i'm just bored... lookin for some peeps to chat with. preferably ladies, preferably within the midwest..... REALLY doesn't matter tho, if you give me something to do to hellp waste my night away :D

are you going to tell the story of the date?
well, scheduled date... what happened?

oh yea sure well... it was kinda an open ended thing that didn't pan out. story's really short.

so i met a girl on JSH, and we were talking for a long time a couple nights... she lives in ohio... about a 4 hour ride from where i am, and she is younger, but she CLAIMED to be more mature, so me being the trusting guy i am took her word on what she said.

the plan was for her to come up to visit (she wanted to get away for a little while) and she was to get a room @ a hotel and we'd spend a few days time together. ...nothing neccisarly intimate, just meet out in public.

I kept asking her about specifics, if she had reserved a room, where we were going to meet, what time she planned on makeing it up here... all we had set was a day.

so the day comes... (wensday) NOTHING... never heard nothing.
She IM'd me earlier today but i was away, i responded.... it's been maybe 6 hours, she's been online since, and no responce.

That really sucks, I'm sorry to hear it. Did you talk on the phone or online?

well, that's why i'm not totally upset cause we only have talked online, i gave her my phone #, but she didn't have "her own phone" to give me a # for... so i told her to call me when she got here.... i've never heard. we have only talked online.

well if you go by woman time the trip isn't for another 4 weeks, and she's still got 8 more hours to respond before you consider her late.......

in which case... it's someone i wouldn't wanna be with any rate... lack of puncuality bothers me.

...further more she didn't even have a picture to show... so i was taking a lot of blind faith... and the more blind faith i take the more i prepare to be disapointed.

I agree. Punctuality is a sign of respect, not to mention common courtesy.

A word of advice- ALWAYS talk on the phone with ppl you meet and I'd do webcam too just to be safe. That way you'll recognize the person that shows up and it's an excellent way of determining if the person is who they say they are.

I've heard so many stories of men saying that the woman who shows up isn't even the same person as the pics they saw.

Myself, I've had ppl send me very old pictures or false ones too. I learned the hard way. And be firm on this if you think it's a good idea.

Sorry to hear about your experience. It's happened to me twice with the same guy (and the last time). Last week, we were going to meet up in the afternoon. He told me has a job where he can come and go and wanted to meet up...so I called him when I got off work, got his voicemail. Never heard back from him that day! He emails me the next day to say things just got busy and he couldn't get away.

Then yesterday morning we talked, going to give it another try...meet up in the afternoon. Later when I was trying to contact him an hour before we were aiming for, I got his voicemail...he didn't call me back at all. Supposedly he fell asleep ( had a headache that morning from a hangover) and didn't wake up until 9 last night. Sent an email for me to get today instead of calling.

We had been chating both on the computer and online, and we live within 25 miles of each other...but it's very frustrating to plan something, it falls through, without much communication on the other side as to why.

RATS...
If she had second thoughts...just call and say so.

Maybe too much too soon.

Wishing you better times and better females!

yea like i said, there was a LOT of clues that i was prepaired for disapointment... and i'm really not all too too disapointed, and thank you poly... i'm hopeing for some better females lol... i've met a lot actually, just noone in my area in my age range...

and kissingfan.... i understand believe me i do!

kissingfan...
this guy sounds like he is working the numbers. His excuses are so weak....
You deserve better...and more respect from him...Any guy should be lucky to meet you...

Cheers to better times!

what do you think guys.... the girl has been online most of today... she msg'd me first, i wasn't home, i've responded and messaged again SEVERAL times through the day... to no responces, should i try again?

Personally, I'd let it go. You have to wonder why this person would behave the way they have. As Dr. Phil says, "You teach people how to treat you" AND "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior".

Thanks poly for the uplifting comment...

And no mrose...move on to someone better and more worth your time and efforts.

sounds good guys lol...

so any rates, what's up everyone? this IS a chit chat thread after all, i'm bored.... any new years plans anyone?

This is my first year without someone to kiss at midnight.

On the upside, I will have both my kids with me...so it's movies and games for us.

not my first alone... =( kinda sucks, that was the thing i wanted most for the new year, ...everything else i want i KNOW i'll get, except finding someone special... granted i could try a lot harder, but i'm not putting in A TON of effort, because i'm currently working on other goals that i feel are more important to concentrate on... i just figured if i can find someone along the way that'd be a nice thing.


but yea, at this point the only lady i'm planning on kissing at midnight is named Mama Lucia... and she is a bottle of tequilla!

I am sorry to hear about both of your situations. I have had someone stand me up too. There are better people out there to be found : ) this will be my second New Year's alone.