This is a Tough Question . Imagine a Woman losing her Husband at an Early Age . Can she date and go for a Second Marriage immgdiately after her Husband's Death. Is this RIGHT or WRONG ?????????? What's Your Opinion ??????

It's not up to society to decide what's right or wrong for a person in such a personal matter. She can do whatever feels right to her.

People may find it strange and judge, but it really isn't anyone's business but the widow's.
I think it would be mostly the deceased's relatives that have a problem with it.

I've seen with my own Eyes such Womans being caged in a room and she is not even allowed to Go out . And if, she has a Chance to go out for a while 100's of Bad Comments on Her from the Passersby . Here i want to Pin Point that . If a Flower falls on the Thorns or the Thorns Falls on the Flower , The Flower is Blamed . Poor Woman what she can Do????????

Will The Husband's Relatives Keep Quiet . They will always point out to her and say YOU brought Bad Luck along with you !!!!!!!!!!!

Are you meaning this happens to the women in a Muslim culture? Westerners are not so judgemental LP

I was told I had a curse on me because my husband died. I told him to pull his head in and f*@k off.

There are some crazies out there for sure!!.


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Not up to me, when a person should start dating
after losing a spouse.

That's not what I meant I think often it's more that the relatives are not over the loss yet and still grieving so it hurts them when the deceased's partner is already done with grieving and moving on.
I think they then easily come to thinking that the widow/widower never loved their loved one otherwise they couldn't move on that fast, and more of that blabla.

Well, this is awful...
First, let's make it clear that one thing is to have an opinion and another thing is to believe you can act because of an opinion. Nobody has the right to, as you said, cage her, insult, finger point...
Having said that, we are still entitled to an opinion I guess, and the opinion depends on the concept of 'immediately'
If you mean the day after... well I would find it very inappropriate for sure. If you mean one year it is normal, six months I would find it a bit odd, one month very odd.
But in all cases, it would be her business and we should keep our opinions to ourselves. We also have to keep in mind that a relation could be less sound than it seemed, and in some cases the premature end of it could come as a relief. Judging without knowing is always wrong. Finding something odd, is allowed though, at least in my opinion

if she's really cute and wants to date me especially if she has no kids then it's cool.
if she has kids depending on the amount of kids her cuteness has to exponentially rise to the number of kids to remain cool.
otherwise it's up to the widow but i have heard it can play havic on the kids especially if they are still heartbroken.

I forget about other cultures, and their rules on conduct towards women. It's a shame and sad. As far as what they can do, I'm not sure. But here in the US, if not for a few women who stood up for our rights long ago, we might be dealing with the same kind of treatment. My heart goes out to those who live where they have no choice to decide for themselves, without suffering harsh treatment.

After two years is appropriate! Just my opinion.

Many men want to at least date Sooner.


I have a man friend who is a widower 63. He married young and was married for 37 years .

He seemed to not be ready to date for 2 years. Not that common.


But men don't usually hurry to marry again.

Good answer!

I agree!

The depth of love a woman feels for her husband cannot be standardised , nor should it be . How much and how long she grieves will be influenced by that love , the relationship they shared and how she handles grief/loss. What matters is she is the one in control .

IDK, there are a lot of predators "out there". And a lot of just bad decision making after a loss. I think anybody should wait for a period of time, make sure they have their head on straight, before jumping into or looking for another relationship.

Absolutely!! Why should a widow deny herself happiness because society deems it inappropriate.

I think "RIGHT or WRONG" is too simplistic.

I think it would be important to know the reasons "why" she is trying to "go for a Second Marriage immediately after her Husband's Death."

I mean there's a huge difference between:
1. An 18 year old stripper married a 98 year old oil tycoon and he croaks a day after their marriage. Then she immediately decides she's "bi" and marries the dead guys ex-wife.

2. A woman in an arranged marriage that lives in a society where marriage offers a lot of protection.

3. A 20 year old woman that married their middle school sweetheart when she turned 19, and the day after he dies she's begging some random internet stranger her age to marry her, or joining sugar baby dot com the next day to find a 98 year old oil tycoon.

4. A woman who is 20, been married 16 times, and each guy has died under "mysterious" circumstances.

I mean in some contexts her behavior or reasoning is something that "society" would want to judge as "wrong" to try and discontinue.

Other situations or contexts are warning signs that should show that something is "Wrong" and she needs help.

Other situations or contexts are simply indications of the "right" tools for that society.

Different times, freedoms, cultures, people, choices.
No set rules...
There are many types of widows. Some probably we're glad to have the marriage over. And some may mourn for however long is necessary to heal.