I first met this gal on a site like this but it was my year book aka meetme now this is a true story it can get bad so be prepared.
After talking to this woman for a while I did not know her from Adam and eve all I knew was she was bipolar manic depression she was having a rough time being married and had abusive husband who wanted sex all the time.
He even wanted it while he had his 2 children in.that same room .
Now I decided to take action get this woman into a safe place away from him. Well 9 years past and in those 9 years she had cheated 3 times and caught flirting on social networking sites .
First cheat was she went back to her husband that didn't last long she came back the secon was a black man down in Maryland that never worked and the third back at her abusive husband.
She became very abusive caused me mentally and verbally abuse she was caught talking to her husband by me on the 26 Dec when I question her she said what if I am and her why she said I made up my mind and am.going this was all done behind my back .
So some say she used me for 9 years she kept egging me on after she done this on facebook told all her friends she wanted to stay with her ******* husband same man who abused her 9 years ago .
We took her provided shelter bed food cloths and help I got her on disability state medication and amongst other things .this man convince her to move out so she did as I said behind my back she hurt me bad I can't eat right I lost 5 lbs in one week .what kind of woman do this to a man and a woman to have sex with one jump on another same night?
I went to the court house I just filled the restraining orders against her waiting to drop the off this week .
I also stoped her EBT card back at the state office and reported her to social security .
And told the Dr s in town she moved back to middle town ct.
So as u can see not only am the victim am hurt and shocked .
I just can't understand why women do this they wonder why good men hard to find .

Eh. I'll bite.

I don't think you are really a victim.

I mean:

You met a woman on a dating site who tells you she is bipolar manic depressive and tells you that she's married and tells you her husband is abusive. Possibly without any real proof except her word from her biased perspective.


Really? What safe space?
A battered woman's shelter that has security so even if the abusive husband finds her he can't hurt her?
Did you take her to a mental hospital? With security preventing the husband to come in, as well as doctors that can help with "bipolar manic depression?"

OP doesn't really mention where this "safe place" was. But based on the entire thing it seems more like OP took advantage of a situation for personal benefit. A white knight with expectations.


Then over the course of a 9 year relationship she behaved exactly how she behaved before she met OP and as she represented herself to OP when meeting.

I mean:

So in the relationship she was bipolar manic depressive.
She was having a rough time being married.
When she started self medicating motivated by being bipolar manic depressive and screwing around and slinging back and forth between exes OP started doing things like filling out restraining orders, stopping her EBT card, reporting her to social security, and who knows what else, but from her perspective she could, say, go online and start telling people she's being "abused" by her mean "husband" who cuts off her EBT, and she's bipolar, and having a rough time.


Not sure what "this" is being referred to.
Most people ultimately act consistently.
At most it just takes a little time to figure out what is their consistent behavior.

Most people do what is ultimately being done here.
One person using another/others for the sake of their own emotional and mental self medication. Using others as a tool for their ego to establish patterns and routines in life that offer a consistent normalized state.
A form of using real world examples (people) to establish baselines for the nonconscious dialectic in determining what is the most "normal" acceptable way to fulfill what they want.


So:

I don't see you as a victim.
IMO the story in the OP is more along the lines of someone that's always wanted a pet finding a dog tied up in a strangers back yard whining and barking and snarling, so steals the dog by enticing it with bacon, and then when it starts whining and barking and snarling starts to tie it up in the backyard, and wonders why the dog wouldn't act like a loving puppy since they fed it and rescued it from the mean person that tied it up in the back yard, and feels like a victim when the dog goes back to its original owner/friend/pack leader whatever.

"Victim" is not the right word.

Other than that:

You do realize people can see all your old posts where you have talked about this before?

Humm so you have been with this woman that is bi-polar has lots of issues running back to the ex or whom ever... for 9 years??

Yet you are on here looking for a relationship within that time

And it is all her fault that things are so messed up?????..

You took her in knowing her background should have taken her to a halfway house for abused women instead..

But it sounds like she is on a destruction path and you followed her along that path...

Sorry but your not a victim in this case... seems you are to blame for letting her take advantage of you for 9 years! And due to your past post you was looking for someone as well..

Seems it is time to step up to the plate and make a choice to take your life back without her in it...

And maybe figure out what you want in a relationship before you start a new one....

Wow... it sucks to be you

Similar to your post from 2014 and earlier.

Your not a victim tho youre playing the victim role well.

A one year old's cracked out mom's boyfriend carving initials in the baby's skull thus his being placed in foster care in Indianapolis for his own good... THATS a victim.

Reminds me of the guy who kept beating his head against a wall because it hurt when he stopped.

hmmm...reminds of someone grabbing and holding onto a pole...and then yelling for help because the POLE won't let go of him...

.. hey it's not funny the pole won't let go of me.. seriously..lol

Try using some lube.

take this post with you when you go for your refund on the creative writing course you so miserably failed.

tl/dr

too long did not read

Gotcha, me neither, cba

Lol you should read this one good for the Sociology Classes....

I don't believe you are a victim ... but it s*cks that they did this on and off to you ... but you new them from the get go and how they could be ... emotionally ... you took a chance did not work out ... thinking being kind to someone it would work ... which does not always help someone like that... which is very mental and has so many issues to deal with ... you should never think you can fix anyone ... if I have learned 1 thing... in my old age... that is it ...