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We humans r social nd family oriented. Everyone builds the legacy nd estates of their own. People's success too always measured in the name of net worth of personalities.
A person who doesn't want to raise his networth nd power of monies in assets nd estates might be a saint nd not interested in worldlg matters. A mother or father earns fame nd money not just for themselves for the legacy to carry on. Its egoistic personality to establish power nd such earner would like to carry forward his legacy through future generations. If he doesn't want then he will not be interested in kids marriage or any such arrangemenrs nor he or she would be interested in building such estates or legacies. If such a saint getting into another saint really difficult nd also just to desire happiness through association. Or it might be a situation who is admiring this personality failing to getting into this personality and just accepting it as there is no other choice if deeply in love. Either way, a family celebrates their happiness at every milestone nd most of these r associated with family kids nd thieir achievements. Under such set up people liviving will be devoid of all such happinesss. This they would realise now nd then nd will repent also in future. So there is no next level for them. |
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Edited by
peggy122
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Sun 11/12/17 04:43 AM
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Many people , including myself have been conditioned to believe that the ultimate goal of a relationship is either marriage, and/or children or at least moving in together. For those who dont want marriage , kids, or even to share a home, is there a next level to the relationship? Do you think people can be perceived as having a committed relationship, if none of the above conditions exist ,but they love and support each other emotionally , physically etc? To me the ultimate goal isn't kids or marriage, but happiness. Wanting to share experiences together. Nourish, nurture, love, share, and support so you grow and develop as individuals. To appreciate the other, and be grateful every day that they are in your life, because it is a choice, you do not own your partner. Not even when you've put a wedding band on their finger. Making that choice every day to love, cherish, honour the other and to be grateful and happy with the presence. You don't need kids for that, nor marriage, not even living together. You may wish to have those things, yes. But they should be the icing on the cake, not the goal. Those things should come from sheer desire and love that you already share. To be honest I feel many cannot understand this until they've reached a certain age, cos when younger you still have so many ego needs. Im agreeing with you Crystal but rather than happiness, I will use the term mutual fulfilment , which I suspect many people ultimately seek in their relationship. The challenge with that premise is that everyone has their own perception of what fulfillment looks and feels like based on their life experiences and needs. And thats perhaps where the vision of kids, marriage , sharing a living space , etc come into play . For some people that is what fulfilment or happiness looks like to THEM, not necessarily for ego driven motives. Also , if we are talking about commitment , some people think of one's level of investment. For those who are contented with a mate"s investment of time , companionship and passion, the trappings of shared assets are non consequential but for those who seek a more holistic investment, more might be required. In other words, cherishing and loving each other fulfil some important needs, but neglect other fundamental needs depending on the person. It always comes down to the couple in question doesnt it? .... No right or wrong... just whatever feels right and fulfilling for the couple For most needing marriage and kids etc. IS from the ego. Security, status, meeting demands of society, not feeling complete without it, and so on. That IS ego. It'd be different if 2 people love each other the way I described, then say "I would really love to have a child with you, raise another human being with you!" For most it's more like: You don't want children? Next! It's a demand, a deal-breaker. That's entirely different from wanting a child with someone from a place of loving the partner and having a desire to co-create. Not saying there's anything wrong with it, most ppl (still) are/live that way. But it's still ego-based fulfillment. Im sure many people are that way Crystal . Im not sure if they are in the majority though . I have no way of knowing |
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Everyone has their mildstones, but maybe couples who dont marry, have kids or share a space create their own version of mildstones? Thanks for your contribution Manseekingwomen :)
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We humans r social nd family oriented. Everyone builds the legacy nd estates of their own. People's success too always measured in the name of net worth of personalities. A person who doesn't want to raise his networth nd power of monies in assets nd estates might be a saint nd not interested in worldlg matters. A mother or father earns fame nd money not just for themselves for the legacy to carry on. Its egoistic personality to establish power nd such earner would like to carry forward his legacy through future generations. If he doesn't want then he will not be interested in kids marriage or any such arrangemenrs nor he or she would be interested in building such estates or legacies. If such a saint getting into another saint really difficult nd also just to desire happiness through association. Or it might be a situation who is admiring this personality failing to getting into this personality and just accepting it as there is no other choice if deeply in love. Either way, a family celebrates their happiness at every milestone nd most of these r associated with family kids nd thieir achievements. Under such set up people liviving will be devoid of all such happinesss. This they would realise now nd then nd will repent also in future. So there is no next level for them. Everyone has their mildstones, but maybe couples who dont marry, have kids or share a space create their own version of mildstones? Thanks for your contribution Manseekingwomen :) |
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Many people , including myself have been conditioned to believe that the ultimate goal of a relationship is either marriage, and/or children or at least moving in together.For those who dont want marriage , kids, or even to share a home, is there a next level to the relationship?Do you think people can be perceived as having a committed relationship, if none of the above conditions exist ,but they love and support each other emotionally , physically etc? nope. the whole point is to get married and have children. anything else is just friends Some will agree with you on that SDSCF . My question to you is this. after you have already had the mariiage, kids or shared living space with someone else, and it fails, does that mean that their future relationship choices only include friendships or lovers? No other options? what are you aking? |
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.. I once saw this bedroom where the bed was built into an aquarium with fish and things swimming about, it was awesome, I want one.. 
Aquaticly peaceful surroundings would be cool. Heck it's not every day you get to see fish potty in their own habitat right above your head. Yes it is gorgeous Peggy, but a bit   
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real commitment is after all those wonderful
years spent together you clip each others toenails because neither one you can reach that far anymore.. |
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Many people , including myself have been conditioned to believe that the ultimate goal of a relationship is either marriage, and/or children or at least moving in together.For those who dont want marriage , kids, or even to share a home, is there a next level to the relationship?Do you think people can be perceived as having a committed relationship, if none of the above conditions exist ,but they love and support each other emotionally , physically etc? nope. the whole point is to get married and have children. anything else is just friends Some will agree with you on that SDSCF . My question to you is this. after you have already had the mariiage, kids or shared living space with someone else, and it fails, does that mean that their future relationship choices only include friendships or lovers? No other options? what are you aking? You were saying the whole point of a relationship is marriage and children Im asking you this... If a person had children in a marriage that failed, are you saying that they can no longer have a serious relationship with someine else if they dont wish to remarry of have any more kids? |
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.. I once saw this bedroom where the bed was built into an aquarium with fish and things swimming about, it was awesome, I want one..
Aquaticly peaceful surroundings would be cool. Heck it's not every day you get to see fish potty in their own habitat right above your head. Yes it is gorgeous Peggy, but a bit
This is mingle Integrity . Which thread actually remains on topic? 
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real commitment is after all those wonderful years spent together you clip each others toenails because neither one you can reach that far anymore.. Wow Argo ! How sweet and gross all at the same time ...  z
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