Aww thank you

I'm not dating just to date ! Seeking a lifetime serious Relationship.
So no. I'm not good at being a caretaker. I've worked as a CNA part-time long time in my life.

It came to my attention, somebody posted a birthday thread for you

I get what you are saying, but it starts with a date and then hopefully becomes a serious relationship. But what if that person isn’t looking for a ‘caretaker’, just somebody to understand their needs may change. As it has already been noted, none of us knows how our bodies will deteriorate with age. Somebody with an illness is aware their body may (or may not) deteriorate with time. If you were informed of those facts, would you be prepared to take a chance that it could turn in to love, or just respectfully decline to even meet?

Same thoughts here. Well said.
Tomorrow it could be us who is unwell, sick, whatever.

I get what you are saying, but it starts with a date and then hopefully becomes a serious relationship. But what if that person isn’t looking for a ‘caretaker’, just somebody to understand their needs may change. As it has already been noted, none of us knows how our bodies will deteriorate with age. Somebody with an illness is aware their body may (or may not) deteriorate with time. If you were informed of those facts, would you be prepared to take a chance that it could turn in to love, or just respectfully decline to even meet?
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I've met someone like this year's ago online! We met in person he traveled almost 1200 miles to meet and spend time with me. He wasn't ill then, if he was didn't say he was.I didn't here from him for months so I called. Later to find out he had diabetes and dialysis and was on list for kidney for 2 years.

I was devastated and realized this was one reason why he hadn't called are followed up on any talks about a future.

He also has his own business and was a veteran.

I wasn't in love but thought when we first met in person there might have been more.
I wished him well, he had a lot to deal with. He was also a pastor.


People should be upfront from beginning. Someone told me usually a person who is diabetic takes awhile before dialysis.

Yes... just because someone has an illness doesn't make them undateable. It matters more to me who he is as a person and how well we get along.

I am surrounded by illness , death and dying in my professional life . I would not choose that for my personal life without a good reason. I fully understand what a progressive incurable illness involves and the major impact such an illness would have on life . It is not something I would consider lightly . An existing relationship is different but dating , as in starting a new potential relationship , then my instinct would be to continue looking.

Agree with Blondey 100%, exactly how I feel about it.
And no, it's not my work, but I've seen enough what disease can do, including incurable ones as I grew up with a sister with one.
I've seen it up close and personal all my life in that sense, and having grown up with it it also serious left scars in me. Too personal, too long a story to tell here.

And like Blondey says, if your partner would get ill, that's different. You then don't walk out on them just like that.
But to start something new with it... nope.

It would also mean having to give up on my dreams and goals. I'd do that for no one, healthy or no.

Again I do understand what you are saying, but not all progressive illnesses are the same and I’m not talking about death or dying.

I’m sorry to hear you have such sad memories from your sisters illness.

Unfortunately in life a partner/husband/wife doesn’t always support the person who is diagnosed with an illness.

But all illnesses are different, and doesn’t mean you would be asked to give up your dreams and goals, after all the person who has the illness probably has dreams and goals of their own and wouldn’t want anyone asking them to give those up!

I've met someone like this year's ago online! We met in person he traveled almost 1200 miles to meet and spend time with me. He wasn't ill then, if he was didn't say he was.I didn't here from him for months so I called. Later to find out he had diabetes and dialysis and was on list for kidney for 2 years.

I was devastated and realized this was one reason why he hadn't called are followed up on any talks about a future.

He also has his own business and was a veteran.

I wasn't in love but thought when we first met in person there might have been more.
I wished him well, he had a lot to deal with. He was also a pastor.


People should be upfront from beginning. Someone told me usually a person who is diabetic takes awhile before dialysis.







I’m so sorry that happened to you, and yes I agree someone should be upfront to give the potential date the opportunity to decline meeting for those very reasons you stated.

Have you seen the movie "me before you"? If no you have to see it!

No offense, but I don't get is why you can't seem to accept some people say "no"?
I don't do political correct BS games. You ask a question, I answer honestly. If you cannot accept that then maybe don't ask questions.

No offence taken, and of course I accept some people say no. There is no political correct BS game here I was merely putting across the other side

To be honest i would really date someone with an illness, at least illness are temporary and at a point in time. my lover could recover so why not!.

I will look it up

That film is such a heartbreaker ,

I will grab tissues

‘The Theory of Everything’ is another good film