It's been said "you are only as old as you feel". I have no idea how old I feel since no one will touched me and tell me how old I feel.

Well I'm a little over 45, 69 actually. Life just seems to get better as I get older!

Toody, you have a GREAT photo. so many men who say they are 50 look more like 70 or 80.
I don't get it. A woman ages and has some wrinkles and no one wants her. Men go bald, sick,
uninteresting and yet some woman wants them.... even more so if they are rich. There's something wrong with the "system".

I never really felt a need to lie about my age or really, anything?
I have had an amazing life.
I have seen and done things that are truly mind boggling and never really needed to make things up?
Perhaps I'm just weird, wait, no, I AM WEIRD.
No doubt about that. Hahaha.

To the ladies dealing with it, all I can say is be careful.
If they lie about one thing, whatelse are they lying about?
To the men struggling with the mundane reality of themselves, take a closer look.
You probably have much more than you give yourself credit for.
Why lie?

Not true that a woman who is showing her age in some ways is not wanted. I've put on a little weight as I've got older and expect women to accept me as I am, just as I accept them as they are. An older woman who looks like a teenager would have no interest for me at all, I like people to be natural. A woman who wears lots of make-up or lipstick looks awful (to me). Each to their own!

I agree but the actual application and the intended self-justification may challenge your beliefs.
I have been building a relationship with a woman that has absolutely no comparison with the super-models you see on this site.
However, she is REAL and I have interactions with her 'face to face.

The ideal woman that I was "looking for" is not the 'real woman' that I encountered. She has "qualities" but is certainly not an exact match.

No matter your preferences, you need to understand that people are all different and one still needs to experience all available possibles if they are going to 'find' harmony.

Being shallow about who it is and how they are a potential mate will destroy any meaningful communication. It becomes basic survival.

Fortunately I am old enough to spot those who will interest me and avoid those who will not be interesting. Years of practice!

Having said that it's quite difficult (but not impossible) to find someone who lives within about 50 miles from me here in England as most seem to be from the USA and impossible for me to meet.

Thanks nature lady Every time I change my photo I get dozens of Views on Mingle2
I t proves many just look at photos, especially Online datesites.

Oftentimes, women do except unattractive men, if they are Kind and a gentleman.

Unfortunately, many Men are More visual than many Women..

I hate to break this to you but many women are just as visual as men. I've had women tell me I NEED to post a picture without my glasses on or a picture of me smiling. I usually ignore those messages once in a while I'll respond with something like "The only thing I NEED to do is post pictures that are in compliance with the sites TOS."
Many women also just look at photos.
I have a profile on another site that clearly states that if I get a message like "hi there" or "Hello" that requires little effort I won't put any effort into replying....yet I have gotten numerous messages like that. I also get messages asking where I live when it's right there on my profile. Most things that happen online aren't gender specific.

@smartazzjohn
Your response is interesting. However, even though that happens to you and probably other men, I do believe Men are much more visual than Women, when choosing a date or a relationship mate.

Come a little closer and I'll let you know

Oh my.

I believe over all men are more visual, however I think we are all visual creatures. Unless we are blind our eyes are the first of the senses we use. Especially when it comes to attraction towards another. If someone isn't appealing to our senses, visually at first, it won't cause that spark that makes us want to know more about that person.

Even more so online, the picture is the first thing we see. We can read the profile but chances are if what we see in the picture doesn't catch our eye it's less likely to happen. If someone looks smug, angry, depressed, or lifeless, we're not going to get that "oh I need to meet him/her" feeling so we move on to the next.

Edited in... The nice thing about the forums is that we can get to know someone's personality better through the threads. It may be that they just aren't photogenic... and selfies can be rather challenging. So someone who may not have been initially attractive because he/she wasn't smiling or looks smug... suddenly becomes more attractive.

I personally *hate* when guys want more pics of me..
"Yew got any mor pichers..??"

To *me*, all that is necessary is a face pic, and possibly a full length one...

Myself, I don't need to see half a dozen pictures of the guys "Hey..look at me *here*!!"....Here I am doing THIS!!"..."Woo hoo..check *this* out.."

If he wears glasses...why would a woman want to see a picture without the glases?
Since he will be wearing them 99% of the time, I don't see why they'd need that..

Smiling?
Maybe...
But some of us are just NOT photogenic, never have been (I was not smiling in my school pictures)...so, if a guy isn't smiling in his pictures, it doesn't bother me..

I am more interested in him, his wit, intelligence, and interests...

If he is nice looking, but has no profile whatsoever...I'm not going to message him..

If he is not much to look at, but his profile impresses/ interests me...then I'll give him a go...

@bluegrass
I sgree! Problem is many men don't read profiles. And on Forums they like to flirt and throw kisses to Women.

Well, I don't check out men's profiles so I can't offer an opinion regarding men's photos. I'm 67 (will be 68 on January 31st) and I set my search age parameters to 60 and above. I have to say that at least 1/3 of the women's photos look like a mid 40's to early 50's individual or the photo has been modified with Photoshop.

Some will post a 40 something photo and then when one views their profile (yes, I read profiles) they'll have another closer to their real age. I figure if she looks to good she probably isn't. At my age a true few extra pounds, a few wrinkles and silver hair can't be helped (either gender). I don't understand being dishonest because when a meeting takes place the facade disappears.

I'm sure that all those things, good and bad, that men are accused of by women and vice versa are all equally true for both genders. My experience of women is probably the same as the women's experience of men.

Having said that, I've never been asked how old I am or where I live, or anything else that is on my profile.

Clearly some photos are not genuine. You need to be an expert at Photoshop to make an edited picture look genuine. Most of the Photoshop pictures are obviously edited, it's easy to see and there's no point in doing it. As indianadave4 says, if you intend to meet someone the meeting could be embarrassing if you are not honest in your pictures.

One of the problems with reading women's profiles is many of their profiles follow the same outline. More or less if you read one you've read them all:

1. I love my family
2. I love to travel
3. I love to laugh
4. I love to go out for dinner
5. Etc

The above is not meant to be harsh but ladies tell us something we don't already know. Because so many profiles of women read as I wrote above men ignore reading profiles because they, generally, read the same.

Yes Toddygirl5 I did read your profile!

indianadave4...

I see guys ALL the time say
Long walks on the beach
(odd..considering the nearest beach to here is 400-500 miles away..LOL)

Often followed by "walking hand in hand in the moonlight"...Seriously, what guy has ever done that, that they would list it as one of their "Intersts"...?

"I like most everything."
(Really? You like Chinese opera, and Peruvia cuisine?)

"My kids are the most important thing to me.."
While I resepct that...where does that place the potential woman in your life....?
Second?
Third?

The WORST s "ask me anything.....I am an open book"..

Then, when you *do* just that...they get an attitude.."This ain't no da*n job interview.."
Yeah, baby, it kind of IS, since I don't know diddly squat about you, and you weren't considerate/ serious emnough to write even the briefest of stuff about yourself..