I think setving is putting your life on the line in the course of yoyr enlistment.
However, spouses and family members sacrifice a lot in dealing with tge absence of their loved one.
In being the support and caregiver, nurse etc in staying strong with each other in dealing with ptsd, amputees and other disability which occurs as a direct result of their loved one's time serving.
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Very good point!!!

Until 1982, military pensions were NOT dividable in a divorce.
They got nada. No matter how many years married.
That has changed since 1982. They can now get up to 50% even
if married one day.

To answer your premise, before 1982 the government did not
think the spouse had any worthy contribution and their pensions
were awarded ONLY to the military server.

Now, it is deemed unfair.
Government says so.

Personally, I think they do not serve.
They are just using words, not bullets.

When a person is in the military and they have a spouse, do you feel the spouse is serving too?

This statement was made by a woman, who's. Husband was in the military, she said ,"she serves the country too!"

Sorry, but what kind of stupid comment is that?
My son in law was sent to Afghanistan for 9 months. you think that is easy on his wife, my daughter? Apart from being separated so long, also the worry and stress. It's not like they're being sent to Ibiza, you know.

Furthermore, as a wife, you are uprooted too each time your partner is sent to another base. This has tremendous impact on the career you yourself can build, or not. And the same for any children involved.
If hubby is gone a lot, you have to do most everything on your own, like raising kids, taking care of every freaking responsibility that normal couples get to share. Like having a husband beside you each night when some creep breaks into your home for instance. Or someone who takes care of car maintenance.
Army wives have to do all that crap on their own. So yes, in that sense they serve as well. They too make quite the sacrifice for their country -and in my girl's case it wasn't even her country as she wasn't American-, because of their husband's choice of work.

A bit more respect would go a long way.
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