volunteer as my chef and housekeeper

I cannot agree more, all girls want is a successful man, who has a house, a car, a good bank balance, has a bit of personality and good looks. Once all these conditions are fulfilled, they will then ideally want the guys to have a quality conversation with them, talk about feelings and love and plane their life with them.


All the nice responses of ladies in this forum, claiming that girls are not after materialistic things, to be frank, are not very valid. Most girls are after materialistic benefits. Of course, no lady would like to accept this truth, as it sounds quite ugly.

ALL A WOMAN WANTS IS TO BE THAT 1 WOMAN IN YOUR LIFE..THE CENTER OF YOUR GRAVITY...THE REACTION TO YOUR EVERY ACTION...THE ANCHOR TO YOUR SOUL...SHE WANTS TO BE HEARD, TO BE FELT, TO BE CONSIDERED, TO BE UNDERSTOOD, TO BE SUPPORTED, TO BE LOVED OH SO TENDERLY AND TO BE SATISFIED TO BOTH PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY...
THE QUESTION IS NOT WHAT DO WOMEN WANT - THE QUESTION IS HOW TO GIVE A WOMEN WHAT SHE WANTS - ONLY A WOMAN CAN TELL YOU WHAT SHE WANTS. AND ALL WOMAN ARE DIFFERENT..THAT IS WHY LIFE IS SO EXCITING -

No matter how wrong they are, let them tell you they are right, without correction or argument or evidence. You know, and that's all that matters.

Try to actually listen for a good percentage of the time, so that when they ask you what You think about 'it' or 'that', you can fumble out an excuse of a reply vaguely related to what they were talking about. Or you will get: "you weren't even listening to me were you".

Remember birthdays, anniversaries, favourite colours, favourite foods, pet's names, and stuff like that, for when the quizzing starts.

Make everything nice and comfortable physically, and not efficient or logical, to set the 'mood'. Stay cool, and let them get interested to want to get cozy with you; don't ask.

I'm an expert, with 10 years of solitude as proof of my vast knowledge.

My question is (after reading all the posts) is : if we wiman only want money and bla bla bla , then how come so many males are on the forums asking for a woman ?! Boggles the mind

Because despite all the con's, (pun?) women are nicer smelling, softer, gentler, more pretty, and generally more attractive and nicer to be with than stinky stubbly men, and louse infested animals.

All that and yet we still only want money and cars and stuff However do we sleep at night with such burdens

Pun accepted

Sleep is for dreaming; awake is for scheming.

Yes I know some women are happy with the basics, but not many.

My observation is that (generally) they go for the guy with the most attractive wrapper, because they look at clothes shoes cars and style, and like to show off to their friends.
The guy in discount store clothes and old car may have a heart of gold, but is not even seen, unless he has some sort of fascinator, loudmouth, funny, or usefulness.

SMFH!!!!!!

Either these guys have had bad experiences with ladies in the past , or they just really have no clue at all

Both !

We start of with no clue, followed by bad experiences, try to understand why = no clue, and then more bad experiences, in a cycle.

Some men are lucky and find a real partner. Many don't.
Gotta keep looking though.

Same as women kissing frogs looking for a prince.

To the OP,

Isn't it kinda strange how single men always seem to wonder what women want but single women never wonder what men want?

How the woman's attraction is very important to a man but not so obvious the other way around?

Could it be because women assume to think all men want is a sammich and sex?

Isn't it kinda strange how a man is expected to change to attract women yet a woman has to do little change for attraction of men?

Is it possible men and women just want to be accepted as they are?
Not pushed into an unnatural qualification.

Wouldn't it be safe to say both men and women want to be treated with dignity and respect as a person? Someone who is especially important to the other in how they are when they are being themselves. Without needing to fabricate some personification so they are liked?

Why is "I love you being you" not enough?
Why must we believe "You love me being me" not enough?
Who said we have to put the conditions of love into little labeled boxes and make others prove they are worthy to open those boxes?

Attraction is a manifold aspect of the human condition.
Physical attraction is but one aspect of the condition.
Personality attraction is but another.
However, all those aspects work together in finding a mate and attraction is not the only factor in the equation.

Dedication, respect, devotion, sexual fulfillment, acknowledgement, honor, honesty, commitment, freedom, acceptance; all qualities men and women should share equally with each other.

My girlfriend is not my property. I am not hers.
I like being around her and she likes being around me.
I like her because she is her not my idea of who she should be.
She likes me because I am me not who she thinks I should be.
We align with each other.

I suggest you concentrate on being yourself and accepting the woman who likes you being you.
Allow her to be her and you might see women are not as complicated as you might think.

Choose Wisely

I just can't think about it that much!

And then, and only then diamonds, purses, shoes, dollars, etc.

Just kidding!

I guessed that sense of humor should be a requirement too..

Both...

Some peoples theme song is "I can't get no satisfaction" by the Rolling Stones....and some of them look like Mick Jagger

I also think age comes into play in the dating situation , as well as availability . The older one is , the less likely we are to take things so personal , my boys going though this 'dating stage' and by jove the balls he talks just to get a hello , but that's just it a wee hello .

So I'm taking the car and the carats like I'm a vegetarian , you can have the dog

Dear Dilly, don't go, we can make it work out. I can give you 18 carats, and a second hand car, stay and pat the dog, try these snazzy op shop jeans, and practical shoes. Can't afford an overseas honeymoon, but how does camping sound, and not going out hardly ever, so as to save hard for a house deposit.
Ignore that Ferrari, hey, where are you going ?

Food, clothing, shelter, money , oh and a Car.

full cared of course love

In terms of dating, mating, romantic relationships?
What they "want" to fulfill the perception of "fully satisfaction?"
Things that aren't compatible.
e.g. strategic pluralism, ovulatory shift hypothesis.
Women will never be "fully satisfaction." They aren't meant to be.
It's one of the biggest differences between men and women.
...Unless you believe in religion. Then they'll be fully satisfied if they follow the dictated religious commandments, or if they reach their heaven.

Otherwise, at best they will find "good enough for awhile" and then rationalize to maintain the status quo; weigh dissatisfaction vs. costs/risks/consequences of change.
There are reasons why women generally initiate divorce, why 70% of men over 65 are married vs. 42% of (over 65) women, and as a woman gets older (85) it drops to like 12%, whereas it remains stable as a guy gets older.

You ever hear of MGTOW? Women have naturally been GTOW, individually searching for personal "fully satisfaction," as they get older, after their childbearing impulses (hormones) change and stop holding sway over them in a certain way, for a lot longer.

Just like human beings in general are not meant to be "happy."
What people "want" in order to achieve "happiness" in reality is not going to lead to a perpetual state or "full" happiness.