With your last relationship?
Care to share how/why you broke up?
What did you learn?
If you could turn back time...would you have made the same choices?

Life is about learning.

I was married from 2009 - 2016. The ex wife turned out to have s violent streak in her and it got worse every day.

What did I learn? That men should not be ashamed to speak up for themselves when they are the victims of domestic abuse.

And if I could turn back time ... hard to say ... almost impossible to say ... but maybe I would have been the same eejit, dating her. But probably I would have ended the whole story much earlier.

We were friends for a few years. He wanted to get
Married I didn't. So we broke up. l learned
sometimes you cannot keep a friend, they will leave.

Yes, I would make the same choice.

Life is about Choices.

When we don't know, we don't know.
I heard some really good advice from an elderly woman once... She said Summer and Winter with a person before you marry them.
She meant Time

I hope you have healed

Larsi and I have the same ex-wife.

I missed him so much! But I continue to date whenever
I meet a Man I like.

My last relationship lasted almost 2 yrs.

Very nice guy and we’re still friends but I ended it due to the age gap.

I learnt that guys my own age would be more suitable for me.

No regrets.

My last relationship was with a girl that was my finance at one time before I had met my ex wife. After I got divorced I hooked up with my ex finance and things were going great for a while until I found out that she was also being very friendly with someone from her workplace. Poof I walked away from her. I was, am and always will be a one woman man and it wasn't in her to be a one man woman. I have nothing against others playing the field. It just isn't for me. If I had to compete with others for a lady's attention it would take me away from trying to be myself.

Long story. We drifted apart. It wasn't noticeable at first. I don't think she comprehends, to this day, that we've broken up even though I did so TWICE. She'll still call occasionally, like on Valentine's Day and will visit once in a while if she needs help with something. We were together for eight years and things were never what you would call bad, so I help if I can.

My prior relationship is null/void.
I chose poorly.
To choose wisely.
No, I wouldn't have dated her in the first place.

Even tho we didn't work out, even tho I gave it some time (6 mos) it just didn't work for me.
when I ended it I didn't hurt her.
I treated her with respect and honored her dignity.
She called me daily for about a week after and I tried to soothe her hurt feelings but I held my ground.
She did show up one day (about a year ago) wanting to come in and try to rekindle the relationship but I talked to her quietly and respectfully on the porch.
I could see desperation in her face and I felt sorry she found nobody yet.
I gave her a friendly kiss and hug, reassured her she will find the right person and went back inside.
She left and hasn't returned.

Why did we break up?

Cause she was an A-hole.

What did I learn?

Once an A-hole, always an A-hole.

Would I make the same choice again?

Probably, I'm an idiot.

What did I learn? Major cultural differences are almost impossible to overcome. Would I do it again? Definitely, she's beautiful, smart, and extremely hard working. We had a good run.

dated a married chick

iit turns out way unexpected ,,n a negative way

You expected your dalliance with a married woman to have a positive ending? Positive how?

Wasssssuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuup?
Not much.
Just imagining a great taste less filling argument between Fozzy bear and Twiggy.
"Wokka wokka wokka."
"Biddy biddy biddy."
"Wokka. Wokka. Wokka."
"Biddybiddybiddy!"


Oh.
I don't think it will be my last.


The positives to breaking up outweighed the negatives, and there were no major commitments to live up to?


That the relationship should end.


Turn back time to what point?
To the breakup? Yes.
To the time before the relationship? No. I would already know what was going to happen, so I'd choose to do something else entirely just for the new experience?


Not really.
Learning needs to be in service to something.
What you use that learning to do, making choices, decisions, experience, behavior, is more "life" than just "learning."

At least IMO.
Personally, I would respect the carpenter that only knew how to make simple bookshelves more than the person calling themselves a carpenter who was a perpetual student, read every book on carpentering, attended every expo, learned how to make anything and everything in the world, but never actually made a single thing, because they were too busy "learning."

I know I'd be far happier in a relationship with someone that was engaged, expressive, and communicative, than someone that had to hold themselves back and analyze everything in order to "learn."

That's just me though. I think life is about far more than learning.

And...another great answer from our resident AI.
Your personality matrix still needs some fine tuning but is advancing nicely.
Eventually you will be advanced enough to display human frailty and understand intent but you have made great strides since I first enountered you. You do still have patterns like Data from Star Trek The Next Generation.
It won't be long till you can pass as a real boy, then things will really open up for you.

I learnt what love can be like. Of course I had love before but this was an entirely different level of love.
In many ways the best partner and best match I've ever had.
I also got to experience what it's like to be an empowered feminine in a relationship. You need an empowered masculine for that. It was totally awesome!

I also found out what triggers I still had after 10 yrs with a narcissist.

It didn't last but it brought me a lot.

this post says more about you

Perhaps...