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Topic: compromise or common ground??!
Erick Joined Sun 02/14/21 Posts: 18	Sun 02/14/21 10:08 PM
i believe that if you're a relationship there shouldn't be any compromise because to me the word compromise has that negative connotation. i believe that a couple should be on the same page; finding the common ground.. so what are your thoughts?

artykay Joined Sat 11/18/17 Posts: 170	Sun 02/14/21 10:22 PM
Those famous words from the great John McEnroe just hit me like a sledgehammer. : "SSHHUURRLY,,, YOU CAN NOT BE SEEERIOUS!?"

Acquired Taste Joined Thu 01/02/20 Posts: 421	Sun 02/14/21 11:13 PM
IN THEORY IT SOUNDS RIGHT.

Unknow Joined Tue 04/28/20 Posts: 2929	Sun 02/14/21 11:42 PM
Sounds very immature to me actually.

Erick Joined Sun 02/14/21 Posts: 18	Mon 02/15/21 12:35 AM
Those famous words from the great John McEnroe just hit me like a sledgehammer. : "SSHHUURRLY,,, YOU CAN NOT BE SEEERIOUS!?" i am serious... and don't call me Shirley

Erick Joined Sun 02/14/21 Posts: 18	Mon 02/15/21 12:35 AM
Sounds very immature to me actually. how so... I'm curious

Unknow Joined Tue 04/28/20 Posts: 2929	Mon 02/15/21 12:48 AM
Sounds very immature to me actually. how so... I'm curious Look up the dictionary definition of compromise.

Erick Joined Sun 02/14/21 Posts: 18	Mon 02/15/21 02:31 AM
Look up the dictionary definition of compromise. i know what the word means I'm just asking on your part

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33339	Mon 02/15/21 02:43 AM
Finding common ground IS compromising.

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21258	Mon 02/15/21 04:18 AM
Finding common ground IS compromising. Yes!!!

Stu Joined Sun 07/23/17 Posts: 22537	Mon 02/15/21 07:12 AM
Those famous words from the great John McEnroe just hit me like a sledgehammer. : "SSHHUURRLY,,, YOU CAN NOT BE SEEERIOUS!?" i am serious... and don't call me Shirley Classic.

Trixie Joined Wed 01/20/21 Posts: 2116	Mon 02/15/21 07:32 AM
Finding common ground IS compromising. absolutely

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 02/15/21 07:38 AM Edited by Unknow on Mon 02/15/21 07:52 AM
Finding common ground IS compromising. Sort of. Compromising is BOTH sides giving up something(s) they desire for a common cause. I don't even think OP means compromise. I believe he is referring to sacrifice which is obviously just one side giving something up with no quid pro quo. That can be negative and painful. ETA: Neither side might is usually particularly happy with a compromise, and the common cause is typically trying to avoid a bad outcome as opposed to being happy. I suppose the crux is finding something you both can live with rather than "common ground." The differences will still be there, however.

Acquired Taste Joined Thu 01/02/20 Posts: 421	Mon 02/15/21 07:40 AM
it reminds me of my first wife...we seemed to be on the same page with everything...13 years later when the marriage was on the rocks (man to bartender--marriage on the rocks please) we went to a marriage counselor...i let her go first...what do u think the problem is here he asks her...true story by the way...well i am a compulsive liar and everything i have ever said to him is a complete lie... the wind was taken out of me needless to say...after half an hour more of confessions it was my turn...i'm not feeling well i said, maybe next week... next week i still wasn't feeling better so she went on and on for the hours...after we had lunch together and she admitted she felt so much better for letting go like that...end of story, end of marriage... so in theory it sounds good but....after what happened to me well woody allen put it best...https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=mockery+of+a+sham+woody+allen

Erick Joined Sun 02/14/21 Posts: 18	Mon 02/15/21 10:44 AM
Finding common ground IS compromising. i have to disagree.. common ground is being on same page compromising is to give up something just to spend time with someone

Erick Joined Sun 02/14/21 Posts: 18	Mon 02/15/21 10:44 AM
Sort of. Compromising is BOTH sides giving up something(s) they desire for a common cause. I don't even think OP means compromise. I believe he is referring to sacrifice which is obviously just one side giving something up with no quid pro quo. That can be negative and painful. ETA: Neither side might is usually particularly happy with a compromise, and the common cause is typically trying to avoid a bad outcome as opposed to being happy. I suppose the crux is finding something you both can live with rather than "common ground." The differences will still be there, however. That's exactly what I'm saying

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 02/15/21 11:26 AM
Finding common ground IS compromising. i have to disagree.. common ground is being on same page compromising is to give up something just to spend time with someone No, that's sacrificing. Compromising is BOTH sides giving up something.

Erick Joined Sun 02/14/21 Posts: 18	Mon 02/15/21 12:28 PM
No, that's sacrificing. Compromising is BOTH sides giving up something. Common ground is the overlap between the positions of parties that may otherwise disagree. "Finding common ground" is a technique people use to facilitate interpersonal relationships. ... Another aspect to establishing common ground is the use of visual cues.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14968	Mon 02/15/21 12:34 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Mon 02/15/21 12:35 PM
i believe that if you're a relationship there shouldn't be any compromise because to me the word compromise has that negative connotation. i believe that a couple should be on the same page; finding the common ground.. so what are your thoughts? I'm seeing a man now and he wants to date but I told him, we not on the Same page, so NO. We can remain in the friends zone, until he decides to Leave out.

Unknow Joined Tue 04/28/20 Posts: 2929	Mon 02/15/21 12:36 PM
The truth is we all compromise. Nobody is a perfect fit IMO. I do understand what you are saying though.... now. So perhaps the less we need to compromise, the happier we will be? Welcome to the forums