Humm if you put that on the other foot it can get annoying if the other person does not like them...

Had a guy that I agreed to meet for lunch told him dutch only.. I like to have a margarita with my meal when eating Mexican food.. Got there and well there was no connection at all at the end of the meal I went to get my check which I had asked for separate checks.. He grabbed it.. I told him, thank you, he continued to message me told him I was not interested in another meeting he would not stop.. Then had the balls to go off on me saying all I wanted was a free meal. And well ya can guess pretty much what I said to him.. for I'm one that will voice my opinion..

So yea if there is no connection for the other person it can get a bit annoying...

There comes a time if the other person is not responding then they are not interested in you as you are them...

Well... there actually are love, dating, relationship coaches that advise to get this mindset that if he ain't there or you're not in touch with him he doesn't exist.
That's not to play games, but to help keep a woman to stay centred and focused in and on her own life and not make a man and a connection the centre of her universe.
Many women do that. They let go of their standards and values, even change their own agenda to accommodate a guy. Even when not really in relationship yet!

And yes, I have noticed that men are put off when a woman sends a lot of messages, too often and so on.
I guess it feels like smothering, too much, and also that he's "got you" without having to make an effort. And ppl can argue and say it's the 21st century, but men don't like a woman offered on a silver platter.

Also, if a man messages me all the time, all day long, every day, I too get fed up. Too much is just too much.
A healthy balance is important.

I worked with a guy whose wife would call him at least five or six times a day, sometimes three or four times within an hour. He ended up getting divorced.

I usually got the opposite complaint, that I don't message or call enough. That or I didn't initiate calls or messages, that he had to do all the work and I sat back waiting for him to call or message first.

I've been guilty of both. In trying not to be too pushy or a pest, I went to the other extreme and appeared aloof. Although, one of the times when I was accused of not initiating was in the mist of dealing with the aftermath of a hurricane, so calling a potential boyfriend wasn't exactly forefront on my mind, haha.

As far as my getting annoyed, it mostly happens after I realize we don't click. Only I fail to tell him that, so he keeps contacting me. Or when he texts and I don't respond immediately, he keeps texting wondering where I am or if I'm okay, that is sweet of him to care, but very annoying. The only other time I get annoyed is when I make it known not to call or message me while I'm working, and he does.

I agree with Tom, being honest and upfront from the start concerning contacting each other would avoid a lot of problems. And since we're all different, what works for one, might not work for the next one. One man might get annoyed because you message too much, so you don't message the next one that much, and he gets offended. It's really frustrating, haha. But speaking up and talking about it would eliminate that frustration.

no it's good thing as per my point of view

Friends can be too much too.
I was chatting to a friend on the phone and told her I had to go into the movie theatre now. It was very quiet waiting for the movie to start, I was sitting in the front row. She rang me and my ringtone was loud and quirky. The mischievous thing just laughed and laughed when I talked to her next.

We are not friends anymore, but not because of that.

The more contact, the better because that means they are into you.

My personal men friends tell me to call anytime I'm available!

They don't have a problem with talking for long periods of times. But we know each other personal and hdve been out together!



Online I contact Men once if they don't respond, I say they are not interested and Delete message in a short time.

doesnt bother me as i like clingy gfs, It is better than a gf who does not message you for 30 days and then gets angry at you for not wishing her happy birthday.

Don't be so sure of that. Not everyone wants constant contact. I don't. To the point of leaving my cell in my pickup while working. I shot a possible girlfriend down when she texted me a bunch of times during a workday. It ran my phone down. When it went dead, I just went home and plugged it in, I never checked it for messages when it got charged up. She got mad because I didn't. That sort of circled the drain, I'm glad it did.

hello redrider I am sure lots of men have had similar issues ., a close friend told me about his experiences which was the motivation for starting this thread .

yes

This

yes... this has happened to me ... I thought I was a good friend but they where put off by all my messages ... not by phone...


but now is a differnt story ... and older ... I do not do that anymore ... I can take a hint ...

never enough

it depends on how much he likes you or if he is "hooked" already...when starting out or if he doesnt like u that much say because you aren't that likeable for instance than yes you can text too much....if you really have mojo you can test it by seeing what you can get away with.

I will not take personal calls
while at work, other than for
emergency reasons.