do, which is your business. So best of luck to you in finding your punisher, if that's what you truly are seeking. |
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I don't have to buy paddles I have them all listen lady you don't have to be mean or rude I'm already embarrassed to buy it okay I was in a two and a half year relationship where I found that it worked there's other states that have the insurance pay for it counseling coaches do it I wish I was like you and I didn't have immense ADHD and have to take tons of pills for my anxiety spanking helps it's a release you wouldn't understand so thank you for taking time out of your day to make me feel bad Jesus loves you
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I don't have to buy paddles I have them all listen lady you don't have to be mean or rude I'm already embarrassed to buy it okay I was in a two and a half year relationship where I found that it worked there's other states that have the insurance pay for it counseling coaches do it. I wish I was like you and I didn't have immense ADHD and have to take tons of pills for my anxiety spanking helps it's a release you wouldn't understand so thank you for taking time out of your day to make me feel bad Jesus loves you I reread what I wrote and I can see how you would take what I said as being mean or rude. Although that was not my intention, I do at times come across harsh with my a matter of fact delivery. So I apologize if what I said caused you to feel further contempt for yourself. You are mistaken to assume I don't understand. I actually do understand! I too was hard-wired since birth. My early childhood years, from birth to 6 years old, were void of what every child deserves in life. It was full of violence, betrayal, drug/alcohol addiction, and abandonment. By time my Aunt took me away from my mother at age 6, I was one messed up little girl. It took months before they could get me to come out from under the bed anytime my Uncle was home. Throughout my years, I have had several different diagnosis from therapists/doctors... Depression, Anxiety, Possible Bi-Polar, Separation Anxiety, Detachment Disorder, PTSD, ADD, and Alcohol Addiction. My road to recovery from all my diagnosis's was frustrating and challenging. After several years of being free from my supposed diagnosis's, and having somewhat of normalcy in my life, my inner contempt for myself lead me back to drinking and thankfully a botched up attempted suicide. I say thankfully because had I succeeded, I would never have experienced the light at the end of the tunnel that I am experiencing now... Self Love! Reflecting back on all of that, I spent many years blaming others for who I was, how I was, and why I needed or did certain things in life. I blamed my parents for how messed up I was and my ability to not be able to receive love. I had a hat full of diagnosis's to pick and chose from to get others to feel sorry for me and blame my behaviors on. Nothing changed until I took responsibility for myself and stopped blaming others or my diagnosis's for who and what I am. No one gets to decide that except me! The last nine years of returning to me hasn't been a bed of roses, but it's been well worth it. I no longer need punishment, either self inflicted or inflicted by others, in order to survive. No child, or adult, deserves punishment. My comment to you that perhaps it would be easier to buy a paddle was not appropriate, considering I didn't explain why I said that. My thought pattern was that if you were to inflict the punishment yourself, you might see how ridiculous it was to continue harming yourself through others. Sometimes when we do to ourselves what we want others to do it has away of turning on the light and seeing things differently. You live in the US. Any form of therapy that uses punishment is not therapy! It's abuse, inhuman, and unethical! With all the resources available to us, it saddens me that people are still out there wanting to be punished, spanked, or beaten up when they don't act accordingly or as a means to stay on track. But as I said before, it's their/your business. The resources are there if you want them. If not, then so be it, continue the search for a punisher. If that's not what you truly want, then find the resources that guide you to self love, rather than self torture. It is your choice! Best of luck to you either way! Namaste! |
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once again I have had experience with this type it was with a significant other in the first few times it was sexual and erotic she bought books on it and educated herself there are millions of people who receive spankings as a form of therapy now my whole life I've been extremely high tolerance to pain so it's not a pain thing to me at all it's more of the humiliation and that's more mental it makes me focus it's not a form of abuse it's not a form of whatever else you called it. it actually helps me focus I'm not you and the thousands of other people out there aren't you either so it is not abuse I don't like pain I don't want to be cut I don't want to bleed so that's that I just wish people weren't so rude to me I'm opening up and trying to be honest and try to find people who like minded to come back not people to knock me down and tell me that I'm a certain type of way cuz you don't know me
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I reread what I wrote and I can see how you would take what I said as being mean or rude. Although that was not my intention, I do at times come across harsh with my a matter of fact delivery. So I apologize if what I said caused you to feel further contempt for yourself.
You are mistaken to assume I don't understand. I actually do understand! I too was hard-wired since birth. My early childhood years, from birth to 6 years old, were void of what every child deserves in life. It was full of violence, betrayal, drug/alcohol addiction, and abandonment. By time my Aunt took me away from my mother at age 6, I was one messed up little girl. It took months before they could get me to come out from under the bed anytime my Uncle was home. Throughout my years, I have had several different diagnosis from therapists/doctors... Depression, Anxiety, Possible Bi-Polar, Separation Anxiety, Detachment Disorder, PTSD, ADD, and Alcohol Addiction. My road to recovery from all my diagnosis's was frustrating and challenging. After several years of being free from my supposed diagnosis's, and having somewhat of normalcy in my life, my inner contempt for myself lead me back to drinking and thankfully a botched up attempted suicide. I say thankfully because had I succeeded, I would never have experienced the light at the end of the tunnel that I am experiencing now... Self Love! Reflecting back on all of that, I spent many years blaming others for who I was, how I was, and why I needed or did certain things in life. I blamed my parents for how messed up I was and my ability to not be able to receive love. I had a hat full of diagnosis's to pick and chose from to get others to feel sorry for me and blame my behaviors on. Nothing changed until I took responsibility for myself and stopped blaming others or my diagnosis's for who and what I am. No one gets to decide that except me! The last nine years of returning to me hasn't been a bed of roses, but it's been well worth it. I no longer need punishment, either self inflicted or inflicted by others, in order to survive. No child, or adult, deserves punishment. My comment to you that perhaps it would be easier to buy a paddle was not appropriate, considering I didn't explain why I said that. My thought pattern was that if you were to inflict the punishment yourself, you might see how ridiculous it was to continue harming yourself through others. Sometimes when we do to ourselves what we want others to do it has away of turning on the light and seeing things differently. You live in the US. Any form of therapy that uses punishment is not therapy! It's abuse, inhuman, and unethical! With all the resources available to us, it saddens me that people are still out there wanting to be punished, spanked, or beaten up when they don't act accordingly or as a means to stay on track. But as I said before, it's their/your business. The resources are there if you want them. If not, then so be it, continue the search for a punisher. If that's not what you truly want, then find the resources that guide you to self love, rather than self torture. It is your choice! Best of luck to you either way! Namaste! and I know for a fact that Nevada has it they call impact therapy and I think Colorado does or they used to Nevada their it's often used for weight loss and gambling issues it's all consensual it's not court ordered or anything so that's the US doll |
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