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Edited by
Sumthingdifferent
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Tue 01/01/08 03:34 PM
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Will someone PLEASE get the servers some black coffee...STAT!!!
 
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Men often feel the same way but are too afraid to say anything in case they look to pushy/forward. Tell him.
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ask him......... |
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I am going thru something VERY similar right now! I have met a guy, in my hometown (myex's sister fixed us up).... we had been together 2 months, had STRONG feelings for eachother, then on Christmas Eve, he told me that he needed tome to "Sort things out"... We have talked a few times since then, but nothing like before. I really miss him being here with me. We were supposed to spend the evening together last night, but he never called. I was very hurt, and upset. I spent the evening alone, sittingon the couch or on the computer. But I did find out today that he was in the ER last night with an allergic reation to some new meds that his doc put him on (he has MS). So I felt like an A**!!! He did apologize for not calling, but he left both his cells at home... and didn't even call his kids that live with their DA mother. So if you figure out how to deal with these situations... let me know too! At times I don’t want to say anything because I don’t want to lose the friendship that is there... but things have shifted and we would probably lose that anyway... He does not live local, not even in the same state but within a reasonable distance. And girl... looks like you know how I feel only to well. Have you done any of the things that our friends here on JSH have advised. If so let me know how it turned out for you. |
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no no no no don't take the direct approach, thats much too easy. what you need to do is be sneaky and underhanded about it all. first get yourself some of that date rape drug and slip it into his cereal in the morning..... get a pregnancy test and mark it so it'spositive and leave it on the nightstand for him to find in the morning. he'll wake up, see it and freak!
when he's all in a panic tell him got drunk and just found out he was pregnant, but don't worry you'll do the right thing and if he needs any help while he's knocked up you'll be there. that should do it. |
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I am going thru something VERY similar right now! I have met a guy, in my hometown (myex's sister fixed us up).... we had been together 2 months, had STRONG feelings for eachother, then on Christmas Eve, he told me that he needed tome to "Sort things out"... We have talked a few times since then, but nothing like before. I really miss him being here with me. We were supposed to spend the evening together last night, but he never called. I was very hurt, and upset. I spent the evening alone, sittingon the couch or on the computer. But I did find out today that he was in the ER last night with an allergic reation to some new meds that his doc put him on (he has MS). So I felt like an A**!!! He did apologize for not calling, but he left both his cells at home... and didn't even call his kids that live with their DA mother. So if you figure out how to deal with these situations... let me know too! At times I don’t want to say anything because I don’t want to lose the friendship that is there... but things have shifted and we would probably lose that anyway... He does not live local, not even in the same state but within a reasonable distance. And girl... looks like you know how I feel only to well. Have you done any of the things that our friends here on JSH have advised. If so let me know how it turned out for you. Actually - this is the first I have spoken about this on here... I wish someone had a magic potion that we could feed these guys to let them know how we feel, and not lose them altogether.... |
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no no no no don't take the direct approach, thats much too easy. what you need to do is be sneaky and underhanded about it all. first get yourself some of that date rape drug and slip it into his cereal in the morning..... get a pregnancy test and mark it so it'spositive and leave it on the nightstand for him to find in the morning. he'll wake up, see it and freak! when he's all in a panic tell him got drunk and just found out he was pregnant, but don't worry you'll do the right thing and if he needs any help while he's knocked up you'll be there. that should do it. You are always the smart ass but that is my sense of humor to a T... gota luv it. |
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a lot of people are not looking for a LTR, but if it hits them in the head they wake up and say "cool this is alright" or run like crazy over the hill. better to find out now, where you and he stand, it will save feelings later on, just talk to him
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no no no no don't take the direct approach, thats much too easy. what you need to do is be sneaky and underhanded about it all. first get yourself some of that date rape drug and slip it into his cereal in the morning..... get a pregnancy test and mark it so it'spositive and leave it on the nightstand for him to find in the morning. he'll wake up, see it and freak! when he's all in a panic tell him got drunk and just found out he was pregnant, but don't worry you'll do the right thing and if he needs any help while he's knocked up you'll be there. that should do it. Funny you would say this... I left my guy a message today about a "health issue" that I was having... and when I hung up, I thought "Man that sounded like I was going to tell him I was pregnant!" Well, needless to say, he called me... and asked when the baby was due! Of course that isn't what I meant for it to sound like, but at least he called, and we talked for a while, and laughed... so maybe he will call tonight??? I don't know... |
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no no no no don't take the direct approach, thats much too easy. what you need to do is be sneaky and underhanded about it all. first get yourself some of that date rape drug and slip it into his cereal in the morning..... get a pregnancy test and mark it so it'spositive and leave it on the nightstand for him to find in the morning. he'll wake up, see it and freak! when he's all in a panic tell him got drunk and just found out he was pregnant, but don't worry you'll do the right thing and if he needs any help while he's knocked up you'll be there. that should do it. :::chants::: Az is my HERO!! Tell it like it IS!  
