Topic: Single mothers
Totage's photo
Sat 02/27/21 01:31 PM

Can YOU point out where I stated it was your fault for being a single mother?

You're LITERALLY saying it dude. 🤷


So, what's your point?

LarchTree's photo
Sat 02/27/21 02:02 PM
Edited by LarchTree on Sat 02/27/21 02:08 PM
If someone wants to raise a kid but relationships are not beneficial, then I do not see it as a problem, I see it as a choice of the better thing one was made for.

Tobi Crouse's photo
Sat 02/27/21 02:35 PM
I love single mothers

no photo
Sat 02/27/21 03:26 PM
So, what's your point?

You're being RUDE to single mothers. You don't know the whole damn story to every sungle mothers out there.

Totage's photo
Sun 02/28/21 12:56 AM

So, what's your point?

You're being RUDE to single mothers. You don't know the whole damn story to every sungle mothers out there.


Not really, if you can read.

Rock's photo
Sun 02/28/21 11:29 AM
As I've most likely made at least one woman
a single mother...


Cheers, to single moms everywhere! drinks

Michael's photo
Sun 02/28/21 01:10 PM
from a natural selection perspective, it would make little sense for a man to want to marry a single mother seeing that he would be spending resources on raising another man's offspring. Generally, men marry women for their youth and beauty and women marry men for their resources. I prefer to date women who I can take on dates, go on trips with, and can spend all week watching a dr who marathon in our underwear. if you have children you can't do that without warping their minds.

no photo
Sun 02/28/21 09:10 PM
Not really, if you can read.

Yea, I really CAN'T read🤧:slight_frown::skull:

Michael's photo
Sun 02/28/21 09:35 PM
it is similar to that of why single women don't want to date single fathers. Women want the man's resources to go to raise their children. She likely will view another woman's offspring as a threat to hers due to fewer resources being available to raise them. Basically, it is easier to date someone who does not have children as there will be fewer factors to complicate things. In order for single parents to go out on a date, they have to find someone reliable to take care of their kids. As families in the USA are not as close as they are elsewhere it makes it difficult to have a relationship with a single parent as there is always the chance of having to cancel trips due to a sick child.
This is one reason I like dating Asian and Latin women. Families are closer. If I am dating a single mother and we decide to go on a trip, her family will watch her children. in the USA there is no guarantee of this. I don't have a problem dating a single mother as long as she has time to go places with me and I do not feel like an ATM.

Rico Tyler's photo
Sat 01/15/22 09:09 PM
I don't think being a single mother is about preferring it that way. If your talking about women who got the child when single, and not a mother with kids after divorce, they often desire a child so much but they cannot find the right partner to have them with so they decide to do it alone.
A tough choice, especially since you cannot fathom what it's like to have and raise children until you have 'em.

There's also women who get pregnant and the guy does a runner, leaving the mother pregnant and having to decide whether to keep the child or not.
I know one, my daughter's age, who had that happen to her. She kept the child but it's not easy. Financially struggling, also struggling with time, and there's no one to help you out like when you have the father there too. In this case the father does nothing, doesn't pay anything etc. etc.
She said the worst thing is you have no one to share the good and funny stories with. Sure there's grandparents but they don't know and see the child the way a parent does.
So even in that sense it's a lonely road and she'd much preferred it differently: with the father of her child.

I myself have been a single mother after divorce. And hell, that was NOT what I preferred at all!
My ex did help out financially and had the kids every other weekend.

And selfish? Excusez moi!? I made the decision in my children's interest, especially my son's.
And even if there's no such reason, if parents do not love each other anymore the way they should it's much healthier for the kids if they split up. Living in a home with a very ill vibe, parents maybe arguing and simply not being happy is one of the worst things you can do to your children.
In that sense deciding to divorce is the best thing you can do for them. it brings back peace and happiness in the home, of course after a period grieving and of getting used to the new situation.
But children adept quickly. Not, however, to living in a stressful situation with 2 parents who come to dislike or hate one another.

I wanna meet you

no photo
Wed 01/26/22 10:39 AM
Many a Marxist Perspective on a Marxist generated issue:

The single mother phenomena began as result of Marxist Social Programs that literally excluded a Father Figure in the household.....The Left first preyed heavily on minorities, primarily the black race, to buy votes with these programs...and the Marxists like to try to further FIX the problems with more social programs.

