Physical, mental and emotional is how things work. Sexy is another way of calling it. To use the fishing metaphor, "Your looks are the lure, your mind is the bait and your personality is the hook". Some people get upset when things are broken down into scientific terms because it loses the "magic" behind it. The truth is it's reality and not the fantasy running through your brain. Real magic is the flipside of modern science which is the way you look at natural science. Yes, I've studied the real thing when it comes to magic.

As a person you need to know which way's up. Of course you can overthink things and find yourself in a similar situation. Having the knowledge in the back of your mind will allow you the ability to get a read on the moment and determan what's what/ I decided to finally write this post because of the mental and emotional manipulation that's running rampid which goes from propaganda to people getting people to have freaky sex with them.

PHYSICAL
This is probably the easiest for people to get their minds around. Someone is attractive in our opinion. This is based off those around us along with proportions. Average is the standard when it comes to looks. There's a reason the major portion of the world falls into this category that's because average is attractive.

Zoological seculation is that people prefer to be apart of the pack so tend to go with average looking people because of that. I don't buy into the whole "people are animals" argument that some push. We have aspects that are the same as animals but we also have characteristics that separate of from all others living things as well.

The caveman argument of being average with an average looking mate would make it less likely you'd loose him/her seems to have a little more truth to it. Sociology seems more plausible over mindless animal mentality. This still too has pieces missing from the puzzle. Most couples tend to be around the same physically attractive range because we tend to compare yourself to that person along with those we grew up with we find attractive is another theory.

MENTAL
"The smarter you are the smarter the other person needs to be", so says this one. Yes and no is my point of view here. You need to be able to communicate and understand one another. Some people are smarter in things the other isn't and can complement each other. Just because you've got straight As in school doesn't mean you can only be with another A student.

" M'Yeah, I'm schmart see?" Yes, people who have high IQ scores sometimes are egotistical and stupid people are beyond the ability to realize they're as smart as a bag of rocks. This is where this saying comes from more then school grades. Being with someone within your intelligence range will prevent friction and resentment to happen due to being a "Dummy!".

EMOTIONAL
We experience emotions and observe them in others. This how we learn to deal with or control them. As humans there's only so many emotions as well as biological things about us that allows us to develop empathy for others. When looking at a person as a potential husband, wife, life partner or what have you we draw upon this knowledge of positive emotional experiences and measure how much we see in the other person. The more that we see in the other person the more of an emotional reaction we'll have towards them letting us know that a friendship can be formed which can lead to a stronger bond.

Other influences such as story books, fairy tales, malicious people, media and so can distort this ability of ours. Some develop a Prince Charming/Cinderella Complex (in love with the idea of love and not a person), Abusive Personality Disorder and many others. Then we have the misfortune to have some kind of relationship with them and it messes us up for awhile until we fix ourselves.

What's a post from me with it not being filled with type-Os and such. Would be nice to have an edit function.

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