hey ppl
hope ya'll have a good day. mines could be better now that i've gotten to see all my family today. well heres the story. recently my g/f broke up with me, and its hard to get over it after being with her for the last 8 months. i was suppose to spend xmas eve but at the last minute she doesnt know what she wants to do. hours later when i called her back she told me she was going to her ex b/f's family house and spend the day there. (the ex b/f who was abusive to her). when i asked her what time she's comming back from there, it took her 6-10 seconds to answer the question. thats when i started thinking. my next questions to her is who's gonna be over there. finally when i asked her why would she make a 2 hour drive to see him then seeing me, she flipped and got mad and as a result, she wont talk to me anymore. she all thinks i dont trust her. today i was suppose to spend the whole day with her today but she dont want me to see her anymore. i have gifts for her and her kids and when i called her this morning she wont answer and never called me back. i dont know if i did something wrong or was it all her. should i keep trying or should i move on? anyways other then that my day today is better and i have family and friends are happy to see me.. if you have any advice or suggestions about this let me know i wish ya'll marry x-mas

Hey...Christmas is a weird time....has different affects on different people....let the dust settle and see how things go in the new year....

Without hesitation move on. It is not a good situation - the fault isn;t yours

move on......she said she doesnt want to see you.....take the hint!

don't walk away.....RUN!!!!!!!

Definetely dump her, she started it, and something is fishy....

Sometimes us women can be strange and say we are going to do one thing but not really do it cause what we are doing sometimes is we are doing it to see how you are really going to react to the situation we are putting in front of you so sweetie give her some time let her go if she comes back then its meant to be if she don't then just simply move on...So just let her do her thing she will eventually regret it and when she does she will call you and tell you exactally how she feels and what it is that she wants...SO give her some space and don't chase her cause sometimes she may run the other way and maybe she just may not be wanting a commitment

oh dear u poor thing go onmeet someone who will treat u better

some might call this playing head games....but thats just me

NO not at all I am not at all one to be playing any kind of games I just know how us women are I am speaking from a bi persons standards and I know how women work

Like I said..........but thats just me, LOL

I am really just posting more for reaction than anything else. Never take me too seriously

I say walk away...

It will only cause more problems down the line...

Dump her quick! Take her presents back or give them to someone else who deserves them. Give the kids their presents anyway 'cause kids always deserve gifts. Just take hers back and by yourself something you need.

thank you ppl for your suggestions. today i try to get her off mind and so far its not ruing this special day. if she decids to come back she regret it seriously. while start fresh for the new year

Hun if she is willing to go to her ex's instead of spending it with you, there is something wrong with that picture. If she cared you as much as she should, she would be willing to talk to you and give you a reason, not just leave you in the cold and guessing.
Even though she may still have feelings for you, and she may be confused as to what is it she really wants. If she can't talk to you about it, then i would say it's over, as it takes communication on both parts to make a loving relationship work.
And don't worry it takes time, but you will get over it, and find someone that you can talk to, and that will want to talk to you.
Wishing for you a happy and fun New Year
nightimefantasy

cause i know she wont and after all this happend she aint getting me back for good. part of me happy being single again and free :)

Let me see if I have this right:

1. You were supposed to spend time with her on Christmas/Christmas Eve,-- you had plans.

2. At the last minute she decides to go to her abusive ex-boyfriends family's house which is a two hour drive instead of hanginout out with you?

3. When you questioned this (as any sane person would) she got upset with you and now won't talk with you?

I'm all for overlooking the stresses and the linked behavior that the holidays can bring, but this doesn't appear to be that.

Only you know what is best for you here, but good luck.

-Drew

I promise you if you dont leave her alone, she will be leading you around by your nose. The one and only thing you should be thinking about is yourself. Look your best, be your best. Work on yourself. The one thing that a women like that hates, is to see that you are doing better without her. The more you beg the more she knows you will be there to fall back on. Build you life so that she and everyone else knows you are the prize. A real MAN

hope this makes you feel a little better. my last gf brook up with me the day after my b-day. the only good thing was at lest I got a PS2 out of. hope things get better for you and good luck

Have her meet you somewhere and give her gifts for kids. They shouldn t suffer....

If she agrees to meet you try and talk if all she wants is kids gifts then move on, BUT if she is willing to talk be polite but stern and make sure she knows your upset and ask obvious questions.

Based on answers you can make your own decision.

Good luck