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I am going thru something VERY similar right now! I have met a guy, in my hometown (myex's sister fixed us up).... we had been together 2 months, had STRONG feelings for eachother, then on Christmas Eve, he told me that he needed tome to "Sort things out"... We have talked a few times since then, but nothing like before. I really miss him being here with me. We were supposed to spend the evening together last night, but he never called. I was very hurt, and upset. I spent the evening alone, sittingon the couch or on the computer. But I did find out today that he was in the ER last night with an allergic reation to some new meds that his doc put him on (he has MS). So I felt like an A**!!! He did apologize for not calling, but he left both his cells at home... and didn't even call his kids that live with their DA mother. So if you figure out how to deal with these situations... let me know too! At times I don’t want to say anything because I don’t want to lose the friendship that is there... but things have shifted and we would probably lose that anyway... He does not live local, not even in the same state but within a reasonable distance. And girl... looks like you know how I feel only to well. Have you done any of the things that our friends here on JSH have advised. If so let me know how it turned out for you. Girl, I think you and I have a LOT in common! We need to talk more! LOL |
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I am going thru something VERY similar right now! I have met a guy, in my hometown (myex's sister fixed us up).... we had been together 2 months, had STRONG feelings for eachother, then on Christmas Eve, he told me that he needed tome to "Sort things out"... We have talked a few times since then, but nothing like before. I really miss him being here with me. We were supposed to spend the evening together last night, but he never called. I was very hurt, and upset. I spent the evening alone, sittingon the couch or on the computer. But I did find out today that he was in the ER last night with an allergic reation to some new meds that his doc put him on (he has MS). So I felt like an A**!!! He did apologize for not calling, but he left both his cells at home... and didn't even call his kids that live with their DA mother. So if you figure out how to deal with these situations... let me know too! At times I don’t want to say anything because I don’t want to lose the friendship that is there... but things have shifted and we would probably lose that anyway... He does not live local, not even in the same state but within a reasonable distance. And girl... looks like you know how I feel only to well. Have you done any of the things that our friends here on JSH have advised. If so let me know how it turned out for you. Actually - this is the first I have spoken about this on here... I wish someone had a magic potion that we could feed these guys to let them know how we feel, and not lose them altogether.... Oh this frustrates me!!!  
Why do you need a DRUG!!?? Just tell the man!! If he is interested he will let you know..if not, do you THINK you will CHANGE his mind!!?? Look folks, we control ONE person in this ENTIRE WORLD! That is OURSELF! I'm not sure about you..but I spend the majority of my time keeping that worked out! 
So just COMMUNICATE!!! Otherwise you are just wasting the most precious thing in life...TIME! you can;t replace it and you will never get it back..so think about that!
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Does it take men longer to establish feeling than it does for a woman? I have known this man for a short 2 months or so... I have met others but no-one makes me feel like he does. I get mixed messages from him and don’t know where I stand... I guess I can say he likes me but we all like people or we wouldn’t be here. I don’t know... I’m not in a hurry to rush things but don’t want to end up trying to piece my heart back together either. I’m so confused..... One of the ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS you can learn in LIFE is GOOD COMMUNICATION!!!!! This applies to EVERY aspect in LIFE! Anything from work to personal life, from friends to a spouse. WHY DO PEOPLE MAKE SUCH A SIMPLE THING SO HARD!!?? Say what you mean and mean what you say! There is nothing worng with just asking him..or better yet, telling him how YOU feel! Then if need be ask him how he feels. It's better than having to GUESS at everything. of course you risk "rejection" of not getting the same feelings in return, but you can also GET THAT FEELING IN RETURN! How are you going to know??? JUST COMMUNICATE!!!
Ok you are the official JSH shrink. I have read your replies before today and wondered then if you were here for yourself or to help everyone else but now you have been nominated!!! |
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Does it take men longer to establish feeling than it does for a woman? I have known this man for a short 2 months or so... I have met others but no-one makes me feel like he does. I get mixed messages from him and don’t know where I stand... I guess I can say he likes me but we all like people or we wouldn’t be here. I don’t know... I’m not in a hurry to rush things but don’t want to end up trying to piece my heart back together either. I’m so confused..... One of the ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS you can learn in LIFE is GOOD COMMUNICATION!!!!! This applies to EVERY aspect in LIFE! Anything from work to personal life, from friends to a spouse. WHY DO PEOPLE MAKE SUCH A SIMPLE THING SO HARD!!?? Say what you mean and mean what you say! There is nothing worng with just asking him..or better yet, telling him how YOU feel! Then if need be ask him how he feels. It's better than having to GUESS at everything. of course you risk "rejection" of not getting the same feelings in return, but you can also GET THAT FEELING IN RETURN! How are you going to know??? JUST COMMUNICATE!!!
