I want to date to find out if the Man is compatible for a exclusive relationship.

I may have already found him, not Sure yet.

That's awesome Toody, I hope it works out for you

Thanks River ! I have Men I already met in person here in my city. I do volunteer work also have activity partner.

Sex is not. a part of my Dating, Like some others. Breakups are less painful if that happens.

I don't. Just date Online. But I have had Dates on other sites while back.

The "date" is very misrepresented by expectations.
Lets face it, most people are using dating sites to find that 'one special someone' that fills all their needs while giving us something we previously didn't posses.
What is wrong with that?

In that 'quest' for "the one" we consider many people that 'seem' to fall within our desires for a mate.
When you go on a 'date' you are acting.
You are portraying what you think is expected just so you can spend time with the 'one'.
The main function remains the same. To figure out if 'that person' really is 'the one'.

If you are on your best behavior and they are on their best behavior during the date, neither of you are getting accurate natural information to determine if that person is 'the one'.

However, when you maintain your personal standard of life and act naturally, you gain insight about the other person that has value to the goal of finding 'the one'.

To spend time and resources to "date" according to formal establishments you are limited in valuable information that allows you to make the determination of whether that person is 'the one'.

Everything else is an effort to gain something else. Sex, a meal, an experience a good time.
It all changes the absolute reason why you are with that person in the first place.
A delusion.

Dating in a natural sense, is getting to know that person as they 'really are' to figure out if they are "the one".

The meet is nothing more than a meet.
You meet people all the time.
Dating allows you to get to know that person and how they interact with life.
If you are acting as you imagine you should because you are on a date, that person can't determine what they need to know to determine if you really are 'the one'.
You end up in a series of formal 'dates' that result in no connection.

I won't 'date' anyone.
I will experience life with someone and pay attention to how they react to life.
I am not focused on 'the date' as much as finding my someone special.
Not everyone is focused on this very thing.
Some want to 'date'.
Some just want sex.
Some just want validated.
People date for many different reasons.
But...If you think about the process that leads to a 'date', you are actually looking for that "ONE" 'special someone' that ends your search.
It really doesn't matter why you are dating, if you find 'that' someone special, the 'date' is merely a tool.

Think about it this way;
You meet someone that is a complete match to who you are looking for.
Once you find that person, will you be still looking for more dates?
OR...will you stop looking, stop dating in favor of 'the one'?

To figure out if that person is the one, the formal date is a poor choice and THAT results in unhappy unions.
Natural, unscripted encounters with someone gives you the vital information you need to determine if that person is "the one".
So...

No, I don't "date".
Natural, unscripted encounters with that potential match allows you to ...
Choose Wisely.

I want to date to find out if the Man is compatible for a exclusive relationship.

I may have already found him, not Sure yet.

hmmm I don't remember meeting you.

hmmm I don't remember meeting you.

john, this could be your lucky day then!
Merry Christmas

john, this could be your lucky day then!
Merry Christmas

No but I read Your Profile.

As an older person, what is your purpose in dating? What do you expect to gain from going on a date?

You have presented both sides of the question - the looking for "the one" and the other reasons for dating. Some of us have been through enough life and relationship failures we are no longer disillusioned with the idea of "the one". We are looking for a much simpler version of dating in just enjoying the company of someone in a social environment. I am much too old to waste my time hoping to find some special woman that I might consider a mate only to have it fall apart next month or next year and then start over again!!!

Tom wants to have one meet with a woman, then live together the next day.

Actually, that has happened a few times since my marriage ended.
Each woman had qualities I admired at the start but after spending 'normal' life with them, I found out they were lying about who they were.
No better test of honesty than time on target.

Seen that movie and sequels just gets old!