Does any one else get asked to go there or somewhere else. I'm new here and it kind of creeps me out because I don't even know these people.

don't go.

we all get asked. it's the dark side of the force. stay here in the light

As both dub and eric have said. Yup we all get asked. And there are multile reasons not to do it.

1. Mingle is free to browse and as long as there is back in forth communication messageing is free.
2. They are just trying to run a sczm on you.
3. Mingle has moderators and a world wide supportish group.

Always say you want to stay and email with them here in Mingle2. You will then find that they just disappear, because they're scammers, it's a good way to filter them all out.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

Plenty of scammers on snapchat, here and everywhere else. But you can't just assume everyone who asks you for another method of contact is a scammer. I find this site to be ok on my laptop, but wouldn't use it on my phone. Would rather use snapchat, whatsapp, or another user friendly mobile app.

I get that too. They don't even say hi. That is their first communication. Do you have snap chat whatap or kik. I tell them even if I do I'm not on there right now, I am on here and this is where I will talk to you. Most of them just quit messaging you.

sorry fritz but if the first message is let's leave the site then 99.9999 % probability it is.
going somewhere more usable after building reasonable trust is a totally different thing

I agree with this.

Well yes, I get these as well. First messages giving out snapchat names, or email addresses and asking you to contact them for "sexy times".

But I would think that these would be pretty darn obvious. The profiles are usually deactivated not long after.

I'm talking about people who ask for these things after at least several messages have been exhanged. Nothing worse than when a conversation is going well and then you're suddenly called a "creep" just for requesting another method of contact.

Oops haha uneven after several messages the level of trust isn't there. I don't believe all are creeps. But just as you have shown your conversation was going well then in an instant it changed.

Yes, but it's a difficult balance for any man. On one hand, we can let the conversation drag on until she loses interest, or we can show her that we're assertive enough to take it to the next level.

Every woman is different, so the appropriate timing varies.

If she loses interest here what makes you think she wouldn't elsewhere. Once you get past the formalities then the real conversation starts. It takes a while for me to see what he is all about. I watch. Does he stay and chat back and forth or does it take him 4 minutes to answer. There are a lot of variables you have to look for and it takes more than just a few messages.

Well when i'm chatting with a woman and she's taking forever to respond, I don't feel any great sense of urgency to respond back within 4 minutes. Waiting works both ways and if she's worth my time, she can afford to wait until i'm available to respond. My life doesn't center around someone i've just started chatting to.

yes it does go both ways,. So if you do not have the time to give a person your attention why start the conversation? Your life may not center around someone you just started chatting to but if you started the conversation she does deserve your attentiveness. If she doesn't then I think it is you who is not worth her time. If you need to do something while chatting let her at least know you may be slow to respond.

Just because I send someone a message, doesn't mean i'm going to sit at my laptop desk for several hours waiting for a response. Sometimes i'll leave a message knowing I won't be back for several hours. If she gets annoyed about it, then it tells me that she is clingy and impatient and not worth pursuing further.

It's not just a case of women needing strong men, men need strong women as well.

I am talking about when you message and she responds. Not wait around for hours. I send messages knowing I am not going to be around too but I let them know that. Respect is very important even on a message board and it has to go both ways. If I get a message and can't get to it until later I explain myself. But when you are sitting there and you have started a conversation and she has responded she deserves and you deserve attentiveness.

True, although it's not always easy to know what to say next. It's so easy for something to be misconstrued and seen as creepy, when that was never the intention at all.

Men have to think very carefully about the way they word things, because women are so quick to jump the gun and make assumptions about the slightest misunderstanding.

Not all women jump the gun. I ask what they mean so i dont misrepresent what it is they are saying. That's also where a good sense of humor would comes in.