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6291987's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:03 PM
why is it that when u meet someone they alawys have secrets and hide them from you?

IndnPrncs's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:07 PM
Depends on what is considered a secret.. Personally I think so things are just not anyone's business if it was before them.. I used to think differently and shared everything with my ex.. Then every time I turned around he'd throw something in my face that had nothing to do with him... So I realized that some things just aren't important enough to give people that power to hurt your feelings..

emlo's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:09 PM
every ones got something to hide, some things are better keept hidden

Jtevans's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:11 PM
some things are better left as a secret but if you walk in the bathroom and find out she pees standing up,than that's need to know information...

waterwillow's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:13 PM
everyone has secrets..if we didnt, we would be very uninteresting. the fun part of meeting someone is revealing their secrets and discovering who they are. we cant possibly know all there is to know about another person. but what a concept..a life with out secrets...all the things we would learn!

seahawks's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:20 PM

some things are better left as a secret but if you walk in the bathroom and find out she pees standing up,than that's need to know information...
lmao

IndnPrncs's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:22 PM
Hey Sea bigsmile

no photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:22 PM
ya like they are UNRELIABLE????grumble laugh grumble

ADiamond's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:23 PM

why is it that when u meet someone they alawys have secrets and hide them from you?


Secrets carry the weight of shame, embarrassment and humiliation. Regardless, of the secret you have to feel safe to share it and the person you share it with has to be mature enough to understand that everybody has a closet.

I do not want anyone in my closet and, as much as we like to think that we don't keep secrets, you do.....no one is perfect

s1owhand's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:24 PM
Edited by s1owhand on Tue 12/18/07 06:25 PM
well, a lot of people don't want you to know umm stuff

laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

Jess642's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:25 PM
huh What kind of secret? Married? Have three heads? Drive a Ford? Have 29 kids to 16 different people?

What kind of secrets?huh I wanna know now.bigsmile

Queene123's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:29 PM
men are the same way. so why complain!!!noway noway

buttons's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:32 PM
Edited by buttons on Tue 12/18/07 06:33 PM
when u meet someone? laugh well why do they gotta tell u secrets? and are they hiding them? i think not u gotta learn someone good enough to share things and u dont share things right when u meet them... doesnt mean they are hiding them it just means noneya business at this point in your relationshsiplaugh laugh

no photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:33 PM
social defense mechanism. exposing your vulnerabilities to the wrong people could lead to disaster, so you must first screen them to see if they are trustworthy.

buttons's photo
Tue 12/18/07 06:34 PM

social defense mechanism. exposing your vulnerabilities to the wrong people could lead to disaster, so you must first screen them to see if they are trustworthy.


yep hes right again!!! im seeing a trait herelaugh

Jeepinfool's photo
Tue 12/18/07 10:17 PM
don't pay attention to anything these people say, they say that, but their secrets go deeper than, what they are letting on, and in most cases, you might not want that person in your life, anyone that excuses keeping secrets cannot be trusted, regardless.

Reenie's photo
Wed 12/19/07 12:21 AM
Everyone has their secrets and everyone has a past. Thats what makes people interesting. Mystery intrigues people. Wouldn't you get bored with someone after awhile if you knew absolutely everything about them from the start? Learning new things about people...good and bad...keep things exciting.