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Just figure I ask I been on all types of sites through the years and through those years I found a few nice people but the rest down right nasty .
Here am looking for the right gal not asking for a Barbie doll just someone I can relate too talk and get to know . I don't smoke or drink am a home person once in a relationship I stay loyal and am very honest . I was raised that way was the only boy no brothers just sisters. But as I try to get to know these people they take a look at my photos say ewww disrespect me don't these people have any feelings ? Off course wintry not to let this bother me but come on its either their looking for free meals or they want to play head games some of them have something serious wrong to an app at men as we are the devil. These type ate on dating sites looking for a man am.like ok wth. Anyways am her like any body else not here to play head games or break any hearts just trying to make as effort to get to know someone someone possative not so negative. If by god their is anyone out their I sure like to find that person am 46 years old not getting any younger . I spoke to a few out There from this site again negative behavior or they complain well we live too far that's fine why not friends ? Well am not here for that well as I would say then.why are you here ? See my.point .Well.if any woman out There feels as I do.not me up no 20 year olds am.old enough to.be your father grandfather. |
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Glad to hear your point
I see it took more than 10 years to explain your point of view 
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aint life fun : )
Best wishes on your hunt |
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Most people in today's world (not just those seeking to date) are narcissistic and its something I have learned to expect.
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adjective: narcissistic having an excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one's physical appearance. "a narcissistic actress" synonyms: vain, self-loving, self-admiring, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, conceited, self-centered, self-regarding, egotistic, egotistical, egoistic; informalfull of oneself "she was never happy in the narcissistic life that her press agent and manager had crafted for her" relating to narcissism. noun
noun: narcissism excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one's physical appearance. synonyms: vanity, self-love, self-admiration, self-absorption, self-obsession, conceit, self-centeredness, self-regard, egotism, egoism "his emotional development was hindered by his mother's narcissism" antonyms: modesty Psychology extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one's own talents and a craving for admiration, as characterizing a personality type. Psychoanalysis self-centeredness arising from failure to distinguish the self from external objects, either in very young babies or as a feature of mental disorder. Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's idealised self image and attributes.
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Thu 12/06/18 03:06 AM
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Not to be rude, and not meaning to hurt or upset you, but what do you expect?
There's nothing positive and happy in your profile, nothing about who you are, what you like and what you looking for. Just warnings & threats... Do you really think those negative lines are going to attract nice, positive women? It repels! What it exudes is "I am negative, I am miserable, I've lost hope, I'm unhappy." It is good to bear in mind that what you attract is what you yourself are and thus exude into the outside world. People you meet and attract are a direct reflection of what lives inside you, of your current energy. Meaning that if you are negative, miserable, unhappy, have lost hope, that's EXACTLY what you'll attract. YOU may feel attracted to positive women, which is logical if you are looking for some light & happiness since you miss that inside of you. But such women will run to the hills to escape your energy. So if you want positive, YOU have to become positive. If you can't or won't you have no other option than to remain alone or go for a partner who's like you. . . . |
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Not to be rude, and not meaning to hurt or upset you, but what do you expect? There's nothing positive and happy in your profile, nothing about who you are, what you like and what you looking for. Just warnings & threats... Do you really think those negative lines are going to attract nice, positive women? It repels! What it exudes is "I am negative, I am miserable, I've lost hope, I'm unhappy." It is good to bear in mind that what you attract is what you yourself are and thus exude into the outside world. People you meet and attract are a direct reflection of what lives inside you, of your current energy. Meaning that if you are negative, miserable, unhappy, have lost hope, that's EXACTLY what you'll attract. YOU may feel attracted to positive women, which is logical if you are looking for some light & happiness since you miss that inside of you. But such women will run to the hills to escape your energy. So if you want positive, YOU have to become positive. If you can't or won't you have no other option than to remain alone or go for a partner who's like you. . . . Couldn't agree more! Well said Crystal 
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Not to be rude, and not meaning to hurt or upset you, but what do you expect? There's nothing positive and happy in your profile, nothing about who you are, what you like and what you looking for. Just warnings & threats... Do you really think those negative lines are going to attract nice, positive women? It repels! What it exudes is "I am negative, I am miserable, I've lost hope, I'm unhappy." It is good to bear in mind that what you attract is what you yourself are and thus exude into the outside world. People you meet and attract are a direct reflection of what lives inside you, of your current energy. Meaning that if you are negative, miserable, unhappy, have lost hope, that's EXACTLY what you'll attract. YOU may feel attracted to positive women, which is logical if you are looking for some light & happiness since you miss that inside of you. But such women will run to the hills to escape your energy. So if you want positive, YOU have to become positive. If you can't or won't you have no other option than to remain alone or go for a partner who's like you. . . . Couldn't agree more! Well said Crystal
Ditto! Very well said Crystal. I totally agree
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Edited by
Richie Rich
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Thu 12/06/18 06:18 AM
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Hi Mike! Well, you just got your answer from 4 women - you couldn't have gotten a more honest response - but probably not in the direction you were looking for, but least you have something to work with. Take some time and re work your profile and pictures. Changing one's attitude and outlook on life is a very big challenge, so big in fact most people don't attempt to try, even when it's desperately needed and I speak from experience. In the late 90s I had to do a whole personality make over - it took years, but I'm sooo much better for it - I love life and people now. Don't forget, this is a dating/making new friends site, so you'll have to let down some/most of those walls you have been building up over the years and become somewhat vulnerable, (remember, your selling yourself to other people) that's the only way women will want to get to know you. Good luck to you Mike.