Overt objectives of Karl Marx in his 1858 "Communist Manifesto" were trampel the Collective Church, Trample Tradition Judeo Christian Values, Trample the Traditional Christian Marriage, Trample the Traditional Family, infiltrate & overtake Academia, Media & Bureaucracy......

ONE has the admit the Marxists have been unequivocally successful in making their "Social Garbage" the Norm.

One of their biggest Leaps Left was JFK signing Executive Order #10,001 which legalized (albeit unConstitutionally) Unionization if Federal, State and Local Governmental Workers.....

Although the punishment was too Polite and too late, he did have his brains splattered all over wife Jackie's Lap and the trunk deck of that Convertible Limo......and a closet Marxist was assassinated by an Overt Marxist.....Poetic, huh.

no photo
Sat 01/29/22 06:25 PM
Edited by Unknow on Sat 01/29/22 06:26 PM
just being a good parent is a triumph, regardless of marital status.

kids need nurturing, if you can do that on your own, okay great.. just doesnt make it better or worse than the traditional format - that is, kids need both a mum and dad in their lives to balance it out, if possible.

Capcapcap's photo
Wed 02/02/22 01:57 PM
Check out my over up and under in Des Moines

no photo
Wed 02/02/22 02:55 PM
The majority of America’s social problems can be linked to single mothers.

James 's photo
Tue 02/08/22 08:00 PM
I lived a pretty careless life growing up oh, I was drinking and smoking at the age of 12 and by the time I was 14 15 I was into hard drugs. Lost my father when I was four my mother did her best oh, I did have stepdad for 9 years and I would have resentments toward him for the way he raised us for most of my life. Went to prison in 2009 on a 3– 6 did 3 years came home found love with somebody. 3 years later we had a child oh, my first child I was 40 years old and when he was born my whole life changed. I started caring about life my health I want to stop drinking and doing drugs I vowed to get clean and sober. Unfortunately my son's mother wasn't on board with that she wants to continue to party so we split when my son was 16 months old and I've been raising them on my own for The Last 5 Years. I have spent the last five years getting my life together getting clean and sober putting down solid roots in recovery. Got my license back after 13 years I have a few years clean and sober now and I I am a certified recovery Peter Advocate/ recovery coach I also work a part-time job at McDonald's. The Last 5 Years of my life have been a lonely Journey but I wouldn't change it for anything. 5 years getting my life together building bonds memories with my son, I enjoy being a single parent yes it's lonely but I don't mind raising my son as a single father. I know that my son asks me all the time about his mother so he's seen about a handful of times in the last 5 years. He always says to me mommy loves me and she's going to come see me soon, it breaks my heart and I am fearful I'm getting back in another relationship for now I have him 2 think about. I don't want another woman role model/mother figure breaking his heart walking out on us. I just know that my next relationship I get in I wanted to be the last. I need to find me a good Christian woman who will love me for me and love my son as her own. Anyone out there knows anybody like that son of my way thanks for listening.

no photo
Wed 02/09/22 12:49 AM
MOM is the Blessings that no one can replace.
:cherry_blossom::pray::cherry_blossom:

Keoki's photo
Sat 02/26/22 11:31 AM
Hi, just joined. I'm exploring. I'm not sure if this is support or judging.

I've had 6, children, most adults. Probably older than many here. Im 73. I have a 4 and 5 yo daughter. My soon to be x is 27 yo. We had 9 years together. I left NM in April. The girls Will be joining me soon Honolulu.

I don't need to be judged nor am I seeking advice. If you are going crazy and its all crashing in... I'm a good listener, wise and if you want to talk... my name is Keoki. I'm also a professional Santa Claus.

Depression and feeling overwhelmed are difficult. Not impossible. You got this far. My girls never stop, until I read them a bedtime story? then I sing them the Beatles lullaby.

A friend once told me... "check in. before you check out!"

Ok, Aloha Mia Kauko. we are all connected.

Reche's photo
Mon 03/07/22 12:37 AM
I don't know what to say.

no photo
Sun 07/10/22 07:29 AM
Gobsmacked by the venemous comments made by certain men. You really have no idea what you are talking about.

Try walking a day in a single mother's shoes. You might learn a valuable lesson.

anie's photo
Mon 07/18/22 06:59 AM
its better being a single mother when you can provide the needs of your kids alone... rather than having an unproductive man beside you... i salute single mothers:rose: