When I'm drunk? Very rarely does that happen, as if I'm not working, then I've got my son with me all the time. No way would I get drunk, while he's there. There's a time and a place for that. As for staying away from dangerous places? Pretty hard when you're coming home from a football match, as you never know who you might bump into. Gotta keep your faculties and wits about you at all times!

ever planned on not getting drunk on first date but got drunk anyway? like it just happened and you couldn't stop knowing you should stop?

Err no, cos if you were on a first date, you'd want to give a good impression of yourself, not blow things before they've even started! I can handle my drink, but as I said I have my business to run and my son to look after. That's my top two priorities and getting drunk is way down on that list!

I suppose it is possible that some culturally based differences only reveal their true impact after a while, but I wonder if people would even get together to begin with if there are such big differences?
I guess it depends what we're talking about.
I've had to seriously think about how much I valued my own culture and all that it entails and if I was willing -and able- to let go of that. Twice, first time when I was in love with an Aboriginal man, second time a Balinese man.
I decided both times I couldn't and wouldn't give up on my roots. So it never really took off.

The one time that tripped me up was with an Englishman, me thinking it would be the same as we both are from the same Western culture.
Guess again. Now those differences could've been overcome and weren't the reason we broke up, but it wasn't always easy.
And like I said before, there are certain things you won't ever understand -including fun things- about the other because it's based on their culture which is not native to you.

I won't go there again. I want a great relationship and not with the extra issues that come with cultural differences.

experience does make a person refined one. your response was such incredibly strong and comprehensive.

I think of culture in a much wider context .
For example ...
The culture of being a woman , a sister , a daughter etc ...
We all identify with many cultures and although we may share many
similarities we share as many differences . Culture is so much more more than ethnicity or religion . We are shaped by our environment, the way we relate to others and the values we identify with . In other words there are many sub-cultures within any given culture . What we accept ,reject or compromise on in ourselves and others comes back to what we value and what we are prepared to risk In life and love .

https://youtu.be/eQUVvqBifAk

I suppose, it is okay, that I like Celtic, even if I am an Atheist? I would never support the Huns, they are some fascist and imperialist twits.


OT: Mixing is always a wee difficult, if there is no mutual acceptance.

https://youtu.be/eQUVvqBifAk

I had the good fortune of growing up in a multicultural multilingual family and community. I've also traveled a bit of the world. So yes, my personality is a mixture of cultures. And I've learned to respect others however different they may be.

that just made me question if you accepted and adopted some foreign culture thing that was somewhat or somehow offensive according to your own culture? or multiple cultures? I suppose they all were compatible with and uh supportive of what you already believed in? that's how you embraced those values easily?

If only they wore "E.O." buttons on their clothing...would be so much easier.

Maybe it's easier if you give at least 1 example of what you consider as offensive since you keep going on about it.
What are we actually talking about here because to be honest it's a bit vague. What's offensive to one could be totally insignificant to another. So can you be more specific and give one or more examples of what you're up against?

Also, you have to bear in mind that most here are Western and we are used to dealing with loads of cultural differences as huge numbers of people from other countries and cultures have come to our countries.

Of course there are things that some folks believe is acceptable that I find offensive; shooting young girls for trying to get an education, or complete intolerance of others because of race or religion.

If you think about it, the cultures are not the problem.
If that were the case, every time those cultures interact, there would be conflict no matter who it is.

The problem is with the individuals.
The bigotry of the offender and the lack of self-esteem of the offended.
Break either and the conflict loses power.
It becomes a non-issue.

Seems easy enough but people tend to hold onto these traits of bigotry and low self-esteem.
Someone suffering from low self-esteem can also take offense at general statements and apply them as an attack on their culture.
It escalates a personality conflict which focuses on cultural differences as ammunition.

People say and do many things in anger which do affect relationships.
Once it is said or done, it can't be unsaid or undone.
Oh, you can try to cover it up with other words or deeds but once done, its out there.

The trick is to have self-control so you don't start the battle in the first place.
Learning about their culture alleviates your cultural ignorance, which often leads to misunderstandings and offenses.
Being prejudice against another culture in general is a sign of a weak mind.
Allowing individuals to define a culture is idiotic.
Cultures are more than one individual.

If you are in conflict with someone the conflict is with them and not their culture. If your culture and their culture do not align, why are you in a relationship with them?

Choose Wisely

ha ha ha a that`s good

hello mystery person ., I tried to peek at your account but you had deactivated lmao .., always nice to know who I am having a discussion with

As for your question it would depend on the cultural value .. for example some cultures value female genital mutilation .. not something I would ever support and would unlikely continue to pursue interaction with someone who thought this practice was culturally acceptable .

"clash of two cultures" OR Culture Gap?

I would think Culture Gap. It does need mutual respect and understanding. As simple as that. In fact, your title needs to be more specific. (Well, the OP has left the stage lol)