Good thinking. I’ll chill out on the gifts. I gotta chill out. Dating is not good for me. Makes me overthink too much. After this girl, whether it works out or not, I think I’m done with dating.

If you want her to feel special,
give her a helmet and a box of crayons.

Really? So you're placing all your bets on this woman now? That's an awful lot of power to give away.
You know, you seem like a nice guy, why not change your perspective a little and see it as "I'm getting the hang of this." Just enjoy it a bit, get out of your thinking as that's never good.
That's a much better perspective than "I got to get this right otherwise I give up/I have failed."

To be honest, I think the problem is that you're trying to make a round out of a square. And that is hard work, and it won't work either in the end.
In other words: If you were dating the right woman for you things would flow naturally. You wouldn't have to jump through hoops.
Dating can and should make you happy, it should evolve rather smoothly in a way that is pleasurable.
From what you've posted this isn't. This is hard work. Maybe the only thing you should stop is trying to make it work with someone who's not a good match for you. But don't put all your dreams and your future on such a person!

You are absolutely right! I know I am a good guy and I think its about time that I start dating like one. I have been dating this women for almost 8 months and she is still not ready for a commitment. I felt that it was the right thing to do, to be patient and supportive. You know grow with her and be a part of the healing process. The other day she said she was ready but then came up with another hoop for me to jump through and this is the first time I started thinking “**** This”.

For me dating is generally ****. It’s a time where I have to prove through consistency that I am a good guy. It’s a costly experience where sometimes you go out with just internally unattractive people nd feel as if you have wasted your time. I have done dating enough! I am tired of it and don’t want to tr again. So after her I think I’m done. For a very long time at least.

I’m going to sleep on what I am going to do. Tomorrow one way or the other me and her are going to have a talk:( I hope everything works out.

Good luck!
Just some last advice: Dating is NOT about constantly having to prove yourself. If that's how you feel you likely need to work on self-confidence. If you'd do that you will attract people who are a good match.
This woman is emotionally unavailable, so it's like carrying sand to the beach. But there's a reason you attracted that person in, you ALWAYS get what you are and exude energetically. So in that sense dating is great free therapy. It's like a mirror telling you how you are doing and what you feel you are worthy of.
And yes, 8 months is a long time to spend on the wrong person for you. But sometimes you need longer to learn something.
Do a little work on self. Look at boundaries. Do you have any? What are they? Can you stand by them or not, or allow others to cross them, or do you do that yourself?