IDK about everyone else but dating is hard enough w/o the minor depression & insecurities caused by days or even weeks of no matches or responses. the more sites you sign up for the more depressing it can be. i myself have even thought about seeing a therapist but then i think about it & laugh cause all those females that say they want someone real or a good guy wouldn't know one if he stood infront of them with a programmable traffic sign saying "ggod guy here". I know this for fact cuse I've written it every i can think of & nada.

I'm starting to learn why people only check these things once a week; you can go through all you're messages (if you get any) & everything else on multiple sites i an hr.

I'm sorry to say this (but it's true unfortunately) the human race is shallow & judgemental (no matter how hard we try not to be). So whether we like it or not the amount of interest shown to you is directly proportionate to how attractive you are.

All these sites are the same for the most part with a few differences between them. I personally have found the best one to be dating by Facebook. It may be the same type of setup but there is no $ anywhere to use anything. Everyone on there is real cause they have to have a Facebook account & profile in order to join dating.

DISCLAIMER- the preceding is only my thoughts & experiences. If you disagree with something plz let your opinion be know. Good luck to all on your search.

FB dating is not free of flaws, because FB as such is not free of flaws.

It doesn't take much to open a profile, and it takes some effort and patience, to remove the con artists.

Put it this way, I am a moderator in a football supporters group, and every day the same. Bitcoin traders galore, which is pretty annoying.

Hence, the fact, that someone has a FB profile, doesn't rule out he or she is a con artist.

Dating sites are tools.
You use tools.

You don't look at a freshly rebuilt engine and admire the 5/8 wrench.

If you are trying to use a welder as a feeler guage you will not get the best results.

Bolting a horseshoe to your engine will not increase your horsepower.

Only you know what you need.
If you are not getting what you need...
...You're either using the wrong tool
or
You are using the right tool wrong.

Figure out what you want.
Figure out what you have to get what you want.
Figure out which tool will work best with what you have to get you what you want.
Ignore everything which will not work with that tool.

When I was looking for someone I had a lot of problems finding anyone because I was searching for anyone.
It wasn't till I chose to search for only one that I finally found someone. I found her using Mingle2.

I don't think women go for looks as much as men. It's not for nothing they say men are visual and they look at the photos while we read the stories.

Also, there aren't all that many really good looking men in the world. Attractive men occasionally, yes, but that's not the same as good-looking.
So that debunks that nonsense argument of yours.

There is however a limit to what is considered attractive and acceptable. And someone who is so very big as what I see here exceeds those parameters by far. And usually someone like that doesn't really care much for themselves otherwise it wouldn't have gotten out of hand. UNLESS a disease is the cause of that of course. But when you love and respect yourself you also take care of yourself.
But I could not be with a man who's that big.
And yep, we can say that and yep, we can have that preference. Men do too, they're judgemental and demanding as bleep when it comes to looks, so why shan't we?

And you seem to think you're a good guy. Really? Look at your facial expression in that photo. That's NOT a good guy, NOT a happy guy (hence the weight issue?) and not someone that seems to be enjoying life.
Which is short isn't a good guy and not a man someone would want to be with.

Hi roseman

The best approach to dating is to have fun and let YOU shine . I think the issue may be with your expectation of dating sites . There are no guarantees (for anyone ). Dating sites are just a networking tool . How you use them , the effort you put in and your expectations /preferences all play a part . No one likes to feel rejected but try not to let that be your focus ., I am sure the mingle men will share their experiences and you will realise it is in no way specific to you or reflective of how you see yourself .

I haven’t peeked at your profile yet but profiles are an opportunity to market yourself .. does you profile do you service and reflect the genuine you? and the qualities about you are most endearing or interesting .

My gran used to love the saying .. “every teapot has a lid” . And there is truth In that . Yes society is biased towards attractive looking people but attraction is so much more . Embrace who you are.. work on changing anything which you feel is holding you back and have fun. The forum is a safe place to chat , share a laugh and build connections . New people join the site daily . You never now who will appear . Don’t let what seems like a lack of interest get you down . Keep in mind most people find negativity unattractive . Don’t waste your energy dwelling on being unsuccessful .. you are here to mingle .. make it happen best of luck .

Yeah, there is con artists here, but they are everywhere in this world.

Yeah, games like mutual match, can distract from the fact, that the forums are they main part of M2.

Yeah, there are people, who only focus on the outer appearance and disregard inner qualities, but again, this can happen everywhere in this world.

So ... give these forums a chance, there is something for everybody, many interesting topics and a couple of decent people around as well ... like everywhere in this world.


Larsi, with a human touch

Hi Roseman! Welcome to Mingle!

I'm not sure it's fair to say that people are shallow for showing interest to the people they find attractive on here. I mean, don't you have your own physical preferences? What makes you decide to email (or reply to an email from) one woman over another? Or do you just email everyone, regardless of their appearance, or even if they don't have a profile picture?

If you feel that you'd rather be recognized for your cerebral qualities, I would recommend posting regularly in the forums. Show off your brains and your personality. Lots of people meet in the forums. And since most scammers don't take the time to post regularly in the forums, you can usually safely assume that most posters are probably legit.

All the best to you!

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This!

I would recommend posting regularly in the forums. Show off your brains and your personality.

Sooner or later "nice guys" eventually show their true colors.

But do remember, dating sites like this one are only one of many ways to meet people. Good luck!