If you met a person in the neighbourhood where you live ( or somewhere else ) , both of you are into each other but one of the two is attached to someone else, would it be right to proceed or should you hold the boat off?
This is a hypothetical discussion / hypothetical question.

Ya might want to hold the boat off, hypothetically...

It would depend on if the person that is attached has integrity or not.


If they have integrity, they will stop and end anything they have going with someone before they start something new with someone else.


If they don't have integrity, well they should still end what they have going with anyone before starting a new fling.

What if the guy who is attached cheats on his girlfriend with this other girl because his girlfriend doesn’t give him enough attention and is lacking in efforts when it comes to her relationship?
Can the other girl go for this guy without having to feel guilty in this hypothetical situation.
The other girl is willing to give him much more attention,... Can they proceed if they keep it a secret from the guy’s current girlfriend who is coming short in her relationship?

Integrity still applies...

If he wants something that he is not getting and she will not change, he needs to break it off before starting anything. And if you are the one looking at him thinking it might be okay to start something, well what will stop him from cheating on you at some point???


As Stu says, "Ya might want to hold the boat off, hypothetically... "

I agree one hundred percent with what has already been said.
I will add
Remind yourself that you matter.
If you are already starting off not being important to someone you want to form a relationship with, you're giving yourself a place if second best.
Or something less than that.
Don't set that precedent.

If the guy has high regards on self-worth, dignity and respect, he will not cheat. In the end, it's not the girl he's cheating on, it's himself. My two cents.

hypothetically speaking

Its a recipe for disaster and future heartbreak.

think about it, the woman he is involved with has no idea that he is sharing his heart with someone else.

And if history is any indication for future behaviour he will do it to the next person he is "into".

A man with no morals and integrity is a man one cannot trust.

hypothetically speaking you should hypothetically kick his arse to the curb and find someone that doesnt play with people's emotions for their own selfish reasons.

Straight forward. That guy has to make a choice. Either you, or his girlfriend. Having matters hanging in the balance only leads to false hopes, and eventually disaster.

I've been in this situation both while happily married and while single.
In these circumstances my integrity made me break off contact before either of us did something that we would regret.

I have no desire to wreck someone's home. It doesn't matter if I like her spouse/BF or not.
If I'm single, she must also be single.
If I'm taken, I must decide to end my relationship or remain faithful.

These "out of balance" relationships cause problems in many ways.
One must also remember that if that person can cheat on someone they claim to love, they are likely to cheat on you and it speaks volumes of their personality.

Cheaters always put down their wife/girlfriend. If she is really that bad he will stop seeing her. The cheater only wants you for a side piece. Ask yourself if you want to be used. You should find your own man.

Never make someone a priority, that only thinks of you as an option.

Get rid of the competition. frame her for a crime or spread some rumors about STD's.. just get rid of her.. and then take the guy.

Usually the side woman starts trying to come up with way to make his gf find out. She will definitely be leaving earings and underwear behind. Then the guy will spend the next several months kissing his gf's ***. She dumps him but he still won't commit to the side chick.

Hmmm.. well, then she needs to start leaving guys underwear there. Those zebra bikini ones should do the trick.

All I can say is if one thinks that a man/woman that cheats on the one they are with, with them and that they will not do it to them. Then they are living in a fantasy world..

And to be honest when it happens it is Karma at it's best..

I'm a true believer if you don't want to be with the one your with then cut the ties and let both leave with their head held up high. Both should be adult enough to understand when things are just not working between them..

Honestly either put in the effort to fix what is wrong or walk away..

If you have ever been the one that was cheated on and had your face drug through the mud all cause someone else was hanging on to what they thought was a good catch they have another thing coming... they will be the next one to go when someone else comes along and pays that person just a little more attention then the one that caused the break up to happen..

Or just doing it behind her back and showing the guy how much more attention and excitement he will get with you than with that boring weeping willow he is with.

A marriage can even fall after 40 years. My grandfather was married to my grandmother for 40 years, she was boring and never put effort into her marriage. He dumped her, went for a younger woman and 10 years later, they are happy and married and he never cheated on his second wife. He even helps raise her children.
It’s about showing that you have better assets than that weeping willow he fell for and then he will choose you over her anytime :)
But your plan sounds good also ^_^

Some cheaters cheat because their girlfriend doesn’t put any effort into her relationship once she is attached. In that case I think the other girl has the right to take this man away from the initial girlfriend and show him that she is a much better girlfriend than the initial girlfriend could ever be. And the initial girlfriend sought all this herself in this hypothetical situation. She should have made more time for her boyfriend instead of being selfish. Now the other girl will show him a good time and that’s her full right. She shouldn’t care for the feelings of the initial girlfriend.

I was kidding around a bit.

You know you can't do that. Women and men who do get labeled.. and you don't want that label.. do you?... it follows you

Its not worth it.

Time for the list

He’s just not that into you if he is not asking you out
He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you
He’s just not that into you, if he’s not dating you
He’s just not that into you, if he is not having sex with you
He’s just not that into you if he is having sex with someone else
He’s just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he’s drunk
He’s just not that into you if he doesn’t want to marry you
He’s just not that into you if he is breaking up with you
He’s just not that into you if he has disappeared on you


He’s just not that into you if he is married (and other insane reasons)
He’s just not that into you if he’s a selfish Jerk, bully or real big freak


He’s Just Not That Into You - Greg Behrendt.



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