GROWN WOMEN STAND UP...LADIES and GIRLS PLEASE READ EVERY LINE!!!....... Girls want to control the man in their life. Grown Women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling. Girls check you for not calling them. Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't. Girls are afraid to be alone. Grown women revel in it using it as a time for personal growth. Girls ignore the good guys. Gro......wn women ignore the bad guys. Girls make you come home. Grown women make you want to come home. Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans. Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits. Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man. Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man. Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends). Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends. Girls think a guy crying is weak. Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue. Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so. Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'. Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it. Grown women know that was just one man. Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'. Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness. Girls will read this and get an attitude. Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends. ♥♥♥ :)

very nicely said

Thank you sometimes we all need to be reminded of the difference between being grown adults and being a child.

very true
we supposed to be more wisely now, understandable & appreciate quality with great self steem

Nice!

Excellent, GFT!

One can easily swap genders in that too with only a few minor changes.

Oddly, many of us want to feel like a girl or a boy again when we're in a
relationship, but we still need to think and approach the relationship from a mature point of view. It takes work, but it's worth the effort.

You are right. Dating even takes effort and remembering that we all may have had prior issues of some kind, it's how we choose to handle them as adults that makes the difference in our future relationship.

Yup, gotta agree with all of that.

Nicely put. and as action said, could also apply to differences between boys and men.

...I'm a little confused...so where do "women" come from?
At one point were they all "girls" so have pretty much done everything on your list? And the only thing they really learned is acting like a "girl" drives guys away or leads to unhappiness or just doesn't lead to success?
What specifically do "girls" realize that allow them to become "women?"
And what about all the guys in their wake? Everything's okay now because she's learned to be a "woman" and not a "girl?"

Is there a magic age where they switch from "girl" to "women?"
Is it possible that a....female? is there a neutral term that isn't loaded with "this label good! this label bad!" semantic game?...can sometimes act like a girl, sometimes a woman, vacillate depending on circumstances, mood, situation, stress, any number of things?

Or are you saying "women" and "girls" are born as completely separate personalities, that they are set in their ways, and a "woman" will never act like a "girl," and a "girl" can never act like a "woman?"
So are you just asking people to discriminate against one or the other? Or give one or the other special privileges?


Other than that, it's pretty bad virtue signalling.


What would you call mothers of boys?
Do they get special dispensation? "Okay, Johnny, it's time to learn how to potty, but I don't want to control you little man because I'm not a girl I'm a grown woman. So pee wherever you want, or don't, it's not me trying to control you."

Also, you aren't really saying "grown women" don't try to control the man in their life, only that they know he may not need it.
Which really isn't saying anything.


That kinda sucks. Maybe I was too busy to call, and a girl checking me for not calling them would help me align my priorities more appropriately.

If I'm too busy to call, and she's too busy to notice, it pretty much guarantees we'll never date.
So basically, if you (as a guy) have a busy fulfilling life, avoid dating "women," because they won't complement your life or offset any of your weaknesses, they just don't give that much of a crap about you, and are too busy to really think about you, so you'll always be chasing them down. And they're too busy to care.


But based on what you put in the OP, if they're "women" they've already personally grown to be better than "girls" too busy to notice that men don't call them.

To me this seems to be saying "girls are still vulnerable human beings, women have rationalized themselves into distracting themselves from ever becoming vulnerable and being able to bond with another person, they gratify themselves. They can only value what they do for themselves, they don't care if you don't call, they don't care if you're not there, they don't care if they're alone, nothing bothers them, they don't notice, so you will provide nothing for them, they will have no means of valuing you in their life unless you validate their independence from you and not needing you."


Back to where women come from, do they ignore the bad guys because they spent so long ignoring the good guys to learn not to, or had to learn to settle? But is that really "good" that they spent years ignoring all the "good" guys only to "finally" figure out not to?
Isn't that kinda like a serial killer murdering people for 30 years and then "finally" learning not to murder their latest victim?
Should that really be celebrated or lauded or given any kind of brownie points or a special privilege label?

Or did "grown women" always know to not ignore the good guys?
Then how are any of them ever going to read this?
Or are you saying there are so few "good guys" that there are just tons of "grown women" completely alone as adults that they sit on singles dating sites not knowing where to find those rare good guys?


How? They're too busy to realize the guy hasn't called or anything.
How do they even know he isn't there?
Or is part of her "busy" time setting up...whatever it is that makes him want to come home?
...She better be careful, because her enticing him to come home could easily be seen as not wanting to be alone, and that's close to "girl" behavior.


Then why would he "want to come home?"
"I'm busy all night, figure out where you can fit into my schedule," and, based on the previous thing, he's supposed to be all "yay! I really want to come home to that, where she may or may not be there, I have to make appointments to see her, and she's so busy she doesn't even realize if I show up or call or not!"


So girls are insecure, and grown women are vain?
Those are the only choices for females?


Both seem like games.
So all women just play games?


Like mommy?


So girls communicate directly, women rely on indirect communication?
Girls use their words to directly address their thoughts and feelings, women try to "show" something and the guy better pick up and understand it?

That's a tough decision. Would you prefer someone who sucks at communication, but is stable, or someone who is unstable but communication is easy and clear...hmmmmm.


And again, you don't really say that grown women don't make all men pay for it....only that they realize something, which girls may or may not realize, who knows.


So women are magically infallible in their constant analysis of indirect communication and the relationship?
All while being so busy they have no idea if the guy tried to get a hold of them or not?


What will people that have a pragmatic view of reality not looking to idealize themselves into a polarized identity that couldn't possibly exist in a sane person do?

ciretom is a people hater.

Ciretom is to a pretentious OP as
Malmsteen is to a guitar....

both are excellent shredders

OP, thank you for that. It helps some of us to realize there are still people of the opposite gender in life we could be comfortable with.

I can't message you so I will ask here: May I have permission to copy and post elsewhere your message? Should I use your Mingle2 handle or post it anonymously?

I think you can use it however you want. She copied it from somewhere without crediting the source.

Well put hun...

feel free to use it. I don't mind.

Yes women dating

Boys wish a grown woman wanted their company.
Men wish a girl wanted their company.

I've seen Malmsteem in concert, and he's more than a shredder....he's an a-hole.

Phenomenal guitarist though.

Back on track...
Ciretom is worse than some pets with a piece of paper. Taunt them with it for awhile, and watch them shred it worse than a machine could ever do. Saves money.

I just feel bad for his keyboard. Poor overworked thing.