Thanks Tom surely you did something to the person who falls in love with you? Not talking about witchcraft or anything but maybe a smile or a gaze started something just like everything has to end too. I agree there is no consistent pattern for anyone sometimes we even go through dislike before liking , but to have a basis of how we are in a relationship don’t you think it’s good or easier to have like a relationship map so two people both reach where they would want to go? Simple good feelings for someone can’t be defined as love already. I know I’m complicated lol

I know right

I am so sure you will be lucky again Jan but not as lucky as the person who will find your beautiful heart ok now gimme some of that luck

Oh yeah, luck truely plays a big role too since one has to be at the right place at right time to meet the person under the right circumstances and also say the right things to that right person in the right way to elicit the right response and be able to continue on the right path to the right "together forever".

THE PERFECT LOVE LIFE (How l wish l call my Mathematics teacher to help with that elusive perfect formular for it).

Great discussion; l have read the various comments and learnt a lot. Thank you all for sharing your very interesting thoughts and ideas.
Nice topic @ scepticsoulmate

I wish us all a great weekend and plenty of luck as we continue to seek our individual unique answers to this very simple but extremely complex basic human need.

LOL, A relationship map!

Tell me, Which two relationships did you have that were the same?
A map establishes a pattern that stays the same for the most part.
One map does not fit any location except the one it is created to represent. Try to navigate Los Angeles, California with a map of Athens Greece. How's that working out for ya?

Please don't misunderstand me, I'm not belittling you or being rude, I'm just pointing out simple reasoning. If you need a relationship map to feel contentment in your quest to find love, go for it.

Personally, I don't try to assign my personal feelings and emotional states to anything or anyone. They're mine. They always have been and always will be.

I know I am able to feel love.
I also know that others are able to feel love.
I'm looking for that one woman that feels love for me as much as I feel love for her.
I have to pay attention to every possible one that meets my desires.
I also have to understand that everyone is different and most do not qualify for that two-way love connection.
Its not my fault and it certainly isn't theirs if we don't align.

There are conditions I look for in a woman based on my own desires.
In a sense, they are my guide.
But its not her that fulfills those conditions, it is I that accepts them.

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Well kissing is pretty awesome....if done correctly.

I don’t think I’ve gone through these stages.

I knew I was doing something wrong!

Thanks Evans I appreciate your thoughts and your understanding of what I was trying to ask. Here’s wishing you luck too hey if you get a hold of your math teacher share the formula ok

Thanks Tom I do understand what you mean about our own feelings and that not two relationships are the same . I don’t feel insulted in any way. I am not afraid to ask if I don’t understand matters and I won’t pretend to know something I don’t really have the knowledge of so no worries. It’s just that when we are in a relationship isn’t it ideal for both parties to have the same or if not a very close kind of attachment/love for each other? If so how can we gauge that both are on the same page or looking ahead towards the same goal? I know how I feel but if I don’t have a clue or parameter as to what stage my relationship is I think it is doomed to end? I hope I’m making sense and if you think you’ve answered this already please just ignore me ok thanks Tom and blessings to you.

Yes kissing would go through several stages too and developments before we can call it awesome right? If no, then a good kisser is always a good kisser regardless of the partner?what do you think ?

You are not alone lol

Not so much skip, but the following order was totally different.
When we met we had an instant deep connection and relationship feelings.
We knew each other on a deep level, as if we'd known one another forever. But in a more earthly sense we still had to get to know each other. Find out how the other does things, reacts to things and so on.
Kind of like starting where you normally want to end up, then having to work your way back.

This is what I’m curious about . Thanks for sharing crystal so it is possible that some stages we just pass but ultimately have to go through and it’s just the order of events happening that differs for every couple. I always thought a deep connection with someone is basically a strong factor that can make a relationship work but somehow there’s more hard work to be done all with the rest of time

Test of time

Communication.
The best way to understand your partner, lover, date, friend, anyone is with honest communication on a constant basis.
We may 'think' we can read their minds but right or wrong, there is no way to know for sure unless we talk.
Being 'tuned' to their signals also helps but again, we can never know for sure unless we ask...and they reply honestly.

Friendship first, spend lots of time together doing things you both enjoy!

Key to knowing if the man is right for a committed relationship!

Imo

Everyone is unique in their own way that they relate to the world, and it takes time to adapt to any new relationship (not necessarily a romantic one), just like it does a new sport. I imagine a shortcut could be to be diversified in communication skills, have a rough concept of the big picture, and be very thorough in learning about the specific nature of new people from the start. Basically being a generalist, free.

Doesn’t get any clearer than that

Friendship between a man and a woman is really possible if there’s no intense physical attraction. Don’t you think so? if a man commits to being a friend then he can surely commit to something else?