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Topic: Anyone have advice for me?
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Thu 05/28/20 05:54 PM
Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?

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Thu 05/28/20 06:39 PM

Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?


27 years old and you don't know?

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Thu 05/28/20 06:43 PM
To start off, don't pull up your shirt.

Dunno289's photo
Thu 05/28/20 06:54 PM


Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?


27 years old and you don't know?
You act as if that's unusual. Not for lack of effort either.

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Thu 05/28/20 06:56 PM
Edited by Dunno289 on Thu 05/28/20 07:02 PM

To start off, don't pull up your shirt.
I don't lol. I don't mainly because I'm not quite that flat anymore that pic was a year ago.
& I know selfie in the mirror is stupid but it's literally the only picture I have on this computer and I just lost my smartphone so I can't upload any others.

Poetrywriter's photo
Thu 05/28/20 08:06 PM
If in person just walk right up to them and say hello. If on the internet just say hello in a message.

Dunno289's photo
Thu 05/28/20 08:20 PM

If in person just walk right up to them and say hello. If on the internet just say hello in a message.
lol

Larsson71's photo
Thu 05/28/20 11:35 PM
Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?
Just be confident, but yourself at the same time. Just don't come across as creepy to them though, ok? Best of luck:thumbsup:

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Fri 05/29/20 12:44 AM
Edited by Blondey111 on Fri 05/29/20 12:46 AM
Hello dunno waving

I was going to ask you what your usual approach would be .. laughing .. but I am not sure mingle is ready to hear it biggrin

A couple of obvious suggestions ....

Online refer to her user name .. (until she is happy to tell you her name) .

Avoid all the stereotypical comments .. hi beautiful .. hi sexy etc

Read her profile and show her that you have read it .

Put aside all the sexual energy you may feel when you look at her picture .. the goal initially is to connect intellectually .. it is okay to pay her a compliment but be genuine and try not to focus on the physical ... ..

Humour is always a good icebreaker...

Be respectful .. if she says she is not interested. Accept it and end the conversation politely .

Easy peasy .., best of luck grasshopper :wink:

Dunno289's photo
Fri 05/29/20 05:29 AM

Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?
Just don't come across as creepy to them though, ok? B
Impossible.

Mike6615's photo
Fri 05/29/20 04:39 PM


Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?
Just don't come across as creepy to them though, ok? B
Impossible.


If you feel it's impossible, then you won't do well on your approaches.

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Fri 05/29/20 05:14 PM



Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?
Just don't come across as creepy to them though, ok? B
Impossible.


If you feel it's impossible, then you won't do well on your approaches.
Yoda?

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Fri 05/29/20 08:45 PM
Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?


Welp I'm not a girl (obviously haha) but I have a small amount of tips.
Of course online dating is different from in person. Typically you have more "competition" and less potential matches. Therefore when you discover a profile here that you think has the potential for a relationship, you have to make an impressive, otherwise she'll move on to the next one. That part I find hard because its extremely difficult to let your natural personality flow through an online website. This might sound weird but I'd consider that you make a female profile so that you can see the male profiles and see which ones are connecting and which ones aren't. If there are many profiles that seem and feel similar to yours (similar bio, same initial messages etc) than that might be your reason for struggling. Most importantly, I'd say for you to be yourself. People may not be initially romantically attracted to you, but they will respect your honestly, if you make the initial effort to show it. Be genuine and don't be afraid to throw yourself out there and fail.
I hope you do well, cheers my man

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Fri 05/29/20 09:42 PM

Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?


Welp I'm not a girl (obviously haha) but I have a small amount of tips.
Of course online dating is different from in person. Typically you have more "competition" and less potential matches. Therefore when you discover a profile here that you think has the potential for a relationship, you have to make an impressive, otherwise she'll move on to the next one. That part I find hard because its extremely difficult to let your natural personality flow through an online website. This might sound weird but I'd consider that you make a female profile so that you can see the male profiles and see which ones are connecting and which ones aren't. If there are many profiles that seem and feel similar to yours (similar bio, same initial messages etc) than that might be your reason for struggling. Most importantly, I'd say for you to be yourself. People may not be initially romantically attracted to you, but they will respect your honestly, if you make the initial effort to show it. Be genuine and don't be afraid to throw yourself out there and fail.
I hope you do well, cheers my man


No need to make another profile which is not permitted anyway. All you have to do is change your gender in the Search field!

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Sat 05/30/20 12:37 AM
Hello

DMC's photo
Mon 06/01/20 03:47 PM
:thumbsup:

Skip's photo
Wed 06/03/20 10:05 AM
Edited by Skip on Wed 06/03/20 10:19 AM
There are a million web sites on how to approach, you’ll spend years filling your brain with knowledge.

As for using On Line Dating - OLD - to start, get the best pics possible and start from there.

There are a million web sites discussing how to develop a guys profile. Biggest issue you’ll discover is that a few OLD sites limit how much you can put in your profile, plus censorship.

Once you think you have the profile and pics nailed down, be prepared to send 768billion, 488million, 300thousand, and many hundreds of greetings to gals - that won’t read them.

Hopefully you’ll be messaged first by a gal who doesn’t play the old-skool dating games.

ETA - of the pics, shirtless pics frowned on by any gal over 20, same with too many sunglasses and ball-cap pics, pics with dead animals, those with “scary” guns; pretty much any pic that reeks of too much testosterone. Gals want all the guy pics they can get, but not overtly in the profile pics due to that whole toxic masculinity thing they whine about.

You’ll get the constant requests for the muscle pics once a convo is fully flowing...

Nancy's photo
Wed 06/03/20 02:13 PM
I'm likely to reply if the initial message is not canned, makes no reference to physical appearance, and references something in my profile that interests him. That being said, the reply might be no thank you.

Geone's photo
Wed 06/03/20 06:36 PM
Any ladies out there that have any advice for me on how to approach someone I find attractive?

'PERSEVERANCE!!' All I can say lol!!

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Wed 06/03/20 10:21 PM
HI

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