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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? We can not, can not expect to fall in love on the account of the person we love. Relationship are build among the two person involve. We need to build our word before we go out there looking for the one, soulmate, the so call love of my life. IMHO, looking for someone to pave my way does not work. Also a person that makes me doubt I myself do not want them in my life. TRUST, trust that we will walk together, not carrying anyone's weight. |
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For survey purposes, I will say that I would want to be a source of financial security and support for them. I only have one life that I can do things like that in and I do not want to waste my life. I would want her to be loving though. Personally, loyalty is not that important to me. It is integrity that matters and doing un to others as they would have you do un to them. Anything that starts has to end sometime, whether it be two weeks after getting to know each other or on the deathbed. In fact I really could care less about loyalty to me as long as she was respectful to me; it would be nice if she said something like “you can’t help me anymore, so goodbye.” WOW! You sound like you do not have very much if any at all, respect for yourself. If you don't have a person's loyalty, you have nothing. You will be used, abused and thrown away like yesterdays trash. You can't have a woman's love if you don't have her respect. You can't have a woman's respect if you don't have her loyalty.And, integrity, If a person can't be loyal to you, they have no integrity. I don't mean to be disrespectful to you. But, if you really believe what you posted, you're a doormat. With that way of thinking, many women will treat you that way. And many of the ones who won't treat you that way, will walk away from you and leave you for someone else. Because they don't respect you. Again, not trying to be an azzhole to you. Just being honest. What is the mind other than an abstract pattern created by neurons. What is the body other than other than an action executed by the DNA of the human race? Yes that is exactly how I feel. Maybe I am a doormat, but I have purpose. I don’t get to decide what purpose is because otherwise it would not be purpose. I was made to be loved though, everyone needs love even the crust of the dust. Thanks for the thoughts Charles. I know this is off topic. So, I'll say this and be done. I partly agree with you, I partly don't. You do have a purpose on this earth. We all do. I know at times I've wondered what that purpose is. But this I do know. No one was put on this earth to be trampled under the foot of another. No matter the gender. So to me, as far as that purpose goes, you are in charge of it. You are the one that says who does what in your life. I haven't had very good luck with women in my life. I will admit that. Partly because I just never met the right one. Some tried to put me under there thumb. They wanted to wear the pants and be the boss. I'll even admit that over the years I let one or two get away with it. To a point. In other words, sometimes a man has to give over if he wants to keep the peace and harmony in his home. But on the other hand, you can't let someone run over you. If you let it keep going, they lose respect for you. And once the respect is gone, so is the love. You sound like a gentle soul. There is nothing wrong with that. But at the same time, you have to demand respect. If someone refuses to respect you, you have to respect yourself. If you respect yourself, the one that refuses to respect you may walk away and leave you. But that's ok. Because if that one is out of the way, someone else will see that light of self-respect shining out of you. And if they have that same kind of respect, light attracts light. They will see that and be attracted to you. I'm 55. I started "officially" dating when I was 16. I had my first "real" woman when I was 14. Even with all that I've been through and having my first at 14, I still don't know everything about women. But I do know this, Most women prefer a man that respects himself enough not to let her run over him. |
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We all have our dreams of how we would like our lives to be ..very few realize those dreams..Life has a way of throwing curve balls ..just remember to duck... 
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? |
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depend on the nature of man :)
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? With the way the great majority of women are now, Why would a man want to take care of a woman? Especially financially? Many are doing it by themselves. You can too. In other words, Go get a job and then pursue your dreams. When you have finished whatever it is you wish to pursue, then start looking for a man. And when you start looking for one, look for one for the right reasons. Look for one that you can love, that loves you, unconditionally. Never go at it with the idea of, "I love you "if" you take care of me. Or "if" anything. You both should be, "I love you, PERIOD. Because shyt is gonna happen. That's just life. If the real love isn't there, you will never make it. So, forget about all that other stuff. Take care of yourself. Learn to support "you". And always remember, Never ask another to give you something that you can't give back. Or give yourself. In other words, Many women now will ask a man to support her in all kinds of ways. But many are not willing to give that same support back to him. |
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A couple of basic thoughts on this.
One, it's a mistake to "expect" anything. When you "expect" things, you close your eyes to what you are being offered. You learn little or nothing about alternatives. This is why many people who "expect" things, so often find that they don't really appreciate or enjoy feeling grateful when they get them. Another, is that there is a dark side to this particular kind of goal, which most of the people who pursue it, don't realize until it's far too late. That is, that in order to have someone "service" you in this kind of way, you have to think that your relationship is based on buying and selling things to and from each other. Not on mutual love or respect. That often carries with it, the danger that the person on the receiving end of all the largess and support, will come to think of the person providing for them, either as a fool, or as a sort of jailer, since they will be entirely dependent on them at all times. |
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Culture is very pivotal.
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What about equal rights Women and Men If a man can support a woman, and the women claims equal rights on everything then nothing wrong with that I’m able to be sugar man if some woman could support me, and fulfill all of my desires!! 