Ok you are the official JSH shrink. I have read your replies before today and wondered then if you were here for yourself or to help everyone else but now you have been nominated!!! LOL..no! I'm not a shrink..but I have about 12, wanna borrow one??
It's really just simple. When you can finally realize that so much precious time is spent in all the WRONG things. Life is for LIVING! And love is a GREAT thing! So do what you need to do to find it! No need in playing little games like you are a teenager (but if you are young it is understandable). Love and rejection are BOTH a part of life and we ALL go through it. We all have feelings..and if they are good feelings towards someone, well I don;t think that EVER is a bad thing! OK, so you don;t get the response you wanted. You were honest, open and took that chance. but remember..one of those times you try...BINGO!!! You found it!!
You can't ever hit a home-run unless you get up thier and swing at the ball. Sometimes you strike out...other times you can get a hit. At least swing the bat!
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Another thing... He didn’t really seem interested in ME until he found out I went out on a date with someone else and was making other plans with other people. Is that a red flag for me or a reality slap for him?
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Another thing... He didn’t really seem interested in ME until he found out I went out on a date with someone else and was making other plans with other people. Is that a red flag for me or a reality slap for him?
Oh thats a toughy..could be either. And yet ANOTHER reason why just to be open and TALK about it! Why play guessing games? I like to keep my feet on solid ground. life throws me enough to keep me wondering about it, I don;t need people to try to play that chit with me too. But to answer that question, I can't..you'll have to ask the source.
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Does it take men longer to establish feeling than it does for a woman? I have known this man for a short 2 months or so... I have met others but no-one makes me feel like he does. I get mixed messages from him and don’t know where I stand... I guess I can say he likes me but we all like people or we wouldn’t be here. I don’t know... I’m not in a hurry to rush things but don’t want to end up trying to piece my heart back together either. I’m so confused..... One of the ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS you can learn in LIFE is GOOD COMMUNICATION!!!!! This applies to EVERY aspect in LIFE! Anything from work to personal life, from friends to a spouse. WHY DO PEOPLE MAKE SUCH A SIMPLE THING SO HARD!!?? Say what you mean and mean what you say! There is nothing worng with just asking him..or better yet, telling him how YOU feel! Then if need be ask him how he feels. It's better than having to GUESS at everything. of course you risk "rejection" of not getting the same feelings in return, but you can also GET THAT FEELING IN RETURN! How are you going to know??? JUST COMMUNICATE!!!
Ok you are the official JSH shrink. I have read your replies before today and wondered then if you were here for yourself or to help everyone else but now you have been nominated!!! LOL..no! I'm not a shrink..but I have about 12, wanna borrow one??
It's really just simple. When you can finally realize that so much precious time is spent in all the WRONG things. Life is for LIVING! And love is a GREAT thing! So do what you need to do to find it! No need in playing little games like you are a teenager (but if you are young it is understandable). Love and rejection are BOTH a part of life and we ALL go through it. We all have feelings..and if they are good feelings towards someone, well I don;t think that EVER is a bad thing! OK, so you don;t get the response you wanted. You were honest, open and took that chance. but remember..one of those times you try...BINGO!!! You found it!!
You can't ever hit a home-run unless you get up thier and swing at the ball. Sometimes you strike out...other times you can get a hit. At least swing the bat!
Well If I was young it would be understandable but I’m not so I guess I need to grow up and speak up. If I don’t get the response I want then I can move on.  GIVE ME THAT BAT!!! Thx
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Well If I was young it would be understandable but I’m not so I guess I need to grow up and speak up. If I don’t get the response I want then I can move on. GIVE ME THAT BAT!!! Thx
There ya go! Either a hit or a strike out ..either way its ON WITH YOUR LIFE!
Good luck and wish you the best!
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Another thing... He didn’t really seem interested in ME until he found out I went out on a date with someone else and was making other plans with other people. Is that a red flag for me or a reality slap for him?
It could be either or neither, but you mentioned something more important in a previous post. He is not interested in a LTR at this point. It sounds to me like you are getting ready to ask a question that you already know the answer to. Perhaps you did not like the answer... |
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Thank you everyone, I read ya all and love ya all... appreciate your comments... truly, Tawny
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