I just have an a queation ..i dumped someone who have been manipulative and owing me money for long ..he smokes and i got tired of the smell that i could not even kiss him or so because the breath sucks...as we speak he still insist on the relationship and its as if he didnt accept that we broke up.we have a child together but i am so done with him yet we are binded by the child but i am moving on yet he cang get it.the reason why i dumped him oveall is bevausw he cang change the manners.I tried suggesting thag he goes for rehab and we must maybe have a third person to advise us like a psychologist...yet he didnt find any so far and i just dont know why is he rejcting the break up.

People have their own reasons for not excepting things. Plus people handle breakups in different ways. In opinion you should ask him why.

Sounds like questions that should be discussed with that Man.

Not asking strangers online!

Yes a child binds u but u r different people & need to live ur lives.
I'll assume u have spoken to him severally yet he hasn't accepted breaking up with u hence ur desire to reach out to total strangers but u need to help him understand why u can't be with him.
He needs answers to obvious questions: Did he have those habits when the relationship started, before the child? Why did u fall out of love etc.
Give him time, he'll come around.

Uh, did he smoke when you met him?
And he was good enough to have a child with?
Help will only help if you address YOUR own
issues before his.

Just observing the facts you presented from the view of an outsider here.

The reason why I think he is "rejecting the breakup" is pretty obvious.

He has ALWAYS refused to take responsibility for ANY of his choices. And so far, you and everyone else, have LET HIM get away with refusing to be responsible. If anything, your idea of waiting for a third person, a counselor, to advise you what to do, plays into his avoidance even more.

If things are to change, YOU, and you alone, have to act decisively, and COMPLETELY to make the changes happen. You will have to be 100% in your resolve to never be intimate with him again, for any reason at all, for one thing. And you will have to completely rebuild your life, and the life of your child, so that he plays only the tiniest part in it, as needed for the CHILD'S sake.

Chances are, he will NEVER accept the end of things. He's not the type. His entire life so far, tells him that just hanging around will get him what he wants.

So what this really is, is a challenge for you: do you REALLY want to move on from him? If so, it's ALL on you, and you alone, to make that happen. He will never help.