Is it really that hard to start a conversation? I mean, I don't get it why guys send nudges, wink at you or kick you in the butt instead of sending you a line or two.

Probably better then getting a message asking you to text them or email them so they can spam you or get your personal info for bad purposes.

Because they are lazy most guys want to do little as possible to get a woman in the sack they will put as little effort in as they can and see who bites the ones worth our time will be the ones who make the effort That will also show there looking for more than just a quick hit and run

it's a delicate balance of leaving just enough of your cognitive functions working so that you can make it to the mini fridge and properly assemble mah damn sammich.

Make ya own dang sammich and get me some jello while ya up!


See do we really want them to talk? Some ok maybe but really just look pretty and rub me with lotion.

God created men that way, in order to enjoy us, blood must leave the head
you ladies also know that, that is why you call us D.. head
don't try to change the game rules... enjoy us & remember, more stupid.. more hot

Some guys prefer to be joey jerkoffs about it.

Oh, there's always this block button for scammers or you can just totally ignore them. Your call.

I totally agree, June.
Lazy is the right term.

No.
But it is difficult to start a conversation where you are guaranteed the person you want to converse with will respond when you want them to, how you want them to, and it leads to fulfilling your ultimate ulterior motives and the ulterior motives are shared by both people.

Might as well be a cop and ask "is it really that difficult for potential suspects to just answer our questions?"



Depends on the guy, or person, as lots of people do it.
Main reasons IMO are:
1. They don't want to take responsibility. If they "nudge" you and you respond with something hurtful, or rejectful, or nothing at all, well, they can blame the nudge. It's not something they "said."
And online, that's really all anyone has...what they "said."

2. A lot of people are just online seeking social validation.
If they just "nudge" you and you come back and are all attracted, well then they must be hot, worth pursuing. They only had to "nudge" you and you started chasing them for information.
That's validating.
2.5 If they nudge, and you don't come back, well they didn't put a lot of their personality into what they "said," just a nudge, so you aren't really rejecting them, you don't know enough to reject "them."

3. They've "nudged" 3,223 other people in the last 10 minutes.
That's a lot quicker than sending out email after email after email.

4. They want immediate gratification. They've just signed on, and they want to talk now.
Maybe they're scared if they sit and type an email, you'll sign off in that time, or you'll find someone else. Or maybe you aren't online at all at the moment so why waste the time writing email not even knowing if you're online or going to come back ever.
Better to just "nudge" and see how long it takes you to respond.

5. Social dominance games much like the social validation games.
If you chase them after they nudge you, they feel they have "power" or "position" over you. Dissonance in social position helps engender a deeper demand for social reciprocity on your part.
In a way forcing you to commit to future interaction.

WORD. Just talk and enjoy reading other posts. The regulars are pretty cool. I'm gonna try and post more to join this funky bunch.

Down in the desert

Well, I aint pretty, and my legs are thin, but I could rub lotion on... maybe..?

For observation purposes. here is a typical response from a woman that men lose interest with fast. It just stinks with the cliche of,"us men just want to get the woman in the sack story". By the time you are 40 plus this gets so boring. When you write so many nice messages just to be ignored, just how much enthusiasm can a man have left. It does not feel such a big waste of time if you begin with a small introduction then if she likes you and replies then messages will become longer as there looks like a glimmer of worth while interest.

Stu

No use throwing out an old line. Probably wont get any bites anyways. *shrugs*

If you do they might break the line and get away anyways.

I agree, kicking a gal in the a*s is not a good ice breaker. Mingle should have a kick in the b*l*s symbol too.. so the gals can just .. give it back to them

It's no harder for men than for women.I've never had a wink or a nudge from a guy but I've got pages of nudges from women And no I don't want any winks or nudges from men thank you.