Topic: How real are you and I?
mysticalview21's photo
Fri 02/14/20 07:52 AM

I find no reason to lie initially, because if you get into a relationship with someone, you can only keep up that pretense for so long, then the real you comes out, so...better to be real and authentic from the start...
:thumbsup: you might have to open my cage rofl

mysticalview21's photo
Fri 02/14/20 08:12 AM



I usually say what I actually think, here as in real life I try to be as honest as possible. Sometimes, I will say more in the forums, especially when someone asks my opinion, than I would in casual conversation in real life. I'm quite outgoing for an introvert and being Irish, I'm remarkably charming in person.:wink:


Do you have that gorgeous Irish brogue?

Same, I am an introvert/extrovert, but I need time to recharge as an empath. People can drain me or influence me with their moods.
Happy Mingling ros:e::heart::smiley:

I lost that when I started school here about the age of five. Ah well, can't have everything I suppose.:slight_smile: I know what you mean by being drained by others, that's why I'm often quiet for a while on the forums, especially after encountering scepticism or out and out insult.:laughing:

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Fri 02/14/20 08:41 AM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Fri 02/14/20 08:41 AM


I find no reason to lie initially, because if you get into a relationship with someone, you can only keep up that pretense for so long, then the real you comes out, so...better to be real and authentic from the start...
:thumbsup: you might have to open my cage rofl



??????huh

mysticalview21's photo
Fri 02/14/20 08:49 AM
Edited by mysticalview21 on Fri 02/14/20 08:50 AM



I find no reason to lie initially, because if you get into a relationship with someone, you can only keep up that pretense for so long, then the real you comes out, so...better to be real and authentic from the start...
:thumbsup: you might have to open my cage rofl



??????huh



sorry in a joking mood ...oopsflowerforyou

mysticalview21's photo
Sat 02/15/20 05:03 AM




I find no reason to lie initially, because if you get into a relationship with someone, you can only keep up that pretense for so long, then the real you comes out, so...better to be real and authentic from the start...
:thumbsup: you might have to open my cage rofl



??????huh



sorry in a joking mood ...oopsflowerforyou



I thought about this a little more an my bad ...
I_love_bluegrass's started to remember those they have in cages that are dying from getting know help ... most collected on the border... still in cages ... but I was referring mine to a couple of songs ... I like ...




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Sat 02/15/20 08:41 AM
I was thinking this was going to be a sort of existential / "are we living in a simulation" type of discussion.

Totally real here -though I think people are so deep/complicated and have had so many experiences that getting to know each other is a never-ending process. Fortunately -given honesty and openness -you can know the basics fairly quickly.

pumpilicious 💕's photo
Sat 02/15/20 06:22 PM

I was thinking this was going to be a sort of existential / "are we living in a simulation" type of discussion.

Totally real here -though I think people are so deep/complicated and have had so many experiences that getting to know each other is a never-ending process. Fortunately -given honesty and openness -you can know the basics fairly quickly.


Real is as real does


https://m.mingle2.com/topic/show/555495

HERE is that thread:wink:

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Sat 02/15/20 08:36 PM


I was thinking this was going to be a sort of existential / "are we living in a simulation" type of discussion.

Totally real here -though I think people are so deep/complicated and have had so many experiences that getting to know each other is a never-ending process. Fortunately -given honesty and openness -you can know the basics fairly quickly.


Real is as real does


https://m.mingle2.com/topic/show/555495

HERE is that thread:wink:

Of course you would know where that one is :p

Hi, pumpilicious!!!!!!!

