Safety is important for everyone. What do you think can be done or situations that would make you feel safe meeting someone from here?

I received a recent txt (first text) from someone that said come on over to her hotel and let's have sex. Many things went through my mind how it could all go wrong. We did not meet because I offended her with all my questions.

I'm a guy so I can only imagine how women feel.
For a first meeting I think meeting in a public place is best like a coffee house or bar.
What situations would make you feel safe

Public setting, definitely.

I would never go to a private place to meet someone off the internet for the first time.

A few years ago I'd of said go for it, but the way things are now you'd probably be mugged or worse!

Here in Toronto, we have Tim Hortons on almost every corner lol
so I always go to have coffee at Timmies on a first meet.

First meet is just that.. meeting in person for the first time.
Always meet in public places, such as the mall or coffee houses.

Yeah, I learned that lesson quick, having been assaulted years ago for trusting someone enough to go back to 'their place' when I didnt really know them. Foolish mistake, but one not likely to be repeated.

That's a shame, but I was talking as a guy, but then it's always been a risk!
But to be fair the op isn't saying it's a "normal " dating let's be friends kinda meet is it?

think STD ?
its one life to live... be selective

My preference is a bar/grill for afternoon happy hour. That gives you the option of bailing out after happy hour if it isn't going well or turning it into dinner if it is. Always a public place where there will be other people around but preferably a business where any disturbance will be dealt with.

My first meetings were here in my hometown. We talked on phone often before any meet. I picked the places. They all had to travel many Miles . All meets worked out well had great times.

Public nice Cafe. Or their nice Hotel Works.

I hired a stunt double.

First meeting should be public and stds are real ppl

I know. My stunt double got the clap. Serves him right.

They say if your hand itches your getting something . If your crotch is itching you've already got it.

If the internet had been around back in the 80's when I was young and dumb, I would most likely be dead by now. But now, if some strange woman on the internet offers me sex if I will come to her motel to get it, NO, it ain't happening.

About 12 years or so ago a man on POF of around 50'ish was offered sex if he would come to the motel where she was. He must have been hard up for sex because he went. When he stepped through the door to her room he was met with a ball bat to the back of his head. It killed him. They took everything he had. Car and all.

It took two days before the cops found the man dead in the room. The ones that did it, long gone. As far as I know, they were never caught.

Charles, that is a Sad awful story!


A man here went to meet a woman in a motel, when he got there a man robbed him but let him go. Story was on the radio, they said. the woman who set it up had her boyfriend to rob the man.

That should have been your first clue , someone inviting you over to a hotel for sex.

No self respecting woman no matter how horny she is would invite a stranger over for sex.

Good for you for not going.

My first instinct would have been as soon as she ask me to come over I would have blocked her, I wouldn't care if I offended her or not.

I probably would called a cop friend of mine and tell him what this woman asked and see if she is on the vice squad radar.

Only once since Ive been on line where a woman asked me to meet her at her place and I declined, blocked her from my phone and online.

Like others on here has wisely said.. PUBLIC, PUBLIC and PUBLIC, if they dont want to meet in public, suspect something nefarious .

I received a recent txt (first text) from someone that said come on over to her hotel and let's have sex. Many things went through my mind how it could all go wrong
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Yes, I agree. Public meetings, restaurants are good. Lot of people. Tell others where you'll be. One lady I dated told her whole church, and they all showed up in groups. That is a bit over done though. But first dates should not be too long.

It's a little expensive but if you have a Realdoll made in the likeness of the person's profile photo, then you can feel safe bringing someone with you to the meet and it's also someone familiar to the person you're meeting, you just may have to do like their voice and yours so the Realdoll can join in the conversation.
I mean who would attack someone who turned up outside your house with a Realdoll made in your likeness, holding its dead hand out the window to wave it at you when they arrive?

All my first. Dates were Long. But then they Traveled. Miles here.

One can make it a cup of. Coffee if. You live Close by.