What will you choose ? And why ?

I've tried both ways. Either they end up getting on you nerves or you end up getting on their's. Swings and roundabouts.

Neither... to be with someone who loves you but you don't love is selfish and to be with someone who you love but doesn't love you is just plain silly. Both ways, imo, are merely settling for whatever because you don't want to be alone.

I won't settle, it's all or nothing for me!

yea well said.

I lost patience for that game
at a young age.

And, it is a game.

Thanks... now if I could have had that same conviction years ago, maybe I would have found my George, or whatever his name is, by now, lol.

Like you, I've done both at one time in my life... neither is good or an option anymore.

I agree it can be a game and perhaps for most it is. It was never a conscious game for me, I was, however, delusional in thinking the longer I hung there, something would change.

Neither suffice, I want and need both. I want to love and be loved. Why go for something less than that?

Both? Hopefully they're the same person?

Otherwise either "choice" (assuming it's for a long term, stable, healthy romantic relationship) could be considered "settling" and eventually any "love" could easily turn to loathing, regret, etc.?


Or is the scenario more like "your mom and your spouse are in the hospital. Both need a kidney to live! And yours is the only possible match. No doctor will agree to take both your kidneys, killing you. Which do you choose? Save your spouse? Or your mother?!?!"

Then I'd go with my spouse, "the one I love," over "the one who loves me."
(IMO parent/child love is vastly different and unequal compared to peer romantic love)

...Unless I was the character in a Netflix/Lifetime/Japanese horror mashup.
Then I'd let them both die and cash in on the multi million dollar life insurance policies I took out the day before, and run off with Meredith Baxter Birney whom I met on the internet. Only to have an affair with her underage daughter, who is haunted by a pair of Onryo that live in a well on our creepy estate. And their Japanese names translate into those of my spouse and mother. But what really kills me is Baxter Birney's stalker ex-husband that's really from the future!

The ugly one.
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.

If you're quoting a song lyric, at least give the artist credit: "If You Wanna Be Happy", Jimmy Soul, 1963.