All joking aside, I've been plagued off and on
by a real life stalker, since early 2007.
Not fun.

For starters, I've never dated, had a relationship
with, boinked, or even had any type of mutual
social interaction with it.

Yet, for years, she had in her own mind,
created an alternate reality, where there was a
"we"... Despite the fact, that I was, for most of that
time, in live-in relationships with other women,
often thousands of miles away.

She was finally ex parte'd earlier this year,
for inpatient psychiatric care...


My question;

Am i cheating on the stalker, by dating anyone?

If you have another stalker, yes. However, I think the dating thing is okay...

I'm just here to apply for the new stalker position that had recently opened up

You know I'm just being a smartass
That stalker stuff is not fun and can be very scary

Maybe in her eyes, but no!

Have you formed an emotional attachment to your stalker? I imagine as much as it's not fun to be stalked, it would be strange as well as a relief once it stops.

I'm curious as to why you would ask?

Yes.
You are a bad BAD man.
Let's do lunch.

It hasn't been fun.
But, there is some feeling of reprieve.
At least for the time being.

From her perspective, maybe.
From your perspective, IDK, that's up to you to decide.

If you both have understood, communicated, and accepted expectations of behavior and you're actively hiding your behavior from them in order to maintain a manipulated illusion that the reciprocated and understood expectations of set boundaries are not violated, then yes.

That is understandable, it comes with any kind of loss... even the not so good losses.

It's all part of healing. Sometimes... and I speak from experience... we tell ourselves "thank god it's over" but ignore the part of us that needs to heal or be still for a while.

Follow your heart, be still for a bit, or date and take care of the thoughts and feelings that go along with that.

I know some men have a hard time with that... gotta be tough kind of thing. But we're all human and with that come feelings that need to be tended to.

I definitely understand how you feel. Been there. I was scared of physical harm to me or my children by my stalker.

I’m not sure if that was a concern for you. Allow yourself to feel the relief and don’t spend time thinking about her. It’s not cheating, the individual was mentally ill.

careful bro

that is how I had a schizo
track me down three differnt
times on three different dating sites
messaging me
asking me to come pick him up
from the psych ward
he wanted a ride




just sayin
be careful
there are some real whackos out there

Wouldn't you only be cheating if you actually were stalking somebody yourself?

Woman that Stalk usually have a relationship with the Man only in her own mind. A man cannot chest on a woman if he is not in any relationship with her.

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Women who have one date with a man, Sometimes thinks they are then a couple. Especially when they met Online.

I feel I have stalked a couple of men with text messages. That was only after we had many conversations that didn't go well. I wasn't really that Rude.

No woman is perfect.

oh RockGnome, that was kinda scary.

To answer your question, better not date anyone right now as she might just lose it.

Good luck

It's quite possible to suffer a bit of what is called "Stockholm Syndrome," from being plagued by a stalker for some time.

I think it may be the natural result of the stressful work of trying to figure out a set of "rules" to cope with and combat the stalker. The victim works so hard to find the delicate balance of actions to avoid danger from the perpetrator, they can suffer a sort of tunnel vision, and continue to try to follow the "rules" when they don't have to, or in aspects of their life that the "rules" were meant to defend from intrusion.