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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Wed 02/20/19 07:07 AM
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Hi.. to everyone.... I'm just curious on how everyone copes with being alone... I'm sure we all have certain things we do to keep the loneliness at Bay keep our minds off the fact that we are alone....like having the TV on for company... perhaps reading a book or even posting on here... maybe you go visit family and friends... I've never been really good at being alone by myself... I'm coming to realize that now...lol.. I was raised in a rather large family somebody always around to keep you company.... and in my marriage we had children.. and there was also the house to look after.. always things to do...but now.. I find with just myself to take care of... it sometimes gets hard to keep my mind off the fact that I am alone... Not always! just sometimes.. those moments when there's no one to talk to or nothing good on TV... do you ever feel like Geez Louise I really need to meet some people or find somebody to date.... or develop some Hobbies... I'm sure most of us have been.. at this point at one time or another.. and some of you have moved past that feeling... of loneliness... does it ever go away?.. . how do you cope with going it alone? [/quote/}  OP  get that thought out of ur heard right now 
it is not easy doing everything you can living alone ... sometime I can get help ... sometime I don't ... but you have to try an think a lot about your fam an friends ... but my dad always said take care of yourself first I think sometimes... yea right I try not to dwell on the loneliness... but I still feel it ... someone said to me a few weeks ago ... get yourself out there... I get out but not in that way ... I have asked some if they wanted to go out ... got turned down ... but understand ...I don't get that hurt being rejected... because where I am in time ... they say this is where I am suppose to be ... I don't always feel that way I don't really want a LDR that makes things hard... seems some are really just out for phone sex ... phone sex... just what I wanted ... not lmao on the first few calls ... shakes head ... sounds like you wanted to know about loneliness...
does it ever go away ... think only if you like living alone ... everyone feels different about that ... how do you cope with going it alone ? I like participating with on line sites ... sometimes I sleep ... cause I just don't know... sometimes I go out in my yard ... and think now it is trying to kill me :>) I fall way to much ... the cat I foster has it out for me ... tries to trip me all the time ...
I have a love hate relationship with my car... 
and sometimes I feel guilty for feeling the way that I do ... just a out of control feeling ... thank you for this secession ...I feel better all ready
has been said...life is a journey and tomorrow is a mystery 
wow.... could I go with a lot of quotes... 
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I lead a very active life, so if I'm lonely I'm not aware that I am. With my career, daily boxing lessons, djembe drumming, love of live theater, studying and frequent traveling I don't have time to worry about if other people are around or not.
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Im actually getting better at it.
Not sure if thats bad or good. 
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Edited by
mckinseyh
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Fri 03/01/19 05:04 PM
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I live remotely and so it's very quiet of human noises. Living without all the distractions has brought me to a place of acceptance and contentment with who I am. And that sort of peace of Soul is really nice. With all of that is a yearning to find my partner to share my life and heart with. I take great comfort in knowing that, for me, it's far better to be by myself than with the wrong person. I suppose being alone can be both joyful and cruel, but I think that love can be that way also. Sort of two sides of the same coin. Unless, of course, one is with who they're suppose to be with.
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I thought I read an earlier post that you have a girlfriend. Oh, well. This is the first winter I've felt lonely since my husband passed 11 years ago. Not sure why but my solution was to join three dating sites and a fitness center a week ago. Do I really want to date? So far I'm just looking. Do I really want to become fit? Yes.
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The situation is very different depending on if you enjoy living alone. I do enjoy living alone but also enjoy when somebody stops by for a visit. Do I want a permanent house partner? NO, I like my peace, quiet, and privacy. At the same time, I would like more social contact in my life. I think I had the ideal a few year ago: she spent the weekends at my place and I visited her usually overnight on wednesday. The rest of the time we where alone in our own world. Eventually it ended as she wanted more; mostly she needed someone to share her house with her and help pay the expenses; that didn't work for me!
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That's a good question. I guess to be honest, now days, I just don't cope anymore. I try to block it out but never works for long. I have no. Family left. Every living relative I had is now dead. All the friends I had most my life have settled down, had kids and doing their own thing. We all drifted apart. I've list every single person that's ever held any importance in my life. I am recently divorced. I was married for 9 years. I just don't know what to do anymore. Im looking for a friend that I can be time with and try to. Build. A relationship with but it just seems impossible. Really feels like I'm just transparent. What do I do?
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sometimes in life things happen that can truly ruffle your feathers but dont let it consume you to the point where you change who you are you get upset, bored sad feeling throwed .etc.. or start thinking negatively your health and happiness is important don't allow anything or anyone to disturb it... .. live life to the fullest.... make your self busy... like go on sports ..
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Yea it goes away mate. I divorced 4 months ago. miserable for 2 months before cheering up. A bit cynical about things now, but that's passing too. you'll be fine.
I thought of antidepressants, but never did. Am fine now. Besides you're not exactly ugly m8. You'll get plenty of female attention. summer soon. |
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you wanna a real counseling answer or just some random BS?
you know the biggest population that faces issues of addiction and depression? men in their fifties and older for some reason, this age group seems to be more vulnerable to things like isolating behaviors, drinking, cutting themselves off from their communities, relationships and getting caught into negative feedback loops and rehashing over and over their past now, if you feel like this is happening? get out of your head get out into the world |
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now, if you feel like this is happening? get out of your head
get out into the world Good advice but how do you think we got this way? 
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hahahaa..fair enough
but in response I could say you have a choice of doing nothing new continue to make the same choices you made yesterday and the day before and the day before you already know where that got you so try one small do-able thing that is new 
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You need to get into a relationship with God! He is everywhere always and He hears your thoughts so just ask for forgiveness of all your sins and you want to be in a relationship with Him and your problems will start to go away!
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I was going to start a new topic. But, I get a lot of guys who say on their profile that they are looking to get married. When I read the profile, they are separated. What's up with that? Separation anxiety can make people feel a need to 'fill the void'. People that are going thru a divorce or separation are likely to suggest marriage to prevent that separation anxiety from lasting or returning. |
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