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? What about the man? You seem to be only concerned with yoir needs... thats why I say its where you come from. In your land maybe, this is all men are good for??? |
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Yes why not if he loves her and she is loyal and honest and she also love him its possible
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Edited by
yana39roy
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Sun 02/25/18 12:50 AM
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? What about the man? You seem to be only concerned with yoir needs... thats why I say its where you come from. In your land maybe, this is all men are good for??? Hey.... Thank you for taking the time out to point out your prejudices on this topic. But I think , the culture from where you hail is a bit judgemental and directly relates any possible aspect (especially negative) to a person without thinking twice like an uneducated being. Or even better; maybe all the males in your country are good for the same. But believe me one's thinking can be contradictory at times. The question posted here is a topic on which you are to post your views not judgements on the person who posts it. |
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A couple of basic thoughts on this. One, it's a mistake to "expect" anything. When you "expect" things, you close your eyes to what you are being offered. You learn little or nothing about alternatives. This is why many people who "expect" things, so often find that they don't really appreciate or enjoy feeling grateful when they get them. Another, is that there is a dark side to this particular kind of goal, which most of the people who pursue it, don't realize until it's far too late. That is, that in order to have someone "service" you in this kind of way, you have to think that your relationship is based on buying and selling things to and from each other. Not on mutual love or respect. That often carries with it, the danger that the person on the receiving end of all the largess and support, will come to think of the person providing for them, either as a fool, or as a sort of jailer, since they will be entirely dependent on them at all times. Tut tut I would like to point out again. It's true love which I am indicating towards. And not only love .... just take up any relationship.... Are they not give and take? But yeah when two persons want to have a genuine relationship both have to be into the exchange |
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? That is suppose depends on individualistic opinions. |
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We all have our dreams of how we would like our lives to be ..very few realize those dreams..Life has a way of throwing curve balls ..just remember to duck...
Hihihihi That's true mate. As in my case .... I prefer to take it the way it comes. You cannot prevent life from happening so instead of ducking just keep a net to catch those balls and inspect it. 
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What about equal rights Women and Men If a man can support a woman, and the women claims equal rights on everything then nothing wrong with that I’m able to be sugar man if some woman could support me, and fulfill all of my desires!! Please make me understand where does equal rights of men and women come into the brackets of true love and financial support ? |
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? I like to think any loving couple will support each other emotionally. I think everyone hopes that a loving partner would be eager to help them make their dreams come true, especially if they are financially able. Just be mindful that the other partner would be hoping for the same level of devotion too. If you meet this paragon of a man, I hope you take the time to consider his emotional support and what financial sacrifices you would be willing to make to see his dreams come true as well. If you are as willing as he is, then you may really have something. 
Every relationship is on a give and take basis and if it's not then you call that as a " one sided " But if true love comes into the picture various aspects are covered. Elaborating it a bit more; you care for the other person even more than yourself; you wonder whether your partner is into any inconvinience and try to find out some way so as to reduce it, You get pleasure even when you watch them go to sleep, Even when you are tired at the end of the day you wait for them to come home so that the both of you can sleep together. |
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? interesting...up to now, my experience has been that love has nothing at all to do with my expectations...it happened regardless of whether i wanted it or did not want it or blessed it or cursed it or swore it would never happen again ...and it happened with someone penniless and with someone wealthy and someone who matched a made up list and with someone who satisfied very little of my list...hahaha...the cheeky thing...love seemed to care not one bit about my expectations... my nickel Hihihi Well all i can say to you Sir is that Hope you find the one you dreamt for as dreams do keep us driving even though they don't get fulfilled |
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Edited by
yana39roy
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Can a girl expect to fall in love with a man (ps: not below 36) who will support her emotionally as well as financially and let her pursue her dreams.... or is it pure foolishness to expect something like this ? With the way the great majority of women are now, Why would a man want to take care of a woman? Especially financially? Many are doing it by themselves. You can too. In other words, Go get a job and then pursue your dreams. When you have finished whatever it is you wish to pursue, then start looking for a man. And when you start looking for one, look for one for the right reasons. Look for one that you can love, that loves you, unconditionally. Never go at it with the idea of, "I love you "if" you take care of me. Or "if" anything. You both should be, "I love you, PERIOD. Because shyt is gonna happen. That's just life. If the real love isn't there, you will never make it. So, forget about all that other stuff. Take care of yourself. Learn to support "you". And always remember, Never ask another to give you something that you can't give back. Or give yourself. In other words, Many women now will ask a man to support her in all kinds of ways. But many are not willing to give that same support back to him. I really feel sympathy for you that you haven't crossed paths with a woman who would have made you feel protective and possessive towards her. And all the more because of the lack of reciprocation. |
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Why would anyone want to take care of anyone? Love. Real love, that is. I could see myself doing it IF I had financial security already and I found someone who was well matched with me, and I knew the person was not lazy and was passionate about their dream, especially if they were struggling to work and pursue the dream simultaneously If I loved them, I could easily say, "Hey, dont worry about the money, devote your energies to your dream." For many, that is a pipe dream. A pipe dream I would love to find in my reality sock. I raised a family on one income. I worked my body to death (literally) to support them. I lived like that for years thinking of nothing in return. That is, until I actually needed something in return. Then I learned that all the dedication and commitment means nothing if there is no dedication and commitment returned. Especially when you need it the most (like recovering from a brush with death). I supported her and she wanted for nothing. I needed her and she dropped the ball. I was gullible. Its my own fault. I was deluded by my own concept of fairness. I now know that I chose poorly. I don't think it was your fault. It was just the wrong person you had in your life. Yes people are mean. And that's the reason why majority of the world today is getting the genuine feelings they need from other person by paying for it. But something which they don't understand is that the genuineness and loyalty cannot be bought ke forced. It has to be from both sides. |
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