He probably thought you liked him.
He was showing you kindness.

I'm not one to give much power to what others think.
If I choose a woman and she chooses me, to hell with everyone else.
I don't live my life for them and I don't care what they think.

Now, if you were married or in a relationship with someone else, it might matter what others think. People love to stir the pot when they have a spoon.

I understand what you are saying!

I did like him , but not too date, had it not been at my work place I wouldn't mind having coffee or lunch . He knows that.
But I Flirt at work and want to be free there to move around.
Many single men, divorced and widowers.

Speaking on the perspective of a man (not every man), when a woman flirts with me, I think she is interested in me. That is, until I get to know her nature.
If she flirts with everyone, then I consider her loose or free-spirited. But if she flirts with me, repeatedly, I think she wants to get personal with me. Its the nature of flirting.

Ok guess I m the bad one! I flit in general and do not want to date all the men I Flirt with. That is part of my personality.

I get in trouble makes some men, dislike me.

You should always be yourself, Nobody can do it quite like you, Nobody.

Thanks that's how I feel, but maybe being a Flirt has cost me to miss out on the right man.

Even though I ve had good dates .

Depends on where I am and the energies I pick up from others. Normally I am uber friendly. If Im feeling uneasy, I will sit/stand back and observe for a spell. If theres live music, to hell with waiting on someone to ask me to dance. I have zero qualms dancing by myself.

I've never made the first move. I'm not a flirt but I'm not shy either. I don't approach a woman with the ulterior motive of getting with her, never have never will. I figure if she's interested enough she'll approach me and it has been working out just fine for me.

I'm kinda the same way too. I've never met a stranger in my life. I'm outgoing and friendly. But I've learned that for the most part, it's best to let the woman approach me. I was taught growing up that a man is supposed to go after the woman. Pursue her. And I did that for many years.

By the time I hit my mid 20's, I stopped. I finally realized that things had changed so much that I needed to change. With some women, flirting with them can get you into trouble. With some, just speaking to them can get you into trouble. So, to avoid those that seem to think they are all that and a bag of chips and every man wants them, I just let the interested come to me.

Your last paragraph describes me as well. Nothing to add.

Jeez you guys have it easy!!! I don't know whether its a cultural thing or whether it's my personality but I have hardly ever had a woman approach me or make the first move. I can actually count the number of times that has happened. I wouldn't say I'm a flirt, but if I see someone interested in me and I find myself interested,I approach. If though I'm interested and I don't sense even a tinkling of it from the lady,I keep to myself

Just a shout out to your screenname.
When I was living in Missouri I loved KMOV channel 4.
Thanx for the reminder!
http://www.kmov.com/
Kudos!
There was also a community radio station KDHX 88.1 FM that played a serious amount of blues. Blursday w/John McHenry and Denny Clancy! + Blues In The Night w/Art Dwyer!
http://kdhx.org/

Thank you Tom. Won't say that I know the channel or the radio station but there must be some coincidence there as I'm a sucker for blues

Thank you Tom. Won't say that I know the channel or the radio station but there must be some coincidence there as I'm a sucker for blues

Kool,
You might like this thread for some blues
http://mingle2.com/topic/550149

Oh wow, we're way
Sorry Toody

What turned me and made me start being this way, One "lady", made me feel like I was being a creep just because I spoke to her. This woman even called my employer and complained because I spoke to her. If it hadn't been for the guy I worked for knowing me very well, well enough to know that I was just being friendly, she could have got me fired. He knew me well enough to dig a little bit first.

He went and talked to her boss. She was standing just a few feet away and heard almost every word passed between me and that woman. She told him that she had told her that she was overreacting. She turned out to be one of these that believed every man that spoke to her was trying to get into her pants.

Before her, there was one that I walked up to at a party of all places. All of us were single people in our mid to late 20's. There were 3 other guys with me. We were all standing around talking and just having a good time. A few days later I found out that according to her, I may as well have just come out and plainly asked her to "fu".


After the last two, that was it for me. I made up my mind that they would come to me. And that's the way it's been ever since. It didn't take me long to figure out that I got more dates that way. I figured out that the women that would speak up and say something, anything to let me know they were interested, was better dates. Because they really wanted my attention. They really wanted to be there.


They were attracted to me. And I didn't have to say anything. I never expect a woman to throw herself at me. But, a woman who is really interested in you will give you little "Q's" or "hints" to let you know they are. If you sit back and watch for the hints, you're better off.


Many women will say that they want the man to pursue them. What they don't say is they want the man that they are interested in to pursue them. That's where the hint from the woman to man comes in. No hint of interest, move on.

One last thing. It seems that as far as the romance dept goes, many women want men to do it all. Do all the pursuing while they sit back and do nothing. Many sit back, show little to no interest and let the men chase them. When a guy comes along that doesn't, that waits for a hint, it throws them off.

I've come across some that don't seem to know what to think about that. The next thing you know, they are interested because they haven't seen anything like that before. They want to know more about this guy that doesn't flirt like crazy or throw pickup lines at them.

Well said, Charles

I had to give training on sexual harassment as a manager compliance task. Legally, you can ask once and if she turns you down, it is harassment if you ask again. Which works both ways, any gender combination.

I was an outgoing friendly personality. A display character. I had a knack for lightening the mood with laughter. I never really directed my efforts to a single person. It was amazing how many women approached me, wanting to get to know me. I make people feel good about themselves.

When I stopped, it essentially stopped the women from approaching me. I blend into the woodwork. I still make others feel good about themselves but now I wait till they seek me out. I'm no longer advertising my abilities.

I'm now looking for someone that doesn't have a need for me to entertain them. I want a woman that is already in control of her contentment and happiness.

Now, when I walk into a party, a bar, a library, the grocery store, I own the place. I'm sure of myself and decisive in my stance. I am looking for the woman that notices that and still wants to get to know me, the real me. Not my entertainment qualities, which will be revealed in person at a later time. And, some women are attracted to such a personality.
Sadly tho, most of those women are sporting wedding rings.

While I was married I was a conservative married man, I didn't flirt.
I think I still project the conservative married man look. I'm safe to talk to.
Its the only explanation I can come up with as to why I attract the attention of married women?
Since I refuse to jeopardize someone else's marriage, I go home alone.

Many women still! Want the man to make the First move!

Not that they feel they are all that, but prefer not to look desperate for love connection.

I m not that way, I make a move, even if I get rejections.

After all rejections are a part of life. Even though No one likes it!

No thanks I met someone!!!(toodygirl5...4 days ago)

....I'm outging and a bit of a Flirt...??

have a nice saturday!...LOL!