:) :) :) :)

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Sun 03/29/20 10:02 PM
i just mis pressed and it brought up hendrixfans profile and i have to say ladies, this guy's profile is one if the most honest direct profiles you will ever find, honesty and kindness etc are hard to come by, so any ladies in his area, he seems a really cool guy & would make a nice lady very happy. that what i read.

there are many profiles on here that say nothing really, it makes it hard to know if someone is real, so thank you sir, it's good to know there are honest people around the world, and got it was OK to post here, I've now forgotten what the topic was about lol have nice day everyone bye

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Sun 03/29/20 10:03 PM
got it was is typo hope it was ok to post

ilias 's photo
Mon 03/30/20 11:48 AM
hmmmm

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 03/30/20 12:46 PM

What you say in a forum, like Mingle2, is it what you would say to people in day to day, face to face living?
Do you feel you represent yourself accurately, as much as can be, when on the internet?
Would you say what you say on the forums, in real life?

Musta missed this one, or I had no comment till now.

I've been online communicating with others since 1998 (got my first home computer).
I've had a number of personas, each with their own attitudes.
I've had personas on different websites with attitudes slanted to the subject material of the sites.

In all personas, all attitudes had some degree of my real honesty.
That's because wherever I go, there I am.

About 10 years ago I started frequenting dating sites.
One thing I learned early on is lying ruins dating.
As time progressed, my personas started reflecting more and more of me.
At present, I am who and what I claim to be.
My personas and the attitudes I adopted to maintain them is gone.

You either like me for who I really am or you don't.
This is my mentality both online and off.

One thing you might want to be aware of when dealing with me, I write better than I talk. I have plenty of time and don't mind typing.
I tend to try to be tactful now.
Frankly, if I can't say something neutral or good, I tend to not say it.
I'm opinionated but I try to respect that others have different opinions.
When I'm wrong, I can admit I was wrong but when I'm right, and I know I'm right, I try to respectfully show others why I know I am right.
If an impasse happens, I'm usually able to let it go, unless its really important. Even then, I refrain from childish tactics to win or belittle others. I grew up a long time ago.

As for saying in the forums aligning with what I say in real life.
Sometimes.
Sometimes I dumb it down for forums.
Sometimes I need to use description and examples to press a feeling or gesture but the ideas and incentives are similar.
The method of communication is different.

Most of the time there is a miscommunication in forum discussion it is due to my inability to properly convey my expressions to the readers. Sometimes it is the reader's inability to understand my intent. Often creating hidden meanings from face value input.
This is why I tend to have long exhaustive posts.

Alucard1904's photo
Mon 03/30/20 02:40 PM
Pretty much yep yah yes si

Mok-t's photo
Tue 03/31/20 05:33 AM
I'm 100% real.

It's to strenuous to be fake!

Dodo_David's photo
Tue 03/31/20 05:43 AM
I am not live. I am Memorex. indifferent

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Sun 04/05/20 07:48 PM
"all is real but not all is true."☺:cry:

Uhuntah's photo
Mon 04/06/20 02:08 PM
Bingo, you nailed it!

Bruno's photo
Mon 04/06/20 02:30 PM
Thanks to this awesome caption..."how real are you?" In my own context, I present my personality as I am fully expressing myself.

we've all have to come to the fact that we are adults and responsible for our actions. knowing quite well that comouflage cannot last forever. I don't have such times because I am me whether you like my personality or not does not reduce me. let me remain to myself whereby I will and can always says this is my uncompromised. FAKE DON'T LAST, YOU CANNOT ALWAYS COVER UP WHEN TIME COMES TO UNVIEL THE REAL YOU. #Stay safe, stay real...I am me. who are you? THANKS

Bruno's photo
Mon 04/06/20 02:32 PM
Thanks to this awesome caption..."how real are you?" In my own context, I present my personality as I am fully expressing myself.

we all have to come to the fact that we are adults and responsible for our actions. knowing quite well that comouflage cannot last forever. I don't have such times because I am me whether you like my personality or not does not reduce me. let me remain to myself whereby I will and can always says this is me uncompromised. FAKE DON'T LAST, YOU CANNOT ALWAYS COVER UP WHEN TIME COMES TO UNVIEL THE REAL YOU. #Stay safe, stay real...I am me. who are you? THANKS


Shiela's photo
Tue 04/07/20 12:21 AM
100% real:blush: