First time in my life I meet a gentleman online. I like him. I thought it was something special.
Few days after... you are too beautiful to date with. Wtf.........??
I can’t get it!

Maybe he has low self esteem.

It's in good form,
to compliment someone
when you dump them.


It often helps soften the blow.

Thank you

That's what I am thinking.
Its more common than you might think.

Yes, sure. Got it! Thank you

Yes, sure. Got it! Thank you

Maybe he thought you were fake profile.

When in high school and college there was a cast system to dating. The very attractive, the somewhat attractive, the average and those who were accused of being beat with the ugly stick. Guys and girls.

Depending on which group one fit into determined how popular they were. Sort of like the proverbial statistical bell curve. Those at the top could be very picky who they would date. Some of the somewhat attractive and average were in-crowd wannabe's and hesitated to date an average guy because the in-crowd might look down on it.

Add to this a high school girl seldom (if ever) dated a guy her age or younger.

As men age many still have some of the above mentality in the back of their mind. If they feel they are average looking, the woman is very attractive and the woman is older than to him there's a good chance he will pass on her. Why you ask? She'll probably turn him down or replace him when something better comes along. Whether true or not this is what is going through his mind.

As we move past 50 to 60 the differences begin to drop. I still find myself hesitant to approach a woman, my age, who has really kept herself in shape and is very attractive. I, also, find I have a hesitation to approach women older than myself, not because i want some "young chick" but that "women aren't interested in younger guys" mentality still seems to be stuck in my head.

Like I said, as I age that mentality is fading but it's not totally gone.

I accept the facts that women my age will not be Twiggy, have a few wrinkles and silver hair. Any man my age who rejects a woman with these physical characteristics is self deluded.

Just my two cents.

Well it's probably better than the other way around...hearing him say, "I'm too handsome to date you."

That's my thinking.

Anyway OP is gone.

i've been here a short time. met a nice WIDOWER who emailed normal things and when I checked the county assessor, etc., he is still married - just pretending to be what he is not. so i blocked him. met a very nice 70 year old, normal, wanted to pay for my new glasses. i declined. then he had to go overseas for business, asked me to write each morning. and one morning he phones and asks me to send him $500 right away. hmmmmm. blocked. not sure if i want to continue trying.

Maybe you dodged a bullet....Maybe he's an arse...Maybe.......