A woman is to be the man's help mate.
Would you be willing to support a man financially?

Those who are financially secure.

I have no problem with the that as long as he keeps a clean home and cooks my favorite meals.

I'm not willing to be financially supported.

I have no problem with that as long as he keep
Taking care of me too

Now there's a reply that makes me smile. Good for you!!

I have done that when younger, not knowing what I know now.
What I've learnt is that a man doesn't want to be supported financially by his woman.
If a man would simply accept that, he's not the man I want to be with.

I would likely still offer. But to be honest, I wouldn't want to permanently do that either.

By the way, I don't know what you mean exactly by 'a woman is to be a man's help mate'?
But I am not looking to be a man's help mate.

agreed yet i would say that a man's skills are more logical than a womans

to all those who are willing...
please marry me! :-)

My standards for housekeeping were established by my mother. She kept a clean house, I keep a clean house. If my dad kept house or my brothers & sisters kept house, my standards would be different. Men and children often have different tolerances of what constitutes clean & dirty.

I am disabled, I will never hold a job ever again. I've adjusted my living standards to my lower income. I am financially independent and do not require anyone's help in that department. If adjustments are needed, I change to reflect my resources. I live below my means. I still build savings.

I've dated women with higher income than me. It was always their money which got in the way of our relationships. Having more money made them believe they had power and influence over me.

My current GF has more wealth than me. She has yet to try to use her money to dictate to me what I should do or think. Perhaps that is a part of why we are still together after a few years. Well, that and I really like her personality and presence.

Its my experience, whenever money is 'in front' of the relationship there is a power struggle. Its not the money itself but the attitudes it creates. The second there is an authority chain in a relationship, the relationship gets unbalanced. I see it in others a lot. I've experienced it with roommates as well.

Expectations work both ways in relationships.
If I keep your house I expect you to buy me things. If I buy you things I expect you to keep my house.
Expectations change the conditions of the relationship and get in the way of sharing one with the other. They break the concept of unity a relationship needs to last.

Many relationships and marriages the woman's income is more than the man.
That's not a Problem for many men.


The topic is more about a woman supporting a man. That's happening too.



I've never had to do that! My husbands had good jobs.


They also never had a Problem getting a woman, not on the internet.

Only with a solid prenup... And do you have references??

Me either!

What do you consider financially secure??? . I consider it at least owning your own home (not renting/flatting etc) and having a well paid career /lucrative income source . Curious how many mingle woman consider themselves financially secure ., besides me and you many who have been through divorce find themselves starting over (that includes men) . Sadly , It is concerning how many people over 45 do not have financial security .

As for whether I would support a man financially . ... If his reason for not being able to support himself were valid . (To me) ... that said I prefer a relationship in which both partners contribute and work towards financial goals together

Welcome back girth

The words of your mind

someone to beware of

If there was an existing marriage between us, & the man became disabled after at least 5 years after, & no children, then yes, I would support him financially.

No marriage, just living together no matter the length of time, with or without kids, hell no I wouldn't support him.

Also it would have to be an actual physical disability caused by no fault of his own. If he wound up paralyzed due to Alcohol, drugs, skydiving etc. then I'm not supporting the results of such bad decisions.

This is why you ask about family history when dating someone: if every other man in his family gets strokes at 50, or has mental illness for example, then you can clearly see his potential future health wise, due to genetics. Biology matters in choosing a mate.

DMC

I found your response interesting.

It seems you put real thought into it.

curious .., what if the situation is reversed and you become seriously ill or disabled . Do you expect his financial support ????