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thank u all
i needed some feedback
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Sometimes they want us back after a long period of time. Doesn't mean they love us. At times it's a question of manly pride. Thinking or knowing they can have us back at a drop of a hat. I'm the kind, when I'm done, I'm done. There's never ever going back. My ex's didn't understand that and kept trying the same way your ex is. It's not mean letting him know that you're done. If it's irritating you, it's not healthy. Just one more reason to cut the tie for good. Set your boundries. If he can't live with them...cut the contact. I've had to do this. It's not easy when we've loved someone, but it's time to let you go. He knows he's missed out on a good thing. Let him live with that. You don't have to.
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Sometimes they want us back after a long period of time. Doesn't mean they love us. At times it's a question of manly pride. Thinking or knowing they can have us back at a drop of a hat. I'm the kind, when I'm done, I'm done. There's never ever going back. My ex's didn't understand that and kept trying the same way your ex is. It's not mean letting him know that you're done. If it's irritating you, it's not healthy. Just one more reason to cut the tie for good. Set your boundries. If he can't live with them...cut the contact. I've had to do this. It's not easy when we've loved someone, but it's time to let you go. He knows he's missed out on a good thing. Let him live with that. You don't have to. great advice...thank u
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Well said.
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Lots of red flags...be careful.
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just gotta tell him how you feel. tell him you will always love him, but that you are not in love with him anymore, and that you do not wish to pursue things again. maybe you could be friends.
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just gotta tell him how you feel. tell him you will always love him, but that you are not in love with him anymore, and that you do not wish to pursue things again. maybe you could be friends. it would be nice...but friends isnt possible. |
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IF you are avoiding contact so you don't have to argue, OK. If you are avoiding contact, because you don't know what you want, OK. Problem with not handling the problem openly, YOU will never get totally over him. I think you need to find the strength to tell him; "IT IS OVER, LEAVE ME ALONE." Yep! 
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not with my ex either, i understand. we had 8 years together, now we have been apart for a little over 10 months. he has finally excepted that i dont want him anymore. he's remarried now, and was still calling me... i told the girl, don't marry him, he'll cheat on you like he did me with you, but she didnt believe me. if he's still calling me for hook ups... i must not be the only one.
good luck with what happens... |
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thank u andrea
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ehhh--repeat of the ex--whhhyyyyyyyyy---i'd soak 'em with water from my LP5000 water gun-----maybe they'd go away--
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Also remember something. It takes Psychologically and emotionally about 2 or more years to recover from a loss. That being a loved one or lover, regardless. Everyone has their own pace. Apparently he's not done "healing".
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ehhh--repeat of the ex--whhhyyyyyyyyy---i'd soak 'em with water from my LP5000 water gun-----maybe they'd go away--
 cai borrow your water gun shadow
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true blanca...and i also think its the time of year that isnt helping.
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**gives jamie a water gun--a zp6400--that really blast all the intruders-----big time--**
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**gives jamie a water gun--a zp6400--that really blast all the intruders-----big time--**
thanks shadow...i finally found the answer!!! |
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I completely agree with what you said....The past is the past, so let it live there....I've heard of broken relationships getting rebuilt, but its never worked for me....just move on....As I like to say, NEXT!
Confrontation is that last thing you need. As said previously, send him a note or email thanking him for the flowers. Be sure to let him know it is over and has been for a long time. You really don't need to reopen the old wounds. You know in your heart if it could work out or not. Also to repeat...he is an ex for a reason. Be strong! M |
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thanks bluesky
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Edited by
Unknow
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Sat 12/01/07 12:33 PM
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I felt compelled to reply to this topic.
My ex, left the state for a year after I walked out. He did not call our son, no note, etc during that time. Ex returns and begins offering me things that at the time I could not afford for myself. He would do this in front of my son. "I will buy you any car you want if you will come back." "I will make sure you get your Masters Degree for free because you would still be considered a 'disabled veterans' wife'." Et al. Et al. After what hell I went through.. no way would I EVER go back. I cannot be manipulated... 
Like others have said, he is an ex for a reason. Ugh~ sorry..had to vent for a second...
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Eeeeek, the repeat of the ex....????
No Thanks.. 
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