would love to get all your ladies point of views on what do you see or feel is wrong with today's dating.My 2 cents and just my experience seems lot of people just looking for hookups nothing more.Seems lot of people dont even know what they want i need consistancy i need banter

Dating is scary in this day and age ...and your right most are just looking for a quick hookup and too be with an assortment of people.

yes your def right about that my area seems like the woman are worst then the guys but cant lose faith

I beg to differ. Most women want a committed relationship, and when men are asked, most say the exact same thing.

I think there is a difference in what one wants depending on age. Certain stages of life people are more looking for fun, for instance soon after a divorce or when still quite young. I think for men <30-35 many aren't ready for a commitment yet. They're focused on career building etc.

Men in their 40 often are still in a relationship, likely cos they enter one a tad later, the ones who are divorced typically are looking for arm candy, sex, fun. Not commitment. Likely cos they recently got out one.
Men in their 50 you see a different thing again. They do want a committed relationship, often with a woman their age as well.

Women, I know many want a committed relationship in their 20s. Same with women in their 40s. Usually they're a little younger when the divorce happens, logical as we mostly are with men who are a few years older than us.
It's effing difficult for a single woman in her 40s to find a man her own age who wants to commit, reasons explained above.

And I think education levels may play a role in this. Not talking diplomas per say, more the level.
I think higher educated ppl go for commitment in their mid 30s cos they are career focused, and with that likely fun outside of work.

all depends on the person not every man is the same as not every women is the same

Yes I’ve noticed there seems to be a larger amount of women that are playing the field versus the guys nowadays so it definitely makes things hard if your a guy looking for something serious

i like the diff point of view you ladies offer

Well I don’t claim to be an expert on anything like some I just notice when talking with people around me more and more people are looking to just play men and women but everyone has there own view on stuff 🤷‍♀️

Dunno. But playing around with someone's feelings always gives that person a bad reputation. As if honesty was such a difficult thing

if you have not noticed honesty is a foreign language to alot of people

It happens sometimes intentional and unintentionally I try to just remember that everyone I meet is going through something or has gone through something...we are all scarred larsi some of us more than others...the right person will come along when the time is right

I understand. It is not easy to be open to someone, you don't really know. And trust? Nothing without trust. And patience? Aye ... I keep on waiting then, til I get scooped for whatever

im just waiting for around the world 37 to sweep me off my feet

your making me blush prevna

sweet

I'm also not sure about this statement.
This might hinge on your age group, your peers and where you hang out as that defines what you see.
Reason I'm saying this is that I don't know any single woman who is like that. Sure, they go out and have fun because they cannot find the right guy. But they all want a committed relationship.
I know some younger women in their twenties go out and play the field, but they too want a committed relationship and are only going out with their gal-pals, having fun, cos they haven't found Mr Right yet.

I think 'playing the field' also hinges on background. The way I've been raised, I don't. And no, I'm not a prude, nor religious. It's just not me, doesn't interest me either. I go out, yes. I like to have fun, yes. Do not sleep around though, nor play with dudes for the heck of it.

I do know that some younger women who tend to go out a lot and drink a lot can go overboard. Likely cos of the dynamic of the group, women can get quite carried away, and the amount of alcohol involved.

I was married for a long time I was in my early 20’s and saw this in a lot of the married people I lived around they were much older than me well my age now which is 38 I guess you and I have different experiences that’s all I can chalk it up too I don’t believe age plays a factor at all I was very young and married and didn’t play the field or drink and party yet many older women around me did but I don’t put people in brackets or boxes like that I don’t think it’s an age issue as much as it seems to be a new generation thing new lifestyles new mindsets online dating etc...just my opinion

I have noticed that many men who contacted me were just looking for friends with benefits and not a relationship. Some said they were looking for a relationship but the first few I dated were liars and that isn’t what they wanted.

It’s hard to sift through so many liars to find someone who actually wants the same thing as you do.

I don’t know about women and dating but men will say anything to get you into bed.

It’s a long tedious job to find someone honest and compatible! I almost gave up because the process is so disheartening.

Good luck

Well, guys who only want hookups, will fail on this site, I suppose.

But there is guys who are decent, always keep that in mind

I don't think that many men or women are just looking for a hook-up. They are looking for more but they are not looking for the type of committed relationship some, especially women, are looking for. There seems to be a belief that you are either playing the field with different partners all the time or sequentially dating people to try and find your special one. It seems that the idea of casual, social dating is dead. Also the idea of having a friend to do social activities with as well as sharing the bedroom with them is disappearing too.

One thing I will never understand: if you find both a social and sexual partner even if you are not interested in that long term, committed relationship, why would you dump them and look for someone new? Makes no sense to me!!