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Hi Mike! Well, you just got your answer from 4 women - you couldn't have gotten a more honest response - but probably not in the direction you were looking for, but least you have something to work with. Take some time and re work your profile and pictures. Changing one's attitude and outlook on life is a very big challenge, so big in fact most people don't attempt to try, even when it's desperately needed and I speak from experience. In the late 90s I had to do a whole personality make over - it took years, but I'm sooo much better for it - I love life and people now. Don't forget, this is a dating/making new friends site, so you'll have to let down some/most of those walls you have been building up over the years and become somewhat vulnerable, (remember, your selling yourself to other people) that's the only way women will want to get to know you. Good luck to you Mike. That's really good advice Richie. @ Mike, I'm not trying to sound mean, but it's a little more than just your profile that puts off a negative vibe. It's your posts here in the forum as well. It sounds like you have built up resentments and almost a dislike for women and that comes across very loud. Maybe do a little soul searching, that might help you to turn things around to work better for you. Good luck to you
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Hi Mike! Well, you just got your answer from 4 women - you couldn't have gotten a more honest response - but probably not in the direction you were looking for, but least you have something to work with. Take some time and re work your profile and pictures. Changing one's attitude and outlook on life is a very big challenge, so big in fact most people don't attempt to try, even when it's desperately needed and I speak from experience. In the late 90s I had to do a whole personality make over - it took years, but I'm sooo much better for it - I love life and people now. Don't forget, this is a dating/making new friends site, so you'll have to let down some/most of those walls you have been building up over the years and become somewhat vulnerable, (remember, your selling yourself to other people) that's the only way women will want to get to know you. Good luck to you Mike. Yes, it always sounds harsh, not meant that way, but I know it can feel that way. And yes, evolving and personal growth takes time, but doesn't mean it also takes years to get results. In actual fact, that can go quite fast. (I know cause I give workshops/courses in this subject material and I SEE the change in people). What it does require is that the person is WILLING to get out of their comfort-zone. What can already help is to get involved in activities you enjoy and that make you happy. You don't even have to go outdoors for that per say. Having a hobby can already make you happier and begin to exude a different, more positive energy. That can be hiking, fishing, painting, cooking, a sport, dancing, singing, anything really that brings you joy. Change can be found in small things. Small steps in the end form a big one, and realizing that can help to make it all less daunting and discouraging. And positive results from small steps and small successes can already be enough to put a spark in someone's eyes.
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Edited by
Tom4Uhere
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Fri 12/07/18 01:35 AM
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Hi Mike! Well, you just got your answer from 4 women - you couldn't have gotten a more honest response - but probably not in the direction you were looking for, but least you have something to work with. Take some time and re work your profile and pictures. Changing one's attitude and outlook on life is a very big challenge, so big in fact most people don't attempt to try, even when it's desperately needed and I speak from experience. In the late 90s I had to do a whole personality make over - it took years, but I'm sooo much better for it - I love life and people now. Don't forget, this is a dating/making new friends site, so you'll have to let down some/most of those walls you have been building up over the years and become somewhat vulnerable, (remember, your selling yourself to other people) that's the only way women will want to get to know you. Good luck to you Mike. Yes, it always sounds harsh, not meant that way, but I know it can feel that way. And yes, evolving and personal growth takes time, but doesn't mean it also takes years to get results. In actual fact, that can go quite fast. (I know cause I give workshops/courses in this subject material and I SEE the change in people). What it does require is that the person is WILLING to get out of their comfort-zone. What can already help is to get involved in activities you enjoy and that make you happy. You don't even have to go outdoors for that per say. Having a hobby can already make you happier and begin to exude a different, more positive energy. That can be hiking, fishing, painting, cooking, a sport, dancing, singing, anything really that brings you joy. Change can be found in small things. Small steps in the end form a big one, and realizing that can help to make it all less daunting and discouraging. And positive results from small steps and small successes can already be enough to put a spark in someone's eyes.
Y'ah know, yer getting a lot of good advice in this post. You do exude negativity in your interactions in the forums and that personality trait is a turnoff for women. Only you know the circumstances of your experiences and those experiences made you who you are today. My advice is to take a deep honest look at yourself and see if any of these negative traits are accurate. Then assess whether those negative traits are who you want to be and who you want others to understand you. If they are not who you want to be, only you can change it. You have the power to take charge of your life. If what you are doing right now isn't working, time to make a change, right? |
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If what you are doing right now isn't working, time to make a change, right? <<<<<< Right on the money.
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fair play i see where you are coming from if some people have nothing nice to say then dont bother saying anything just move along .. sorry for your experiences im still learning how to use this site but im up for some good convo and good on you for expressing yourself it gsve me an insight to others mentality and not meaning from those that have responded here but from those that gave you the reason to start this post in the first place .. hope you happier days ahead
  smile chin up someone worth waiting for will come along and hopefully for your that will be soon
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