A mother is curious how her 28 year old son feels about the man being the breadwinner, paying for his woman's keep, and asks him -hypothetically speaking-:
Mother - Son, if you had to pay for your woman, be the breadwinner, how would you feel about that? Would you feel used as a man?

Son - I wouldn't mind if I had enough for that. I don't mind going to work and working. I like my job and going there. If my partner doesn't feel the same way I don't mind at all about her not working.

Mother is speechless and about to ask another question when her son adds:
- If nothing else I'd feel more of a man!

Mother is awed, and very proud of her son.


Now that's the kind of man I'm looking for. The man who wouldn't mind that as long as we date we can't do expensive outings and holidays and trips to far away places. Because he'd see, feel and know the value he has found.
Who'd trust that I'd start doing my own thing when we moved in together and bring in money. But who'd -even if I didn't or couldn't- wouldn't give a chit, instead feels like a winner for having me in his life as his partner.
And feeling more of a man for taking care of his girl.

If a 28 year old man can have such wonderful views there sure as heck have to be men my age who do too.
That's what I'm looking for. My kind of man.

Thank you

So in essence you're looking for a guy who'll take care of you financially until you've decided to get your life figured out????


Would you do the same for a man?

So if he is willing to be the breadwinner, you are willing to be the housewife and home keeper?

Yea did that for 25 years. wife never worked. Then I got ill for a few months and was told recovery from surgery would be over a year and i woudnt be able to work.
She went to someone else. Subsequently we divorced.

she gets two houses and £80,000 in the bank. I get one house.and the shirt on my back.
I was like Game of thrones in there....

My point is, A woman can earn just as easily as a man in these times.

yea I felt used...

And I don't think I'll be so full of altruistic tendencies again

Really? Is that what it says?
I think this is the bitter / damaged man speaking... Too many of those around, no offense, don't mean that personal, more like a general observation.

So you think tit for tat? You do this, I'll do that, if not, then I won't either. That's not love, that's ego and conditional thinking from old pain.

I don't think the 28 year old was like that, he came from a place of love, giving and protecting and providing and taking care off, which is the empowered masculine.

I get that, but this is not about that, I'm talking about the energy, the dynamic of a man.

Tempting to go into it further, but won't :)

That's the problem with many at a certain age.
I do hope you find your inner balance again!

Would you feel like a man if you were kept by a woman?

So sad that people still don't understand it's NOT tit for tat, and men and women have different requirements in order to feel good.
Like the 28 year old feels more like a man when he is the breadwinner, a woman doesn't derive her sense of being a woman from such things.
So you cannot compare.
Tit for tat never works anyways cos it's the hurt ego speaking, not the loving & open heart.

What exactly is the source of this story?

May I ask why? Don't you trust it?

How are we to know that it is a true story?

As if I'd make it up????

The son is my son, the mother is me. A very proud mother at that for having raised such a great man!

Aaaaaaw

A man doesn't have to have a stay-at-home wife in order for the man to be masculine.

Now who said that? I didn't.

Yup, haha.