Hello everyone,Im very new here, and just wanted to post a topic, and see what the reasons are...

Why is it that women, who are good natured, sweet, and caring, seem to go for the guy who is a jerk, a d-bag (pardon the language) and generaly not good for them?

I ask because I really truly want to know..

My ex left me, saying she didnt know what she wanted, and that she needed time on her own to figure it out. we were and still are best friends.. and she would come and talk to me about things that bothered her, and on her mind, necause she knows she can come to me, and Ill never judge or think differently no matter what anyone says..

she eneded up meeting some new guy, that she was introduced to by her friend. She would come crying to me about how he hurts her feelings, is brash, and a d-bag.. and that he makes her feel like crap, and bad about heself and making bad choices, spending time with him, and not any with her son, because he doesnt want her son, or her baggage.. then they break up, and she says she was crazy... and then he does some stupid, Im sorry, I miss you, I dont know what i was thinking speech, Ill change, and she goes back.. and then it all happens again, and again, and again... this last time, it was more than a few days it was almost 2 weeks, and we were able to hang out again as friends (he doesnt want her to have anything to do with me) and I didnt miss my best friend anymore... and she was truly down with him, told him she wished she never met him.. and then procceded to point out everything that was horrible, and bad for her about him, and them... but then once again he come with an email, and some phone calls, and again she goes back to him..


I just dont get it? what is it?

I asked her if I need to be like that and maybe Ill find someone and be happy... and she told me "no dont!" that "I am special, and the way I look at life, and love, and sex (I cont seperate love from sex, and have only ever been with the two people I have fellen in love with by choice...) makes me unuiqe..."
So, why is it then, that every whare i look, I see women that choose the opposite of what they say they want... and then arent happy...

Any insight?

cuz us "bad guys" are just so damn sexy ha ha naw i dunno man

Why is it that ppl keep posting things like this?

like omg!
dat is like sooo true!

like i know riiiiiiight?

because everyone is sick of being hurt like this

because she has no self esteem. bottom line. get her ass into therapy and in to see a life coach.

I've come to find alot of women just don't care, they're more interested in looks mostly, regardless of what any say. Looks, Fame and Money are what it takes to get a woman these days, if you don't have those 3, than it's like finding a needle in a haystack bro.

It seems harsh to think like that, but the truth is, nice guys finish last, women say it's untrue, but actions speak louder than words and the fact of the matter is is that it's true.

By no means am I saying to give up, True Love exists, and if it were easily found it wouldn't be as great.

The only thing left to do is keep moving, and pray eventually things will work for the better.

often wondered that myself

its a half truth
but watch another female come in here and now tell you
is not true lol

Thanks for saying that, I think it every time I see this post, which is like 10 times a day lately. Maybe if the nice guys quit whining, they'd get a little further

So in defense of a good chick... It just so happens that those "d-bags" actually seem very nice and caring at first, and it is only when us girls seem to get emotionally attached does it seem like they decide to go "d-bag" on us.... I don't think we really look for the opposite of what we say we want... Those guys are just really good at making us think they are what we want, only to find out they're not when we get feelings for them. Also a comment to the person who said something about "looks" it just so happens that we girls feel the same way about guys. But in everyone's defense there has to be some kind of physical attraction there between people. I've dated a couple guys that weren't great and that I wasn't even sure if I thought they were cute. I ended up falling in love with one, and coming pretty close to it with the other... Only to find out they were "d-bags" too... Anyway I don't know if anything I said matters but maybe someone can agree with me... Good luck in your hunt for love everyone...

No its not a matter of whining, but thank you...

Its just a matter, of why they tell you one thing, and then go and do the opposite?

The things she would tell me, and all the crying she would do...because of the way he makes her feel... about her self, and the choices she is making...

and yeah she does need therapy, she takes anti-depressants, but she doesnt see anyone for help, and they arent really working, and then on top of that she take birth control, and hasnt told her doctor, so im sure that the two are not working well together... but that is all besides the point...

I really know this girl really well, and in the last 3 months, she has become a different person...

and i just dont understand...

<<<<<<<<<<<<One GOOD Woman
That does NOT want a BAD man...
I repeat... does not want a BAD man!!!

now this i can understand... but what i dont understand is when you break up, and you see everything so clearly, why go back to again, sure he can say it will be different... but the fourth time down the road...??? how many times does it take?

even her son sees it as messed up.
he said to her the other day... "I dont get it mom, your break up and get back with shawn, and then break up and get back, and then break up and get back, but you just broke up with jeff?"

that really hit her pretty hard, but not enough apparently..

and then theres the fact she says she still loves and cares for me, and loves me more than she will ever love him, but "differently...." and then she says some crap like she wants me to wait for her to figure out what she wants....

pwnt!

well according to the last "why do women think men only want one thing?" post, if your a nice guy you must be gay. so it's my understanding if you show any kind of sensitivity or caring and respect then your only friend material cuz obviously your queer. then comes the asshole which is the complete opposite so he must like women.

make sense?

No but it deffinatly got me to laugh a little bit...

girls are like guys in so many ways.they need that excitement in their lives.they have the same needs,wants and turn ons as men.like we see a female dress all sexy,dancing kind of nasty,it runs through our mind with the thought of having her.all though we know its a bad move.we try to mold her for yourself and we know it dont work.soon she have you like a little puppy.you will get use and abuse the same way.sometimes you dont even notice from the inside.and refuse to listen to those on the outside.women get turn on by that bad boy image.the rough and tough and cool guy.she tries to change him for the best and hes not having it..then she tries to hold on and thats when he takes full advantage of the weakness.in the end the good guy wins.they will soon get it and understand that its not worth it.the question is how soon.