I found someone from UK but she only wants friendship. She said she hates relationships. Anyway on here what is the best thing? Relationship? or Friendship? or Friendships 1st before Relationship?. Is friendships lead to relationships?

its the best way to start....a friendship means mutual trust and support...it

is also a big part of a healthy relationship....we can never have enough

friends...you are thinking like a man....women do not take in info like men do

nor do they process it the same way....one reason for so many

misunderstandings between men and women....you can not have passion without

trust.......a woman needs to know her feelings and emotions are safe in your

hands....p,s. and of course they need to know your of good moral character

and sound mind....good luck

Have you considered the fact a friendship IS a relationship?
Sometimes friendships can be very intimate but that doesn't mean they are automatically a sexual relationship.

I have 2 men friends but they're not relationships. Friendships would be more on their part but I'm not into them that way.

A woman controls the sexual as far as making it happen.
If she don't Want you, it's not going to be Green light


We have been out to eat and serval activities plus talked on phone for hours sometimes.

Ugh. Awkward!!

It all depends on how that person thinks? As a woman if I say to a man 'We are just friends." what I am really saying is actually we are never going to have a romantic anything.

But... who knows how she thinks?
I would move on. Life is too short

There is no "best" thing.

There's only what you want.

What do you want.

Do you want a "relationship" (whatever that means), or do you want a "friendship" (whatever that means)?

And however you define it, does the person, you're wanting one with, define it the same way?

Because you both may want a "relationship" (or "friendship") but you both have different understandings of what that means.

Even if there was some hypothetical "best thing," it doesn't mean it's the "best thing" for you personally, or that you (or the person you're interested in) are even capable of that "best thing" with each other.


I have no idea what your life situation is.
For all I know from the perspective of, say, your therapist, a "friendship" is the best thing for you.
For all I know from the perspective of, say, your mother, a "relationship" would be the best thing for you.
For all I know from the perspective of, say, the universe, neither would be the best thing for anyone.


"Friendship first" is best in hindsight.
When you meet someone and your interaction and time spent together is so organic and natural that you never really question "where is this going? Where do I stand? What are we? What's going on? We need to do this, that, the other, work on, if this doesn't happen or they don't say that then it must mean, blah blah blah."
You take natural and organic "steps" that you aren't really questioning or analyzing because they're obvious and don't need analyzing as they circumvent your insecurities.

"Friendship 1st before a relationship" as a conscious proactive choice, where you're trying to control the "steps" of the relationship are a bad idea.
It then just becomes power and control games, with a high potential of manipulation.


Not between people that are mentally and emotionally healthy.


It not only depends on what you want (not what the internet thinks is "best"), but why you want it.
Some people want to build a family, grow into their community.
A lot of people are simply seeking a palliative and are using other people.

Thank you.

Yeah it should be move on.

If you honest chat me ok

Lucky to find a foreign girlfriend here..

A long romantic friendship before marriage is more likely to lead to a long and happy married life in my opinion.

Of course I am honest. Nobody ever have anything if they are not honest.

You mean, is it not good to have a foreign girlfriend here?