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what really pisses me off is that we're all here for almost the same thing (to find someone to date) and the people near me all seem shallow. If you're here why not just try and see what happens? I guess i'm alone in this feeling? |
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yea but u cant date someone far away.. thats the whole concept and you're right i can email a girl from across the country and get a response or when i make friends on here shes always from a different area.
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It's because people are scared...some are shallow, but most are too scared or cynical and expect what they've already been through...you know how they say you attract a certain type? Well...they just don't see it the way I do...you can't gain anything without risk...and the worst that can happen is a break up or something of the sort. Life goes on. Who cares about all the stupid people? You're obviously not one of them.
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Well, in order for a woman to be interested in you, you have to BE interesting. Try finding a common interest in the profile. Remember, any woman who's even remotely attractive gets 10, 20, 30+ emails a day. YOU have to stand out.
And just a word of advice, they hear the same compliments every day. You'll be further ahead if you spark a genuinely interesting conversation than if you play nice guy and compliment her and say the same ol' same ol'. Keep in mind, you're a catch, and you need to demonstrate that to her. Women are comfortable in the position of the chased. When you learn how to reverse the roles, you'll be AMAZED at the difference in your results. Best of luck! |
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Well to be honest i've never complimented a girl through email that seems really dumb and honestly i don't think a girl wants to hear how pretty she is. I generally just mention something they like or just ask whats going on. I try not to get too personal because I don't want to seem too weird or anything.
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i must not be attractive then...
  
but yeah. distance kinda sucks sometimes. |
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Or like I said before Introduce them to me. "Your R&B Casanova"
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i must not be attractive then...
but yeah. distance kinda sucks sometimes. you're pretty attractive or so i'd say 
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what really pisses me off is that we're all here for almost the same thing (to find someone to date) and the people near me all seem shallow. If you're here why not just try and see what happens? I guess i'm alone in this feeling? "Shallow" is a good word. I've gone through 973 consecutive "NO" picks on Mutual Match, and the main reason is that most of the profiles look like they came straight out of "Dating Site Profiles For Dummies." "I don't know what to write here" and "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" and the 14 billionth person describing herself as "laid back and shy until you get to know me" does not give me much incentive to want to meet that person. I guess "shallow" would be a good way to describe people who can't muster up the brainpower required to write three relevant sentences about themselves....! |
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or not....
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i must not be attractive then...
but yeah. distance kinda sucks sometimes. |
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what really pisses me off is that we're all here for almost the same thing (to find someone to date) and the people near me all seem shallow. If you're here why not just try and see what happens? I guess i'm alone in this feeling? "Shallow" is a good word. I've gone through 973 consecutive "NO" picks on Mutual Match, and the main reason is that most of the profiles look like they came straight out of "Dating Site Profiles For Dummies." "I don't know what to write here" and "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" and the 14 billionth person describing herself as "laid back and shy until you get to know me" does not give me much incentive to want to meet that person. I guess "shallow" would be a good way to describe people who can't muster up the brainpower required to write three relevant sentences about themselves....! what would you consider 45 pages of mindless cerebral vomiting? |
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Ah Lex, I forgot about your amazing rants!
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Well sounds like you have the right idea. Be playful though. Women think differently than we do. Every time I send the nice guy letter, 'Hi I'm Josh how are you bla bla bla,' I get a blow off. When you're a little playful, and tease a little, they tend to respond. Just make sure you're demonstrating the characteristics that they find attractive. They get a TON of emails and they filter them. Odds are they don't even read the whole email, so you just have to be unique in your own way, and you have to grab their attention from the start. You want to seem fun moreso than nice. When they realize you'd be fun THEN you show them nice. It's tough for sure, but give it some practice and you'll be fine.
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what really pisses me off is that we're all here for almost the same thing (to find someone to date) and the people near me all seem shallow. If you're here why not just try and see what happens? I guess i'm alone in this feeling? "Shallow" is a good word. I've gone through 973 consecutive "NO" picks on Mutual Match, and the main reason is that most of the profiles look like they came straight out of "Dating Site Profiles For Dummies." "I don't know what to write here" and "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" and the 14 billionth person describing herself as "laid back and shy until you get to know me" does not give me much incentive to want to meet that person. I guess "shallow" would be a good way to describe people who can't muster up the brainpower required to write three relevant sentences about themselves....! what would you consider 45 pages of mindless cerebral vomiting? More informative than "I don't know what to write here".... By the way, "mindless cerebral" is something of an oxymoron....
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Edited by
azrae1l
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Tue 12/18/07 10:35 PM
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what really pisses me off is that we're all here for almost the same thing (to find someone to date) and the people near me all seem shallow. If you're here why not just try and see what happens? I guess i'm alone in this feeling? "Shallow" is a good word. I've gone through 973 consecutive "NO" picks on Mutual Match, and the main reason is that most of the profiles look like they came straight out of "Dating Site Profiles For Dummies." "I don't know what to write here" and "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" and the 14 billionth person describing herself as "laid back and shy until you get to know me" does not give me much incentive to want to meet that person. I guess "shallow" would be a good way to describe people who can't muster up the brainpower required to write three relevant sentences about themselves....! what would you consider 45 pages of mindless cerebral vomiting? More informative than "I don't know what to write here".... By the way, "mindless cerebral" is something of an oxymoron....
mindless = requiring no thoughts to accomplish cerebral vomit = puke coming from the brain i suppose i coulda used cranial, but i liked cerebral..... |
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trust me, Josh is giving some damnn good advice. You have to try to stand out. Look at hobbies and interests. Pay attention. Not everyone's profile is bland. And once you decide who you really want to talk to, you have to make yourself known....
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trust me, Josh is giving some damnn good advice. You have to try to stand out. Look at hobbies and interests. Pay attention. Not everyone's profile is bland. And once you decide who you really want to talk to, you have to make yourself known....
Thank you! Validation always feels great! lol |
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aw, thanks gangsta and lavos!
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anytime
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